My hand painted model planes were given as toys to children again

[u/MissionTroll404]

I have told my mom to not do this before but she does not listen anyway. I am thinking of throwing everything to trash instead of them being gradually destroyed to pieces. I can not even care anymore. These things take hours to put together and paint then get manhandled anyway.

[u/rrrik-thffu]

My mom was pissed off at me for not letting my small cousin play with my 4000$ saxophone.

• Just to clarify, I was 16 and paid for it fully by myself working shitty summer jobs.

[u/CanaDoug420 → u/rrrik-thffu]

Yup, my mom did the same with my $2.7K drum set. When I told my 7 year old nephew they weren’t a toy she called me ridiculous and compared me to Will Farrell in step brothers.

I packed it all up so nobody got to play with them until I moved out.

[u/jonnymuffin → u/CanaDoug420]

I would be outraged because if anything you'd be the John C. Reilly in step brothers

[u/Falcon_Alpha_Delta → u/jonnymuffin]

She probably caught him dragging his nuts across the drum set

[u/donniesuave → u/CanaDoug420]

I’d just start loaning out all of her favourite personal items to whomever I could find.

“Oh you paid good money for that and you wanted to keep it as safe and in as good of a condition as possible? Sorry, my nephew threw it on the ground and ripped it apart. Why are you mad? It’s not that important! Stop overreacting. Get it now?”

[u/Numerical-Wordsmith → u/rrrik-thffu]

My mom gave away my Nintendo (complete with the original gun for Duck Hunt) to a family with little kids at her church. I was at university when this happened. She only mentioned it later when I asked where it was 😡. This was part of a pattern of her being generous with my old things, so I eventually moved everything important out, and told her that she should stop calling the furniture etc. “mine” and just go ahead and sell or give away what was left.

[u/Ahyao17 → u/Numerical-Wordsmith]

The irony is that she will not give these furniture away (because it is logistically difficult to do) and will keep saying they are yours.

[u/Numerical-Wordsmith → u/Ahyao17]

She tried that. "When do you want *your bedroom set*...". I responded by asking her when I could get "My" wooden wardrobe back (which she "lent" to a family member without asking me, who then left it at a friend's place when he moved out). She then had to admit that she had given it to someone who had given it away, and I basically said "This is exact why these things aren't actually mine and never were. I'm not taking your stuff off your hands now just so that you can redecorate. You should sell or donate it."

[u/tandabat → u/Numerical-Wordsmith]

I came home from college to find that my mother had taken my She-Ra castle and figures, my My Little Pony (the 90s one, not the new ones) play sets and half the ponies and given them to a child I didn’t even know. Didn’t ask, didn’t even mention. I just walked into my room and the shelf where they were displayed was empty. When I asked she said the family was going through a rough time and needed help. I think that’s the moment I knew I would never be as important to her as her next new project.

[u/Fallcious → u/tandabat]

My ex-wife had a huge Sylvannian Family collection. She told me someone had given it to her mum when she was little and it was her favourite thing growing up.

She started a new job in her town and at some point her love of Sylvannian family toys came up and her manager told her an awful story of her large collection being given away by her mum. My ex decided to keep the source of her collection to herself.

[u/Moo_Kau_Too → u/tandabat]

every now and then i like to point out how much the stuff i didnt want to be given away is worth now to the olds.

[u/nipslippinjizzsippin → u/rrrik-thffu]

Man parents of redditors seem wild. If i told my parents any of my collectable were not for for play they would immediately take anything away from the kids... and thats assuming they didnt ask first. ITs so wild to me how many boundaries parents out there are ignoring. I give my parents a bit of slack for things but if i ever tell them no. thats the answer and it will be respected.

[u/ohsoaegyo → u/nipslippinjizzsippin]

What's it like to be loved by your parents lmao

[u/nipslippinjizzsippin → u/ohsoaegyo]

I dunno, normal I guess. I've seen better and worse parents than my own

[u/PhoenixPoop → u/nipslippinjizzsippin]

Eh, I thought my parents parenting the way parents are supposed to parent was normal for a long time, but the more people I meet, the more I realize we're not the norm.

To be fair, I hang out with damaged people, cause I too, am damaged. So my anecdotal evidence may be skewed..

[u/andicandi22 → u/nipslippinjizzsippin]

So many parents have children so they can control something. It’s not about having a family, they’re just pawns in a game and the parent has to be winning at all times or the child is punished in whatever way the parent wants to punish them.

[u/dumplinglifesaver]

Can you lock them up or pack them up until you are able to move out?

[u/Nissalai → u/dumplinglifesaver]

Models, mother or the children?

[u/jp83780 → u/Nissalai]

All three? Separately of course

[u/VolcanicBear → u/jp83780]

No, the mother should definitely be locked in with the children.

[u/Stormagedd0nDarkLord → u/VolcanicBear]

Leave the mother. Take the cannoli (and the models).

[u/ThwipNSinsBinThwipN → u/[deleted]]

[u/jednatt → u/[deleted]]

I don't understand the lack of respect. Like literally I can't understand it. What is the thought process? This isn't a Disney Castle Lego set (which I had and my mom never insisted I let my nieces play with). It's freaking WW2 model planes. Why would kids even want to play with them without the mom specifically looting her sons bedroom on her own?

[u/talormanda → u/jednatt]

us with narcissistic mothers understand quite well how this happens

[u/IAmBrahmus → u/talormanda]

You should be grateful you have a roof over your head, let alone model airplanes.

/s obviously

[u/Talidel → u/IAmBrahmus]

"you are too old to be playing with these toys anyway"

[u/throwaway_uow → u/Talidel]

This hurt to read

[u/Talidel → u/throwaway_uow]

Hurt to hear it too. It was a lot of Lego sets that were on display. I was moving and she'd decided she was helping, by doing something she'd been explicitly told not to do.

[u/Carb0nFire → u/jednatt]

Because she wants her "child" stop playing with "toys", move out, get a job and get married. She doesn't respect her child or their life choices, and is passive aggressively trying to force them to make different ones.

[u/NuttingFerociously → u/Carb0nFire]

That's what's going to happen but not in the way she hopes

[u/Alternative_Jaguar85 → u/dumplinglifesaver]

Or if you're taller than your mother, put them up on a shelf that's a display at the top of the wall.

Out of reach for shorties.

[u/Viola-Swamp → u/Alternative_Jaguar85]

Better to change the lock on the closet to a keyed one and lock it all up until they move out. Mom will climb up and get them, because this is about power and control.

[u/MissionTroll404 → u/dumplinglifesaver]

I did move out kind of. I live in a small studio apartment in another country. I unfortunately can not move out all of my stuff out from home as I do not have enough space. I am still a student (working for my Master's degree) so my life is not stable enough yet.

[u/thatsme55ed → u/MissionTroll404]

The petty part of me says give the kids something valuable she owns as a toy next time they're over.

[u/Sinshine712 → u/thatsme55ed]

That's exactly what I would do. Find something valuable of hers and give it to the kids to play with, then give the same excuse to her that she gives to you.

[u/Situation-Mediocre → u/Sinshine712]

Makeup, jewellery, a dress or coat she keeps for special occasions.

Maybe then she’ll understand, but I doubt it.

[u/Panchenima → u/Situation-Mediocre]

Makeup is the best one, kids will ruin it and make a mess too.

[u/Jsaunnies → u/thatsme55ed]

The fine china makes for excellent frisbees

[u/totallyrealname → u/MissionTroll404]

Sorry to tell you this, but even without kids around, you're gonna have to learn to forget about your stuff. I've been jumping countries and cities most of my adult life and pretty much ANYTHING sentimental I asked to keep in storage at my family's place either got taken by my younger siblings or given away. I basically have nothing left of sentimental value that doesn't fit into a suitcase anymore, and it took me a while to get over it but it is what it is. It's not even about giving kids something to play with, at some point parents aren't gonna care about your stuff unless you make a very definite plan for it.

[u/George_Is_Upset]

Can you get a chest or some sort of locked case to put them in when you will be away and can’t monitor her taking them?

[u/BexKix → u/George_Is_Upset]

This is the way. Clearly the “adult” can’t adult: we learn in Kindergarten, don’t break other people’s stuff. 

“Why do you have a locked trunk”  Because you broke my trust and chose to not respect my belongings.  “How do I know you’re not keeping drugs in there?” Ask, we will look together, then I will lock it again because you broke my trust. 

Keep repeating it. Choices have consequences. 

[u/rietstengel → u/BexKix]

“How do I know you’re not keeping drugs in there?”

"Fine, i'll leave it out in the open so you can give it to kids"

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/rietstengel]

"Do you want some?"

[u/A-Game-Of-Fate → u/BexKix]

>>”How do I know you’re not keeping drugs in there?”

“Why, do you want to give drugs to the kids too?

[u/Adaphion → u/BexKix]

Now, you see, the problem is you are running with the assumption that you are dealing with normal, reasonable people here.

Not narcissistic assholes that would just throw "I don't care if it's your room, it's my house, and you aren't allowed to do that, if you don't like it, GET OUT"

I know this shit from experience. I wasn't allowed to have anything I liked in my own damn room. I had boring, blanks gray walls and empty space on my dressers. All because my parents sucked and were narcissistic control freaks.

[u/Calaveras-Metal]

Just tell them that the paint and glue is toxic for children. It kind of is.

[u/hipster-duck → u/Calaveras-Metal]

"Hey, I just wanted to let you know the model paint I use is made with lead. I told my mom but she didn't seem to care..."

[u/DrBlaBlaBlub → u/hipster-duck]

This vivid green here? Yeah, lovely right? That's Paris green (sometimes called Vienna green) and it's made of a arsenic pigment. I bought it because I like this little black and red pirate sign on the flask.

[u/_ac3_0f_spad3s_ → u/DrBlaBlaBlub]

And it pairs perfectly with radium green though it’s super rare because it got discontinued because a couple people got a little sick. But the hue is to die for

[u/ebinWaitee → u/_ac3_0f_spad3s_]

The key is licking the brush to get it sharp

[u/_ac3_0f_spad3s_ → u/ebinWaitee]

Oh yeah, it’s perfect for detail work

[u/thishyacinthgirl → u/_ac3_0f_spad3s_]

In other news, my jaw has been hurting a little. Weird.

[u/BurnedLaser → u/DrBlaBlaBlub]

And this other, darker green? That's real aerospace primer, and it has hexavailant chromium in it

[u/NenyaAdfiel → u/hipster-duck]

“I told my mom but she said your kids were already dumb, so lead won’t hurt them.”

[u/DefNotAGenestealer → u/Calaveras-Metal]

I like this idea. If it's acrylic paint it's kinda toxic. If it's enamel paint it's definitely toxic

[u/Ding-Dong-Dutch → u/DefNotAGenestealer]

Just use radium paint. If youre lucky the problem is solved for generations

[u/Apex_Over_Lord → u/Ding-Dong-Dutch]

The long game... good thinking

[u/Ancient_District_962 → u/Calaveras-Metal]

there is a 100% chance the mother throws it then away "to dangerous"

[u/underlight → u/Ancient_District_962]

this, if you have narcissist mother this is likely outcome, it will go something like "I won't let you poison our home"

[u/HazeyIPAs → u/underlight]

She obviously thinks your hobby is BS. Continue making them when you find somewhere else to live. Just leave those as is and the kids can play with broken planes.

[u/Similar-Property-729 → u/HazeyIPAs]

Best answer here. You can get better models, spend more time on them, develop your skill, and enjoy your hobby without worry that nobody will try to destroy them.

[u/HazeyIPAs → u/Similar-Property-729]

Checkout OP sub reddit. Lots of other cool things he works on. Pocket watches, old cameras, meticulous stuff. Hope he can keep those safe from dear old mum.

[u/Madisoniano → u/Calaveras-Metal]

Based on her actions, I have a feeling that she will not care, call it a liberal conspiracy, and tell OP to shut up. EDIT: Grammar

[u/DiscoBanane → u/Madisoniano]

She could throw them, as she'd see no point keeping "toxic toys".

[u/backwardbuttplug]

My parents took my stock of space Lego bricks and "donated" them to a friend's kid for a science class project. Never asked me or let me know. I just went to my large box which should have been full of them and found nearly 2/3 of them gone.

[u/HeyAwesomeArmadillo → u/backwardbuttplug]

It’s so sad. My mom would constantly give my stuff away without asking. It’s so disrespectful. We don’t have a good relationship even now.

[u/Vera_98 → u/HeyAwesomeArmadillo]

When I left home at 18 to join the military I packed everything I owned carefully in boxes and stored them in my mom's basement. I wasn't even out of boot camp when they were completely raided by my little sister. I remember seeing pictures my sister would post of her in my clothes I never got any of them back. There was a dress I bought for my home coming dance in high school. I bought it myself and it was an awesome dress. My sister took it and wore it to HER homecoming without asking then the entire family got mad at ME for being upset with her over that and the fact that she KEPT the dress! There was a killer pair of expensive high heels I bought for prom. I found out just a couple months ago that my sister donated them to good will because they didn't fit her. It didn't even occur to her that they were mine when they DIDNT FIT.

When I finally got my boxes back after I got my own place, they were all ransacked. All that was left was just clothes my sister didn't want. I haven't seen any of my books or collectibles since.

[u/HeyAwesomeArmadillo → u/Vera_98]

That sucks, I’m sorry your sister didn’t respect your items and boundaries. She sounds like an entitled brat, hope she grew up and became a better sister and a more considerate, thoughtful person.

[u/Vera_98 → u/HeyAwesomeArmadillo]

Nope. She's still as manipulative as ever. I haven't spoken to her in about 8 months now.

[u/Beowulf33232 → u/backwardbuttplug]

I remember fighting with my mom about my stuff. I had to promise her grandkids to get her to not throw away my legos when I moved out.

She donated them to a friend if she's to be beleived, they may have been thrown away. There was a really nice large leather bag the loose ones were in.

Unrelated she's gained a fear of nursing homes more recently.

[u/MaintainThis → u/backwardbuttplug]

My mom did this. I left them at her house when I moved until I had room to store them. She asked me if she could take a couple of bags to her school so her students could enjoy them. I told her no cause Ive got hundreds of dollars in that collection and they dont make the kits anymore, but she can get cheap boxes of random legos. She said she understood and wouldnt touch them. A couple of weeks later shes telling me how much her students LOVED my legos. When I tried to take the remainder and my Calvin and Hobbes collection she refused so the grandchildren could have them. I dont talk to her anymore.

[u/dumbythiq → u/MaintainThis]

And then they will go ahead and tell everyone "I dont know why my kids don't want to see me :(("

[u/Much_Independent9628]

Give them her jewelry as custome jewelry

[u/CharmingMechanic2473 → u/[deleted]]

It’s intentional…

[u/ADLuluIsOP → u/CharmingMechanic2473]

Yeah. Clearly it's "you're too old for toys" kinda shit. God people are soo boringly predictable in their maliciousness.

[u/porraSV → u/ADLuluIsOP]

I will never understand this. Like they are adults that doesn’t mean they are serious all the time.

[u/dfoshizzle → u/porraSV]

"you're such a baby, you should do grown up things like us" is something Id be ok hearing at a primary school, bot from grown ass adults 💀

[u/Forgotten_Son → u/dfoshizzle]

“Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

• C.S. Lewis

[u/Trojanheadcoach → u/Forgotten_Son]

I love cs Lewis, thanks for this bar

[u/wankster9000 → u/dfoshizzle]

"you're such a baby, you should do grown up things like us"

• Beer and sportsball fans

[u/LaminatedAirplane → u/ADLuluIsOP]

“When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

CS Lewis

[u/Glitch_King → u/CharmingMechanic2473]

Likely the mom doesn't think the hobby/interest is valid/has value, so this is her way of showing that disapproval. Conscious or otherwise

[u/katsuatis → u/Glitch_King]

Yep my mom did the same thing to my plants because apparently guys aren't supposed to take care of them

[u/Digitalispurpurea2 → u/katsuatis]

Oh hell no, your plants? What is offensive about plants? I come from a long line of farmers and gardeners so I cannot relate but I'm sorry. Hopefully you were able to save some.

[u/DeerStriking2781 → u/Digitalispurpurea2]

Seriously. If ~half of the human population were barred from taking care of plants the course of human history would have been radically different. The whole Neolithic revolution probably wouldn't have happened.

[u/Gregs_reddit_account → u/CharmingMechanic2473]

My mother threw away half a million dollars in magic cards because she thought having a hobby was preventing me from moving out (I was 15)

[u/willargue4karma → u/Gregs_reddit_account]

im in physical pain hearing this

[u/Moth_Broth → u/[deleted]]

The OP said this has happened before, and he has told his mother that this isn't okay, the kids didn't care because they have no concept of the time it takes to make something this nice, and the mother is definitely doing this on purpose out of some kind of spite or malice.

[u/NB-NEURODIVERGENT → u/Moth_Broth]

And it’s so much worse if you’re on the spectrum and had the hyper fixation to GET the models but struggled to keep the fixation throughout the building and painting thus making it a multi week/month product

[u/_banthafodder → u/Much_Independent9628]

Or makeup, that would be a fun cleanup

[u/BoingBoingBooty → u/_banthafodder]

They might not break the jewelry but they are 100% certain to ruin the makeup. Also easier to play dumb about the value of it, what can a lipstick be worth? Like a dollar?

[u/Frosty_Cell_6827 → u/BoingBoingBooty]

At least as much as a banana

[u/jsand2 → u/Much_Independent9628]

I like this answer.

"Well it just looked like kids jewelry to me".

And then promise to give more of her jewelry away the next time she gives your stuff away.

[u/sohereiamacrazyalien → u/Much_Independent9628]

Or books to « read »

Or kitchenware to play pretend ,

High heels also are fun for kids

[u/KitsuneGato → u/sohereiamacrazyalien]

Mother's own makeup as paint. Probably cost just as much as those model planes.

[u/Material_Prize_6157]

My mum did this with like ALL my nerd-y stuff from elementary school. Couple of thousands of dollars in collectables probably. Clearly I’m not over it lmao.

Edit: I’m early 30’s for reference so this was like PEAK toy era. All the stuff that’s nostalgic now that people want. One thing I did manage to save are a bunch of early 2000’s Jurassic Park dinos. I love dinosaurs.

[u/Massive_Potential_58 → u/Material_Prize_6157]

My mother sold my entire Pokemon collection for $5 at a lawnsale. Im so happy she never found my Magic the Gathering collection which I hid shortly after

[u/toooomanypuppies → u/Massive_Potential_58]

You should tell her if you still had it, it would be worth 20k.

Make that decision sting for her.

[u/EternityTheory → u/toooomanypuppies]

This right here.

My mom always assumed trading cards were just silly toys/collectables until my uncle sold 5 MtG cards out of his collection to buy a full dining room set. Suddenly it clicked.

[u/RileyCargo42 → u/EternityTheory]

I had to do this to my parents to get a project car for school (automotive repair).

It was basically "hey look a 1000$ 67 mustang fastback!, It just needs a tune!"

parents say no, 3 months go by

"Hey remember that 1k mustang yall said no to? It just sold for 15k and they only spent 4k on it."

[u/BrewerAndHalosFan → u/RileyCargo42]

In defense of your parents, restoring old cars usually results in spending more money than you'd make on the sale.

[u/RileyCargo42 → u/BrewerAndHalosFan]

Oh I absolutely understand this but I had a job at the time and I still have an extremely reliable civic.

That being said I did finally get a project and I'm about 700-800$ into a 400$ car. Its mostly just the fact that I knew the risks and was prepared for them, yet they didn't believe me even with proof.

[u/astelda → u/EternityTheory]

I would like to add that even if it was "just silly toys/collectables" DON'T FUCKING MESS WITH STUFF THAT ISN'T YOURS

the monetary value behind those items is NOT relevant

[u/SweetBabyCheezas → u/toooomanypuppies]

I told my mother she gave away my collection of YGO cards that had a few rares and in total I would be able to sell it all for £4-5k

She didn't apologise. She started moaning that she didn't know and I can't be harsh because she wanted to bring smile to her friends' kids.

What about her kid and asking whether I'm fine with it?

She gave away my PS2 and a collection of games, some were from limited editions with posters, stickers, and maps, all as good as new. She gave away my teen magazines collections that someone was willing to buy 2 years ago for £400, and a series of posters for another £600. When I called her, she said she used them in the fireplace...

I left my country at age of 19 because parents couldn't support me at Uni and I couldn't work and study simultaneously, not in that country. When I decided to stay abroad I asked her to keep all my stuff in at the attic as some of it will be worth a lot of money one day. 15 years down the line I have nothing. Not from my hobbies, and not from her. She even went as far as yelling at me and accusing for lack of respect when I sobbed asking why she has given everything away as if it all belonged to her.

[u/fencepost_ajm → u/SweetBabyCheezas]

"That's fine. It'll all work out when I give away your stuff while we move you into a home."

[u/MayhemMessiah → u/SweetBabyCheezas]

Ah yes, respect. Always demanded, never extended. I hope you're low to no contact, you deserve better.

[u/IronChef-Morimoto → u/toooomanypuppies]

rolls eyes

"I'm sure your toys weren't worth 20k honey, stop being a drama queen."

[u/toooomanypuppies → u/IronChef-Morimoto]

I wish I knew enough about Pokémon to be able to whip out a trading site or something but you're right, I doubt that would make any difference either.

Can't reason someone out of an arguement they weren't reasoned into.

[u/Professional-Ice518 → u/toooomanypuppies]

Tcgplayer and price charting

[u/apadin1 → u/IronChef-Morimoto]

“Oh really? Remember beanie babies? Baseball cards?”

[u/LaminatedAirplane → u/apadin1]

Except you can easily look up OG pokemon card prices on eBay and compare against Beanie Baby prices. The difference is very, very obvious.

The problem is that people like that will hardly change their mind because of evidence.

[u/Healingbigfoot → u/toooomanypuppies]

She sounds like the type of person that would flip it back on the son.

[u/toooomanypuppies → u/Healingbigfoot]

"Why did you let me steal and sell them then?!?!"

Yeah, I can see that.

[u/a_Vertigo_Guy → u/toooomanypuppies]

No no it’ll be “why would you spend soooo much money on something like that?!!!!”

[u/WeaselCapsky → u/toooomanypuppies]

and add that it was a secret fund to treat her to something nice, which she herself now ruined

[u/Material_Prize_6157 → u/Massive_Potential_58]

Yup I had like multiple base set charizards she gave away to some friend’s kids cause “I wasn’t playing with them.” I cry thinking about that one.

[u/No-Lunch4249 → u/Material_Prize_6157]

I feel ya bro.

My mom let my little brother take our entire collection of dozens of GameCube games to GameStop for like $15 in store credit while I was away at college.

[u/Material_Prize_6157 → u/No-Lunch4249]

Broooooo some of those titles with the case and inserts are worth $1000’s. I had so many of them. But those ones I will admit I sold some to GameStop to buy new games myself.

[u/Jydani → u/No-Lunch4249]

I’m still so mad about my GameCube collection. Went out of state in the summer of ‘09 before senior year for a week. Came back, and my GameCube, 4 controllers, Zenith car tv screen, GBA plug in, no idea how many memory cards, and 20ish games…all gone. I was 16 and I’m almost 34, now. I genuinely am still extremely angry when I think about it.

[u/Nipotazz1 → u/Massive_Potential_58]

For FIVE BUCKS?! The amount of packs alone for a decent collection even without expansive ones would be a thousand times that. What was she thinking?!?

[u/Fizassist1 → u/Massive_Potential_58]

pretty sure my mom sold my binders of cards too. she will never admit it, but they are 100 percent missing.

[u/DaPlipsta → u/Material_Prize_6157]

I had one of the transparent green N64's with cartridges including Ocarina of Time and the gold Majora's Mask. All disappeared when I went to college. Both of my parents have sworn they never touched it but it didn't throw itself away...

[u/Calavera357 → u/DaPlipsta]

I arrived late to one of my parent's garage sales to find my N64 and half the games on sale for $20. The other half of the games had already been purchased... All the ones I lost were the more obscure games I had purposely set out to acquire, so the only games left were the basic games everyone had. Goodbye Banjo Kazooie, Glover, Blast Corps., DK64, Bomberman, Harvest Moon... dozens more.

Thank God I had loaned my copy of Perfect Dark and my extra controllers to my best friend.

[u/Tigglebee → u/Material_Prize_6157]

My mom sold all my Stephen King books without asking because “I had read them already”. Even books 1-7 of an 8 part series that I was actively rereading in preparation for the last book’s release.

Sometimes parents are just fucking cruel.

[u/Francl27 → u/Material_Prize_6157]

My mom gave away all my stuffed animals. I'm still bitter about it.

[u/no_talent_ass_clown → u/Francl27]

My step-father (first of three) told me when I was 7 that I had to pick a few stuffed animals to move with and get rid of the rest. I cried and sobbed as I saw my best friends in the dumpster. My Mom questioned why I had thrown them all away and I told her. He gaslighted me and told her he'd never said it. That was 50 years ago and I still can't tolerate stuffed animals. The hurt was that deep. Thanks for the therapy sesh. 

Also, same guy, flushed my goldfish alive. And told me my young dog went to live on a farm.

[u/Auralore → u/no_talent_ass_clown]

Jesus Christ what an abusive POS, I'm sorry you went through that

[u/Material_Prize_6157 → u/[deleted]]

Old people man.

[u/ZoomZoom_Driver → u/Material_Prize_6157]

Man, you still have stuff from childhood? I told my family i wanted my stuff from childhood as i went into bootcamp, and would pay for it to be shipped to me after i settled in my first duty station.

I have ONE stuffed animal from childhood and it was the one my zadie gave to me before he passed. None of my collectibles, none of my books, none of my games or toys, none of my candles (some of which were REALLY expensive sculpture candles). Nope all trashed.

Clearly, I'm not over it either.

[u/bachelorsinlurking → u/Material_Prize_6157]

Yep. When I went to college my wii got sold with all my games on it, including the mario kart I'd spent ages getting 100% on. Gaming was hard for me so I was super proud of that, and when I came back for my first winter break excited to play with my sister I found out that since I'd 'finished it' it was assumed I no longer needed it.

[u/treetree53 → u/Material_Prize_6157]

I had (probably) over 1,000 pages of comics, art, drawings all thrown away (likely burnt) by my sister after I moved in with my friend when I was 14. Out of the hundreds of pages of art I made from 9-14, I have one drawing of a cat and a card game I made when I was 12 I brought to my friends house. You'll be damned if I ever let any of my work be lost like that ever again

[u/jalopycollector → u/Material_Prize_6157]

My grandmother gave numerous 1:18 scale diecast cars that I brought to her house temporarily to the next door neighbors kid… she lied and told them i didnt want them anymore….kid proceeded to smash them

I never fully forgave her for that one

[u/anubis_xxv]

I came home once to find my young cousins playing toy soldiers with hundreds of Euro and hundreds of hours of painted Warhammer minis. Most were now chipped and dozens were broken. I was gutted but they were kids and didn't know.

Once I explained what happened my parents and my aunt helped clear everything up and explain to the now wailing kids why their 'toys' were being taken away. It never happened again. This is a normal course of events.

What you have going on is fucked up and beyond disrespectful.

[u/Drakorai]

Time to get a lockable cabinet

[u/PlanksBestM8]

I don't understand how some parents can be so disrespectful.

[u/Saneless → u/PlanksBestM8]

Especially after being told

First honest mistake? Whatever. But afterwards is just being a jerk

[u/Shype_FR → u/Saneless]

Even the first time is pushing it tbh, at least in this specific scenario

[u/StonedSumo → u/Shype_FR]

Yeah I mean… there’s a thing called “asking” and it’s just basic respect

[u/Vinc314 → u/PlanksBestM8]

They don't fucking care

[u/Zatujit → u/PlanksBestM8]

some people literally think their children BELONGS to them. Makes me mad when i hear it.

[u/CallMeTheDumpMan → u/PlanksBestM8]

For real. I had a friend in high school who decided to celebrate his first paycheck by buying 2 $150 yugioh cards for himself, something that he never had a chance to get before. His father's reaction? To dump water on them to prove it was a waste of money.

[u/Nkechinyerembi → u/CallMeTheDumpMan]

well it wasn't a waste of money until he fucking did that... jeeze.

[u/PunkTrackGoddess → u/CallMeTheDumpMan]

My mom threw away two huge boxes, 2foot long, 4 rows each of MTG cards I received from my father. She threw them away when we moved post divorce - claiming "they looked it up. And they werent worth much"  I know she threw them away out of spite and I still hold it against her, not of the cards, but as a character flaw, 20 years later.

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/PunkTrackGoddess]

She threw it out because of your dad, not you. That still sucks because you're the one who got hurt by it

[u/madsmcgivern511 → u/PlanksBestM8]

Genuinely, it had to be hard trying to be a better person than your parents when they act like this even when you explicitly told them not to. Who the hell do you trust if your own parents are overstepping boundaries you set for yourself, just feels like OP’s mother doesn’t view their hobbies and interests as something to respect or value.

[u/Kylearean → u/PlanksBestM8]

My grandmother had amassed a rather large lego collection over a 20 year period, that was the major draw for her grandkids to come over. After I went off to college, I heard from another cousin that she sold the whole lot of vintage legos for $20 at a garage sale. There were several large city sets, lots of much older 1960s and 1970s sets, with vintage gears / wheels with gray rubber, etc. $20.

While they belonged to her, I wish she would've reached out and said "Kyle, I'm thinking about selling these, would you like them instead?"

[u/icanfeelitcomingup → u/PlanksBestM8]

I suspect this is because they have nothing but contempt for his hobby and are trying to passive-aggressively get him to quit by repeatedly ruining his hard work. I imagine they think he should be out playing baseball or meeting nice girls at church instead.

[u/Sonicmantis → u/icanfeelitcomingup]

This is totally it

[u/Jsolidlo → u/PlanksBestM8]

Because some parents think that respect between their children is a one way street and their word is Biblical Law.

[u/ulfric_stormcloack → u/PlanksBestM8]

Easy they don't see their kids as people

[u/Detachabl_e]

Just start giving away her stuff to people.  She'll get it eventually.  Or entirely eschew physical attachments and attain spiritual enlightenment.  Either way: better mom.

[u/ThoughtAdditional212]

try a locked cabinet/make a case out of acrylic or maybe encase in epoxy

[u/crotch-fruit_tree → u/ThoughtAdditional212]

Curio cabinets have fallen out of fashion. They're pretty inexpensive to pick up. My kid got a pretty nice one, solid wood/glass, lighted, and it locks, for $12.

As an added bonus, it's a great way to display your hard work and it keeps things from getting dusty. I'd certainly rather dust a cabinet than each nook and cranny.

[u/DarkBladeMadriker → u/crotch-fruit_tree]

Yes, this. I got an old Oakly sunglasses store case for free on Craigslist. Whole thing is metal, it had lights installed, glass on all sides museum style display section, the bottom section had a lockable storage area. Its awesome, I just had to patch a few holes where the old "Oakly" signs were mounted at the top

[u/thisshitsstupid → u/ThoughtAdditional212]

We need to know the size of the toddler, before knowing if a cabinet would be large enough to lock it in.

[u/Critical_cheese]

I hate when someone undervalues your work, hobby and possessions. Ooh it's not a big deal, it's only a such and such.

[u/Meandering_Potato]

People in the comments seem to also think these are toys. Model planes are delicate display pieces, they’re not like matchbox cars.

This is like someone taking a vase you carefully hand-painted, filling it with chocolate milk and handing it to a 5 year old to drink from. It is absolutely an infuriating misuse of a painstakingly crafted hobby item.

[u/FrostyD7 → u/Meandering_Potato]

If you can't even drop it without causing damage then it doesn't belong in the hands of someone who is only allowed to use plastic cups.

[u/Meandering_Potato → u/FrostyD7]

Exactly so

[u/mythrilcrafter → u/Meandering_Potato]

You gotta wonder how many of these parents are the exact type we see at museums who lets their kids trash ancient artifacts and exhibits.

[u/The001Keymaster]

Make one and fill it with glitter. Leave that one out in the living room so mom grabs that one first to let a toddler break it

[u/PrimaryAgreeable8103]

Take them let them cry. You have a chance to teach them a very valuable life lesson, which is that someone else can't give you other people's thing, and if they try you should refuse

[u/Mean_Initiative_5962 → u/PrimaryAgreeable8103]

Pretty sure it happened while OP wasn't there, or they would have 

[u/SillyMidOff49]

She’s got expensive Make up right?

Sounds like you need a dress up night.

[u/Koganezaki → u/SillyMidOff49]

Oooh, and if Op is feeling particularly devious, they can give the kids some of the mom’s expensive dresses to cut up or color on

[u/Perfecshionism]

Your mom is passive aggressively telling you that she wants you to stop playing and spending money on things she sees as toys.

A lot of moms are obsessively passive aggressively manipulative. Especially toward their older children.

[u/AfraidObject8082]

r/extremelyinfuriating

[u/RustyShacklefrog]

The fact that op is only “mildly infuriated” by this is insane. I would blow up on my parents and express how deeply hurt I am by their blatant disregard for boundaries and personal belongings.

[u/Wyvern_68 → u/RustyShacklefrog]

from my experience as a previous model maker, people in that community/hobby are pretty patient, takes a lot of patience to build something so slowly and intricate.

[u/Arbitrary_666]

https://giphy.com/gifs/x6I3pGtblFtDO

[u/spambearpig]

I made the Bismark in 1:350 when I was a lad.

It took me ages and I painted it absolutely perfectly as I could. I was so proud of it.

Then my goddamn sister took it from my room and played with it in the bath and broke everything.

And my mum treated it like it was nothing.

So I threw my sister’s favourite toy out of the window and I got in trouble.

I’m still burned by that horrible injustice.

What I did was lock them away. I’ve still got three or four of them. I started demanding a lock on my bedroom door and being super hostile if I ever caught my sisters going in my room.

War has been declared! Time to resist

[u/Complete_Blood1786]

Rust paint them as a decomissioned airplane yard

[u/HellaHorticulture → u/Complete_Blood1786]

This is a lovely idea.

[u/Swimming-Bowler9701]

My mother giving my game systems to my cousins, when I was a kid, as punishment knowing damn well they break fking everything will always be something I can never get over

[u/coffee_ape]

My mom threw away my pokemon and yugioh collection when I was a tween. She spent all that money to buy cards for me, cards that I valued and kept in a book and I’d look at weekly, just to throw them out because “it’s trash.”

In my 20s I kept reminding her how much some of the cards that I pulled cost. She just laughs and says oh well.

Unrelated, we’re not on speaking terms.

[u/Zigor022]

Id be pissed if someone gave kids my gundams to play with.

[u/ikannunAneeuQ]

My kids paternal grandma is always trying to give my kids stuff away. They both have collected hot wheels since they were very little (22 and 24 now) and she always tries to give them to a family friends kids "well yours are older now, they don't play with them anymore." Like NO they are not yours to give away! I had to yell at her to finally get her to stop.

[u/deeweromekoms]

That's insane. If I even breathed on my grandfather's model planes, I'd have been thrown down a flight of stairs.

[u/newprint]

Don't feel bad, my mom trashed (american) things that were found on beaches of Normandy dropped on D-Day.

[u/padraig_garcia]

I hate saying this, but I honestly believe that too many parents out there just hate their children.

At the very least they don't respect them at all.

[u/Apprehensive-Two3474]

My teenage ass would just throw them away and start making comments about 'I know where I lay' when it comes to mom. And if family members asked what I've been doing, saying shit like 'not much. mom didn't approve of my hobbies and kept destroying them so I stopped' then explain what the hobby was because they'll get curious. Then see which family members go WTF at her handing models to children.
Would she get nasty? Probably but nothing like adding adult peer pressure to solidify a point to stop willfully destroying my shit.

[u/Preeng → u/Apprehensive-Two3474]

Have you been in this situation before? Because it would not go down that way at all. You would be looked down on for being passive aggressive over "toys". You will never get this kind of person to value something even if they themselves don't see why it's valuable. You will never get this person to respect their children. They believe they own their children and are owed respect and love no matter what.

[u/Wise-Tip891]

Does your mother have any cherished figurines or porcelain items you can give them to play with?

[u/Shazvox]

WDYM "given as toys to children"? Does she let guests borrow them?

[u/TheCorgiTamer → u/Shazvox]

When I was younger and my mom would have guests over, she'd let the guest's kids have free range of my stuff to keep them occupied so they could have their girl time

Would come home from my grandma's or staying at a friend's house to my room being a mess and my LEGO sets I had displayed being half destroyed

It was beyond frustrating because I took good care of my things and liked stuff being in certain places

I assume this was something similar, mom's guests had a kid, mom wanted to distract kid with toy to have adult time

[u/cpMetis → u/TheCorgiTamer]

Basically any time my cousin came over.

One Saturday i was running around so much trying to clean up and fix things he was messing and breaking and I fell "asleep" in my dirty laundry, and he just took the opportunity to play my consoles and delete more than half my game saves. I woke up the next day rushing to get ready for school because the sun being up meant I was late and I asked my mom why she was just sitting in the dining room not getting ready for work if we were late.

My blood sugar (I'm type 1) went so low I had passed out in my dirty laundry while he was there and he ignored me while I was basically comatose for about 16 hours straight, and when I woke up I thought it was 2 days prior since I had no memory whatsoever of that time.

I only found out about all the damage when I went back to my room after crying a lot. On top of what I've mentioned, he also broke my couch (which was my bed at the time), spilled coke all over my floor, left a pizza open on the floor (which we were apparently given after I passed out, and he just didn't think I wanted any because I didn't get up to get some when he didn't bother waking me up), and one of my two safes was empty (fortunately the one I put random gifts of cash in and not my actual savings).

After I had calmed down from existential horror at losing multiple days of my life that everyone around me had that I didn't, I asked that I at least be able to ban him from my room in the future.

No. "He's family, you need to get along."

[u/TheCorgiTamer → u/cpMetis]

I would not be on speaking terms with either of them

Congrats on making it to adulthood(?) with a mother that apparently didn't give a shit her kid ptfo for almost a day and didn't check on them

[u/TokyoLosAngeles]

Jesus, my own mother would never in a million years do something like that to me.

[u/pandaru_express]

Can you suspend them from the ceiling? I mean, they'd look great but also surely your mom wouldn't cut them down to hand out. Surely.

[u/AHumanYouDoNotKnow → u/pandaru_express]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Ogt2VcqU5SLuumSdZx

[u/myhv]

Does she have fancy tableware/glass she saves for special occasions? Start using that. Decorative towels? Nope, glue rag for repairing the planes. Her expensive shampoo? Nope, your new body gel. Show her that disrespect goes both ways.

[u/SonyScientist]

Oof, went from biplanes to bye, planes.

[u/Potential_Secret_412]

i'd probanly go change the oil in my car with her "nice towels" for holidays and catch the oil in with the nice plantes and cups.

[u/HeartyBeast]

Given them her jewellery to dress up in

[u/Outrageous_Ant8283]

It a damn shame. It’s giving these kind of vibes.