r/The10thDentist Dec 04 '24

Meta - Standard Voting (Re)Introducing - Quality Vote Bot: Reborn!

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Hey everyone!

So for those of you who have been here a while, many may remember a bot called "Quality Vote Bot" that left a pinned message in every post's comments, and you all could vote on the bot, since voting is reversed for the actual post if you Agree/Disagree.

Sadly a couple years back, the bot was deactivated, and we went back to just the automod reminding everyone of our Golden Rule (rule 1); Upvote if you disagree—Downvote if you agree.

Well, I am very pleased to announce that it's successor, Quality Vote Bot Reborn has now been activated and should do exactly what the original one did!

It should be noted, the bot is designed to help weed out 'bad' posts, not ones you simply disagree with opinion-wise, but ones that either don't make sense, break rules, or are just lame or potentially fabricated, trolling, lying, etc.

And of course, since this is a meta post, normal voting rules don't apply, but by all means, vote on the bot to see if it works. In a few hours, it will re-post it's comment saying what you all determined, and if it comes back negative, post will automatically be removed.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

TV/Movies/Fiction Sheldon Cooper from Big Bang Theory is the funniest TV character ever created

518 Upvotes

I’ve watched sitcoms from just about every era. From the 1970s I’ve seen MASH*, Happy Days, and Fawlty Towers. The 1980s gave us Cheers and The Golden Girls. The 1990s had classics like Seinfeld, Friends, and Frasier. The 2000s brought The Office, How I Met Your Mother, and Scrubs. Then in the 2010s and 2020s there were shows like Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Modern Family, Schitt’s Creek, Ted Lasso, and plenty of others.

They’re all great in their own way, and many have genuinely hilarious characters. But none of them make me laugh as consistently as Sheldon does. It’s not just the jokes. It’s the way he delivers every line, his complete lack of social awareness, his confidence that he’s always right, and the way everyone around him reacts. Even after watching episodes multiple times, I still laugh at scenes I already know are coming.

There have been a lot of legendary comedy characters over the years, but for me, nobody has matched Sheldon Cooper. He’s the funniest TV character I’ve ever watched, and I don’t think it’s particularly close.


r/The10thDentist 12h ago

Technology I actually like the AI drive thru

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Everybody seems to hate them, but I actually really like it. I’m not necessarily 100% pro AI don’t get me wrong, but whenever I go to a fast food place through the drive-through, like McDonald’s or something, I can barely hear the workers or they’re completely getting my order wrong and I always feel rushed or stupid whenever I make a mistake. However, at a place like Bojangles, I can simply just talk to the AI and say super simple stuff like “dark meat 8 piece family meal” and it does it instantly.

People say that the AI drive-through is gonna take away jobs, but if you worked in fast food, you know that being on the drive-through isn’t a separate thing, you could be on the drive-through for an hour, then on cooking for 2 hours.

Overall I just find it a lot easier and convenient for me and I’m sure it would be for others too.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Other I genuinely hate babies

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I don’t even know what to say. I find babies revolting

They are hideous little things; their faces are just so ugly and they’re shaped like disfigured manatees. Looking at them fills me with this sense of dread, like what if it lunges at me or starts screeching? What if its parent leaves me alone with it for 5 seconds and in that short time it rolls off a table and breaks its skull and I’m at fault? And don’t get me started on the fact that babies can BITE

They sound horrible, they smell horrible, and to care for one, you need to be around it 24/7 or else it dies or something?? That sounds like a soul crushing amount of responsibility. I’m so anxious whenever I’m around one that I’ll scare or injure it. And the way they smile looks so uncanny

I love toddlers and elementary aged kids (4-11 years old), but babies just creep me out. Their eyes are soulless and it’s off-putting how they kinda look like mushy blobs of fat until ~5

Edit: apparently this is called pedophobia :/

Edit 2: no disrespect to any parents or ex-babies here, just repulsed by these little things the same way anything that is not a live electrical outlet seems to repulse a toddler


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture There should be a legal mid-ground between kid and adult for 16-17 year olds

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16 and 17 year olds these days are wayy too infantillized. When I was in middleschool, my teenage years had a lot better of a transition. My mom gave me more privileges like my own phone, room, stay up whenever I wanted, hang out with friends. Ofc kid to teenager is a lot more of a at home privilege thing rather than a legal thing and that's why I think it was a better transition. Skip to adulthood and I just don't feel like an adult at all, in fact I felt more like a teenager at 11 than I do adult at 18. Just a few months ago I couldn't decide what I wanted to do for myself, sign basic permission slips for school, apply to college without a permission slip. I don't think 16-17 year olds should be considered adults, but they should be able to have partial autonomy and be able to do certain things themselves without parents. I'm talking things like signing certain permission slips for school like classes or pg13 movies, getting a job, anything therapy related. I think with a few bit more legal things they can do would offer a way smoother transition into adulthood.​


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture Bring back the ancient Roman bathrooms (communal).

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"We had beans yesterday for dinner. Pass the Big Stick, John. I'll need the Big Stick today." ~Probably some Ancient Roman

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Tell me, when's the last time you talked with anyone in the bathroom (public)? You have perhaps asked for toilet paper and your fellow countrymen give it with acceptance or you may say excuse me or thank you to someone holding the door. That's it.

The ancient, mighty and wise Romans sat to take a shit all while discussing a plethora of topics! We had ancient men discussing things like prices with senators that shat next to them or a random stranger discussing the recent events (their news) in town.

Imagine how much you can achieve with your fellow shitting folks if you were to simply discuss topics like stock markets, recent political wars or events, the fifa world cup, or who you would place $100 on for the next MMA match ..?

Today you sit isolated with walls separating you from your fellow man as you shit in shame but the ancient Romans did otherwise and used it as an opportunity to connect.

Suppose like the above quote given you have atrocious cyclosporiasis level diahhrea. You would turn to your best friend John who is taking his shit and simply utter the quote above as he smiles and passes a very large wooden stick with a large sponge from a bed of river in the center of the communal restroom (where all the sponges that have been used by previous men sit to clean off in the water for the next man to use).

"Eww isn't that gross Mr. u/Annual_Beginning_600?"

No. It isn't. But if you wish to keep whining about the hygiene aspect and find it gross to use one that has already been put in the wet center pool, we can simply open up MORE jobs as a scrub cleaner.

There is an X amount of people who enter the public restroom daily and thus we know roughly that some X amount of scrubs will be used. These sponge thingies can be replaced or cleansed by the workers and replaced simultaneously as people go and thus always let a clean version to use for folks as people come and go. This also fixes some of your whining about unemployment as people are able to do this without much education or skills. It's a decent job albeit a little gross at times!

Now you may be asking why I'm so passionate for this. I believe this isn't just a nice little QOL change for Americans or the world, but rather a *necessity* for us men to bond with and fight the global men's loneliness epidemic. To lift each other up in our shittiest (no pun intended!) moments in life.

Mods, this is no troll post, I believe this is the way for society to propel itself forwards.


r/The10thDentist 2h ago

Music Mariah Carey’s ‘All I Want For Christmas is You’ is one of the best Christmas songs ever written

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Not to sound snobbish but I come from a music background and I have pretty good taste. Everyone I know hates this song with the exception of one musician friend of mine who is the most talented artist and has the best taste out of anyone I know. But most artsy, with-it people I know exhibit or at least put on a vehement contempt for this song around Christmas time.

It is certainly unfashionable to love a song that is so ubiquitous and mainstream, but this is a patently great song. The song itself, besides Mariah Carey’s performance which we will get to later, is beautiful, melancholic, spirited, and deeply tragic. The lyrics capture a moment of plaintive madness from a woman in desperate, painful unrequited love. Her love interest is the object of a mad, beautiful obsession that has broken her almost to the point of disease. She is indifferent to material possessions, family, and nature. The only thing that matters to her is her love, who, apparently, is not there.

“I’m just gonna keep on waiting underneath the mistletoe.” Imagine that image. Christmas Day, alone in her home, in an almost existential defiance of her reality. Her love is so frightening and spectacular and incredibly painful.

The cheery arrangement of the song belies the deeply sad harmony of the music, especially the lovely minor iv chord, for any musicians out there. And the melody is I would say very cleverly designed around the harmony.

Mariah’s performance of the song is ostensibly much lighter than the nature of the song in its abstract, but somehow I actually like the juxtaposition for the most part. I have a particular penchant for sad, emotionally heavy music to be played with high energy and spirit.

For those curious, I think All I Want for Christmas is You is somewhere in the top 3 Christmas songs along with Christmas Time is Here, and Shchedryk.


r/The10thDentist 3h ago

Discussion Thread AI gets way more hate than it deserves.

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I think a lot of the hate AI gets is irrational.

Every time a new technology appears, people predict it'll ruin society. They said it about calculators, the internet, smartphones, Wikipedia, and even books at one point. Yet we adapted, learned how to use them responsibly, and they became part of everyday life.

I think AI will be the same.

People treat using AI like it's somehow lazy or unethical by default. I don't see it that way. If you're using it to cheat on an exam or scam people, that's obviously wrong. But using AI to learn, brainstorm, debug code, explain concepts, summarize information, or improve your writing is no different than using Google, YouTube, or spellcheck. It's just a more powerful tool.

The part that confuses me is when people proudly say they'll never touch AI because they think it "does the thinking for you." That mindset reminds me of people who refused to use search engines because they thought memorizing everything was better.

Meanwhile, AI is helping doctors detect diseases earlier, speeding up drug discovery, helping blind people understand their surroundings, providing real-time translation, making education more accessible, improving disaster prediction, and assisting scientists with research that would otherwise take much longer.

We're still in the early stages, and it's already doing all that.

I think 20 years from now, knowing how to use AI effectively will be viewed as a basic skill, just like knowing how to use the internet is today. The people refusing to learn it because of principle aren't making a statement—they're making themselves less prepared for the future.

PS: I asked AI to help me polish a post defending AI. It felt thematically appropriate.


r/The10thDentist 8h ago

Health/Safety High caffeine drinks should come with a warning label like tobacco or alcohol, and kids under 16 should be banned from purchase.

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r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Society/Culture People who don’t need to work shouldn’t be expected to get a job

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I am 20 and I am in college. I got my first part time job when I was 18 and it was actual hell so I quit after 9 months and was unemployed for 2 years until last week. And my new job I already hate because it is ruining my social life.

My parents, (my dad in particular) have very successful careers, one works in finance and the other healthcare. My sister who is 7 years older than me followed my mother’s career path and she hates it and wishes she did something else but she said it’s too late because she has 2 kids now. And I have no interest in either industry and have no idea what career path I want to pursue.

I live with my parents rent free and I pay zero bills. They fund my entire life and they have done up until this point. They have spent over 1m on private school tuition for me and my sister from JK to Grade 12, taken us on a ton of vacations, and have really given us a privileged upbringing.

Realistically they could fund my life forever and I could go without working, but them and everyone else expects me to have a job and I was basically shamed for being unemployed by other people. I didn’t choose to be born so why is it wrong for me to me to want to do nothing in life. My parents have the means to make it happen but I’m viewed as a leech for wanting to live off them. People who don’t need work as a necessity shouldn’t be expected to, I don’t see why I have to


r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Animals/Nature Dolphins are by far the worst animal and it isn’t even close.

433 Upvotes

I genuinely despise dolphins and I’ll give you some reasons why. I’m dead serious and also very high right now.

Number one they are intelligent. I don’t care what people say in the context of “oh they’re just animals“. No. They have human level intellect, even if it is just comparable to that of a toddler at most. It makes what they do all the more despicable.

Number two, sexual violence. Male dolphins are known for gathering in groups of about 4 to 6 dolphins and gang raping female dolphins as well as small sharks and seals. While yes, they are animals and many animals are known to do this. I’m specifically pointing this out because I do not like dolphins.

Number three they are ugly. Even before I knew of the evils that dolphins commit I knew that they were objectively one of the most unappealing animals I’ve ever laid my eyes upon. They’re simply disgusting. I can’t explain it that well, but they’re just so incredibly gross and alien looking that I do wholeheartedly believe that they come from a different planet.

Number four General violence. Other actions they are known to do is kill their own in infants. It’s mainly done as an act of jealousy if the male dolphin does not like the baby dolphins mother and failed to obtain her as a mate. For their own enjoyment, they also go after puffer fish and get high off of their toxins for their own enjoyment. This often kills the puffer fish. Nothing fun or cute about this.

Number five they contribute little to nothing to the ecosystem. I truly believe that if they were gone, nothing would honestly change anything they can do can just be done better by sharks I like sharks way more. This is a shark bias post.

Ultimately, the dolphin is an oceanic apex sociopath. Rather than acting on basic survival instincts, these cretins use their advanced intellect to form political gangs, eliminate their young, and torment other species for amusement. Because they possess the self-awareness to understand suffering yet actively choose to inflict it, their cruelty should not be excused as a primal drive. They are uniquely capable of calculated malice.


r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Music I hate music being everywhere all the time and we as a society should be more comfortable with silence

550 Upvotes

As a foreword, I will say that I am someone who prefers silence in most situations. I don’t mindlessly listen to music in the background while doing things. I listen to music a lot just like everyone else, but when I’m doing it, I am actively listening to it and that’s my main purpose. I’d say I do get over-stimulated pretty easily, and hate most distractions. I’ve done a decent amount of mindfulness practice and meditation in my life, and that definitely plays a role in my preferences…)

Music is played everywhere and I don’t actually believe that people want it.

At the gym, everyone is wearing headphones, no one is listening to the overhead music on the speakers. No one who has forgotten their headphones has been like “oh it’s ok i love the music my gym plays.” It’s just some shitty spotify playlist that the gym plays, once again for no reason that nobody is actually asking for. Who the hell is happy that Jelly Roll is playing while hitting cable flys? Why would anyone want to listen to Journey hitting legs? Why do gyms play music at all to begin with when nearly every single person specifically chooses not to listen to it?

I can kind of be convinced with restaurants helping set the vibe, but it is always far too loud in inherently distracting versus situating. 

My biggest issue is that it’s all the same songs being played over and over again, incessantly. Who has ever been happy when they walk into a coffee shop that the first three songs played are Shape of You by Ed Sheeran, Blinding Lights by the Weeknd, and Sugar by Maroon 5? People complain about songs benig overplayed ALL THE TIME, yet nothing ever happens. 
And do not give me “Well they’re the most streamed songs so clearly people want to listen to them” when all of these songs are just on all of the same playlists that are played in public all at the same places. Restaurants, bars, grocery stores, gyms. Nobody is asking for them to be played.

If you go to a sporting event, it’s the same 50 songs being played at every stadium across the country, whether at a world series game or a d3 football game. And it’s SO FUCKING LOUD. I will sit at football games trying to talk to someone in the bleachers and cannot hear what they are saying because Power by Kanye West is blasting through shitty speakers 45 min before kickoff when there’s 15 people on the field. I promise you they could do without it while warming up. Oh boy, Thunderstruck is next - Who could’ve seen that coming.

I think there’s like a dead internet theory equivalent of music, where songs are being played constantly but no one is actually choosing to listen to the low song. We all think that people want to listen to songs, but most of the music in the world is being played without people requesting it IMO. Songs rack up billions of streams and yet when you look at the most streamed songs, these songs are hated in music discourse circles and are constantly ridiculed for being overplayed. 


r/The10thDentist 18h ago

Society/Culture The backlash against North West, Blue Ivy Carter and other tweens is gross.

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Everything thinks they're a philosopher or something given the thousands of invasive think pieces about nonsensical topics. I say invasive because the internet is all too comfortable discussing children's bodies.

It ain't a new thing. I'm the same age as Alabama Barker and the amount of bullying she got from grown people, most infamously RiceDum, was gross. And if we're speaking on fashion, it was technically worse for her. But she was okay.

Blue Ivy Carter, Beyonce and Jay Z's daughter, now 14. It was milder for her, her appearance at the 2024 Grammy's sparked controversy for wearing a normal gown and makeup. People were saying she looked like an adult but her face and body were clearly that of a tween (not child). What people were freaked out over was her chest, obviously (they just didn't want to say that). Now, biologically, it would be extremely rare for a girl her age not to be developed. The breasts bud between 8-11 and for black girls, it's usually 8-9. She was 12, not 2. It's body shaming and it's adultification.

Same for North West, the picture that sparked this controversy was this. Dun, dun, DUNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!! A loose fitting sleeveless top (cuz it was hot) and baggy shorts that reached her knees. How shameless/s. People were saying she was dressed up like an adult apparently because she went out without a burka. Now, the girl behind her is wearing the exact same fit, but her shorts are way shorter and tight fitting. But she lacks a certain something...ah, it's the chest, again. Creeps.

I browsed her tiktok and all her clothes are similarly rather loose and cover her. Her piercings (other than the general ear ones) are fake and she wears fake tattoos sometimes. Pretty standard. It appears Kim didn't want her to dye her hair so the blue wig was the compromise. She looks cute and alt. She's also a Lolirock fan, pretty cool. I was when I was like 11.

All I can see is "Kanye was right." About what exactly?

When I was her age-

When she was your age, kids dressed alt, and wore fake piercings and tattoos, nothing abnormal. But-kids wore makeup when you were her age, I see the photos. Not "kid makeup" (whatever that means), trendy makeup. My sister and I were dancers and so wore makeup often at performances but also for formal events. We grew up in an ultra conservative area, the girls always wore makeup (not at school cuz it wasn't allowed). North's 13, girls wear makeup at that age, even earlier.

All I see is fetishising an imagined idea of childhood. Just today, I stumbled upon a tweet of a woman shaming a 14 year old girl making a thirst edit of a male celeb. She claimed that she was playing dolls at that age. You must've been a baby madame because 99% of girls that age don't. Celeb crushes, smut fanfic, burgeoning sexual desire. It's standard.

Oh, kids have also been on the internet since forever. You guys used MySpace back then.

1-4, 5-8, 9-14. All very different stages of life. Be normal, please.


r/The10thDentist 21h ago

Discussion Thread I would appreciate a badge or something else associated with our Redditor character that exposes people’s relative decade age; like 20+, 30+,40+

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There are a lot of inexperienced people on the internet, confidently espousing ideas- which is great (most of the time) But it would be useful to quickly dismiss/ disengage with opinions from those that really have no skin in that particular forum. Also, it may be a useful way of making it easier to identify bots. Sure people could just lie when making an account, but still the actuality of their youth and inexperience will expose most of them. Ageism is a thing, and it’s not always negative.


r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Other If the afterlife is real I would love frisky people having sex on top of my tombstone

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I guess by most people’s measures it’s sacrilegious or disrespectful or something? But it would be kind of beautiful to see something so lively (as in “full of life”) after my own life has gone by. Honestly I have no idea if this is a 10th dentist opinion but I was reading something where people go to bang on a tombstone and it’s presented as disrespectful to the deceased. This opinion is of course assuming it’s like a couple in love - if it’s some married guy and a sex worker I’m haunting a motherfucker no question


r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Society/Culture The 988 lifeline is deeply problematic and doesn't actually solve anything

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The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is peak performative empathy. It’s the institutional equivalent of tweeting "reach out if you need to talk, my DMs are open" while secretly hoping nobody actually messages you.

The whole system relies on scripted platitudes from strangers. You are calling someone who has been given a couple of weeks of basic active listening training and they are essentially reading off a mental script of validated phrases like "I hear you," "That sounds really tough," and "Thank you for sharing that." It feels like talking to an AI customer service bot that's trying to calm you down about a late package, except the package is your life.

Worse yet is the underlying threat of police intervention. For a service that positions itself as a gentle, safe space, the moment you express actual immediate risk, they can and do trace your call and send the cops to your door. Nothing says "gentle support" like being handcuffed by police and forced into an expensive, involuntary psych ward hold.

It just avoids the actual causes of despair. Society loves 988 because it’s a cheap bandaid. It lets people pretend they care about mental health without fixing the systemic issues that make people miserable, like the absolute meat grinder of the modern economy, isolation, or the fact that actual, long term therapy costs hundreds of dollars an hour. Instead of building a real, interconnected community where peers actually look out for one another, we built a centralized, corporate feeling 3 digit hotline to outsource our empathy. It is the weakest, most passive way to handle a mental health crisis.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Animals/Nature Big Dogs should only be allowed in public with a muzzle

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Dog attacks with serious consequences happen. Especially to people who are already scared of dogs, since dogs can sense that. Every owner thinks their own dog is harmless, but it's not like they can truly know that. Yes, it sucks for the dog, it's not their fault, but also you probably wouldn't want them to be put down because they follow their instinct. And if you can't handle either, don't have a dog.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture Tattoos have become so cringe

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I used to think people with tattoos were badasses. In some sense, they were. Tattoos used to be for the outliers of society. Think soldiers, hardcore criminals, ancient warriors. Those people earned their ink.

Now every time I open Reddit, I see some dork showing off his new Nintendo™ Zelda™ or Nickelodeon™ 90's Sunday morning cartoon tattoos. My gosh, I get so much second-hand embarrassment from these mindless conformers. I think subconsciously most people end up regretting it, just take a look at r/TattooAdvice.

The way people treat getting permanent modifications on their body without really thinking about what it means, just makes you look impulsive and dumb to me.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture The USA as big as a melting pot of cultures and ethnicities is the most uneducated on knowing the difference between Nationality, cultural identity, and race/ethnicity.

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For example, your average American thinks that every Mexican looks like Speedy Gonzalez. But they're flabbergasted when they learn that black and Caucasian Latinos exist in places like CDMX, Brazil, Argentina, Colombia etc.

I myself am ethnically Iberian and Middle Eastern but cultural am a Mexican Latino due to being raised in Tijuana, MX. My younger cousin is half Vietnamese but she's culturally also a Mexican Latina due to being raised by the Mexican side of my family.

It can get annoying at times. For example we'll go with family to a Mexican restaurant and the servers will take our parents and siblings orders in Spanish and then switch to English when it's our turn.

This doesn't seem to be an issue with my European family or my Mexican family as when someone is born in one of their states/countries they acclimate and adopt the native language.

But racism in America seems to play a huge part in this.

I.E. Karen at Target wouldn't bat an eye at me speaking French to my fiance but if I switched to Spanish to talk to my mom who has very obvious indigenous traitssuddenly it would turn into "this is America we speak American"


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Technology I like using AI to test & adjust recipes

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I see AI bashing a lot (valid) & sometimes even calling out AI recipes specifically. But I've just been very happy and successful in using it, and it keeps me from navigating the nightmare of online recipe blogs.

I think the approximations from many sources can be a strength. While finding the perfect recipe can happen, so can finding a dud.

It's very easy to scale sizing or discuss alterations with. If I want to use butter instead of oil, if I want to make some change for nutrition, ingredients on hand, or just because. It's also helpful if I want to give it some broad guidance but don't know what exactly I want, but am looking for certain qualities and ingredients.

If I'm just starting out, I might ask for an initial recipe in a few different chats just to see if there's any major variance. Then I'll either pick one, or use that feedback to guide the prompt I'm actually gonna use.

If I make a mistake, I can get advice on how to pivot. If I make a change, it has some logical advice on how it might change cooking times or temps.

All together, it's been much more valuable than the recipes I've just straight followed. It's more flexible when I need or want an alternative, and more able to teach me the how and why of the process since I can interact with it in a way that I can't with a flat recipe.

It's the next best thing to having a teacher, cooking with an experienced family member, or watching old episodes of Good Eats, and put me miles ahead in actually learning a lot of the how's and why's that I rarely picked up just following instructions. And as someone who wants to use items locally available & cares just as much about the process as the result, it's really been an exceptional tool over the past couple of years


r/The10thDentist 2d ago

Other Advice nowadays is too washed and therapy-coded

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I feel like the way that most people seem to give advice is too generic. Even though it is much more prevalent on the internet (and this webiste in particular), I find that IRL people also increasingly give the same type of advice. It seems that regardless of the situation at hand, lots of (good-natured) people tend to go towards the same topics: ✨seek therapy ✨ don't compare yourself to others ✨ live your truth ✨ communicate openly and honestly✨. It all feels so performative and shallow.

Those aren't even bad advices. Of course you should communicate openly in most cases. But they lack any sort of nuance, and people just take them at face value. You shouldn't "live your truth" if it makes you a cunt, for example.
I can illustrate my point through two personal examples. In the first one, I was venting to my friends about I felt unfilfilled in my current job. I saw how colleagues from university, close friends of mine and with similar skills, went on to have really cool opportunities abroad, and I was still in my home country, even though I was actively trying to find a job abroad. Their advice, in a very reduced way, was limited to telling myself I shouldn't compare myself to other people. Really? Comparison is part of being human, how can we be inspired by others if we don't compare ourselves with them? How can we know what is possible if we don't see others aiming for it? Sure, we don't NEED to see others to try something new, and we don't need to try something new just because others do it, but it is a way to broaden our horizons through the experience of others.

The second example was today, and led me to write this post. I was venting about a situationship I have, and that the girl I'm seeing stopped texting me after finishing her exams. My friends' advice was that I should have a serious discussion and communicate openly with her, expressing how I felt. This situationship has a limited time (as I'm leaving in a month to work abroad, finally), and has always been casual. I feel like having that serious conversation would be good advice if it was a serious relationship (or had the potential to be). Talking about feelings in this case, from my experience, would more likely just mess the whole situation up.

The advice just feels really shallow. But it's hard to argue against it, since it is well intentioned and based on solid principles. I can't directly disagree with them saying something like "No, open communication isn't that good, actually", because that just sounds dumb. (I feel like) there is a societal expectation to just accept these advices, and if someone tries to argue against them they end up looking like someone with bad values or without tact. I don't know if it's because I'm a man, but the advice feels somewhat "feminine", instead of real and useful. When I receive that advice, it feels lacking.

I get why that advice happens, though. Especially online, people can't really understand the context other than what the post/comment says. And in both examples I gave, I talked to my friends via text. Maybe in person it would be easier. But I think even in person it's getting more like what we see online. And before someone comments that, I'm not anti-woke or anything like that. English is also not my first language, so I might be using some terms incorrectly


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture You shouldn’t be able to try persons under 18 as adults.

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The world today has a massive justice boner that is unwarranted. I don’t care how heinous a crime is. If it’s by someone under 18 then you can’t try them as an adult. We drew the line at 18. We decided collectively that 18 is an adult. Then why do we decide that we want to throw the book extra hard at kids? In the US we don’t even let 18 year olds drink.

A crimes severity has no bearing on the mind of a child. Even if the child meticulously planned the crime before hand. This is not “adult” behavior. Adults are expected to not commit crimes let alone pre-meditate them. Having grey areas in already predefined laws just means justice is whatever a judge thinks it is at the time and not what’s written down.


r/The10thDentist 3d ago

TV/Movies/Fiction I cannot stand Kristen Bell

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I don’t know if it’s her face or her way of speaking or just her existence. Every single thing I see her in, I’m like “eww, not her again”. I cannot tolerate her even for 1 min.

Same for Elizabeth Banks, cannot stand her acting.

I am a rational person in life but my feelings toward these 2 women has no rational reason. Also, I’m a woman in my early thirties, in case people make it a “gender” based issue.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Society/Culture everyone should pay for themselves on dates

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everyone should pay for themselves on dates. no matter their gender or anything. if you are gonna go on a date with someone you should prepare to pay for yourself.

if you are worried about money then you should go somewhere you can afford. having to pay for your date just cause its “traditional” is dumb. if you wanna seem invested in your date, you should pay yourself instead of letting your date pay for both of you.

this is a good way of letting your date know that you aren’t going on the date cause its free. you are showing that you are interested in them.

its also a nice thing to do so you don’t have to worry about the costs of the date, and just focus on your partner/date.


r/The10thDentist 1d ago

Sports Athletes shouldn’t have to live and breathe sports 24/7. They should absolutely see it as a business to make money and achieve financial freedom.

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What do people expect from a poor kid who grew up with financial struggles and never got to enjoy life because of poverty? To spend his entire life revolving around training instead of using sports to build a comfortable life for himself and his family? People romanticize this way too much. They act like an athlete has to wake up thinking about training, eat thinking about tactics, and fall asleep watching replays. Yet the people demanding this usually don’t treat their own jobs that way.

Most people work, earn their paycheck, and then live their lives. They spend time with family, hang out with friends, play video games, travel, and pursue other goals. Why should athletes be any different?

For many athletes, sports are an incredibly well-paid profession, not a religion. If someone trains hard, performs, and uses that money to secure the future of their parents, children, and future generations, I honestly don’t see the problem. An athletic career is short. One serious injury can end everything overnight. It makes perfect sense to prioritize financial security instead of obsessing over one more trophy just to satisfy fans.

Fans treat sports as the center of the universe because, to them, it’s entertainment and passion. For the athlete, it’s often just a job. And a job doesn’t have to be the love of your life.

Not everyone dreams of becoming a legend. Some people simply want to do their job well, make money, and build a better life. And that’s perfectly okay. The internet sells the idea that every athlete should love their sport above everything else. I think that’s more of a fan’s expectation than an obligation for the people who actually compete.

What do people expect from a poor kid who grew up with financial struggles and never got to enjoy life because of poverty? To spend his entire life revolving around training instead of using sports to build a comfortable life for himself and his family?

People romanticize this way too much. They act like an athlete has to wake up thinking about training, eat thinking about tactics, and fall asleep watching replays. Yet the people demanding this usually don’t treat their own jobs that way. Most people work, earn their paycheck, and then live their lives. They spend time with family, hang out with friends, play video games, travel, and pursue other goals. Why should athletes be any different?

For many athletes, sports are an incredibly well-paid profession, not a religion. If someone trains hard, performs, and uses that money to secure the future of their parents, children, and future generations, I honestly don’t see the problem.

An athletic career is short. One serious injury can end everything overnight. It makes perfect sense to prioritize financial security instead of obsessing over one more trophy just to satisfy fans. Fans treat sports as the center of the universe because, to them, it’s entertainment and passion. For the athlete, it’s often just a job. And a job doesn’t have to be the love of your life.

Not everyone dreams of becoming a legend. Some people simply want to do their job well, make money, and build a better life. And that’s perfectly okay.

The internet sells the idea that every athlete should love their sport above everything else. I think that’s more of a fan’s expectation than an obligation for the people who actually compete.