My partner and I have been together for four years now. We got together in high school and, other than a few bumps in the road, we’ve been together happily.

But I have a problem.

This problem doesn’t come up very often, but when it does, it’s always jarring.

Today started when I mentioned an Instagram post I had seen that said women should own personal protection dogs. Seems fairly normal, right? Showed him, chuckling, said it seemed like a good idea.

He seemed annoyed by this, and said “Well, most women would probably use them to control men. I don’t think it’s a good idea.”

I had to sit with that for a second, because my head was already spinning. Statistics about IPV, DV, S/A, etc. flew through my head at a speed uncanny.

But I said nothing, because confrontation isn’t my strong suit.

I think I am overreacting to this because of my own history of being a victim of IPV, but I think the rose colored glasses are coming off as well. I’m insanely upset, and I haven’t spoken to him since, though he has made no attempt to speak to me beyond this either.

What do you think? AIO about his response? Should I forget about it and move on?

Thanks for anyone who’s read this far.

Follow-Up:
Thank you to everyone who responded. I definitely needed outside perspective on this. Some of my phrasing wasn’t great, I wrote the initial post in a faintly triggered mindset, as I had some not-so-fond memories going on. The support was appreciated, and the people who told me I was overreacting: thank you. Looking back, I think I definitely was, and I wasn’t in the right frame of mind. I had showed him in a joking manner, and he (in my mind at the time) blew it out of proportion, which set me on edge and on the defense. In hindsight, it really doesn’t seem like anything to be worried about. But again, thank you to everyone who took the time to read and respond. I appreciate you all

My (19F) boyfriend (28M) really likes taking me out on nice dates and I usually let him pick the location. I was excited when he asked me to pick the restaurant for my birthday dinner and I proposed two options.

“Red” - A mid price range, casual, but still incredible family restaurant that I really love.

And

“Yellow” - A more upscale Italian restaurant owned by a fairly well known celebrity chef, that has a Michelin star.

He responded to both of my proposed options by laughing and saying he’s “never heard of that”. I’m honestly not sure what he’s trying to say with that. My bf is not a big foodie, doesn’t work in the restaurant industry or anything like that. I am interpreting his messages as implying that he’s some sort of authority on cuisine in our area. I know that’s not the case, because these restaurants are not holes in the wall. “Yellow” is literally one of the very few in our area with a Michelin star.

He instead offered “Teal”, which I looked up. It’s downtown and looks to be mostly a celebrity spot. Their food looks perfectly fine, but it struck me as a place people go to perform wealth and popularity rather than to enjoy the food.

When I told him about the Michelin star he changed his tune. But I’m still feeling hurt about the whole thing. It feels like he asked me where I wanted to go for my bday just so he could boast his superior… something. AIO?

We’ve been dating for 9 months

I’m visiting Greece with my boyfriend and staying at his parents’ house. I’m learning Greek, but I’m not fluent enough to follow full conversations.

Yesterday we went for coffee with his mother and they spoke mostly in Greek. I felt excluded because I couldn’t really participate, so after a while I went on my phone. My boyfriend got upset. I told him I felt left out, and he said I was making him feel like he couldn’t talk with his mother. I told him that was not the issue. I wasn’t upset that he was talking to her; I just didn’t know what else to do while sitting there unable to follow the conversation. After I said I was uncomfortable, they started speaking English with me.

Today we went for coffee with his mother again and something similar happened. At first they were speaking in Greek. I tried to join the conversation twice, but nobody hear me or even looked at me. I got uncomfortable and looked at my phone again. My boyfriend noticed and got upset with me for being on my phone. His mother then started speaking English with me, but by that point I was already overwhelmed and sad.

When he asked me if something was wrong, I said no because I didn’t want to make a problem in front of his mother. Later I told him I felt excluded again.

He got very upset and said I was making him feel bad for talking to his mother, that she only had these days off, and that I ruined their peaceful time together. He also said we fight every holiday and that if this keeps happening, he won’t come to Greece with me again. He says these are not threats, just “free will” and “warnings.”

I understand that his mother is important to him and that they don’t see each other often. I never wanted to stop him from talking to her. I also understand that being on my phone can look rude. But I felt uncomfortable sitting there unable to participate while they spoke a language I don’t fully understand, especially because both of them can speak English and I was there with them.

Honestly, I would rather stay home alone and let them go for coffee together than sit there feeling uncomfortable and excluded.

Afterwards, my boyfriend approached me many times to talk, but it felt like he was coming from anger, blame, and pressure, so I didn’t want to talk in that moment. Then he started texting me, and the messages are attached so you can have an idea of what I meant with anger, blame and pressure.

Was I overreacting by feeling excluded and using my phone?

EDIT 1: in the messages he said he replied to my question of the backery, but this NEVER happened, because when I asked them, they didn’t even looked at me either replied.

EDIT 2: we are together for 3.5 years and almost 3 living together. Me 34 he is 32.

Sorry i had to repost because nit all the pics were in the last one. I know its bad to look at his phone but it always seems like he's always reconnecting with old relationships. I know this ex and she's a very sweet girl!! I want to make it clear that I don't think she's flirting with him. I just can't tell if the playful comment about rolling her around the shop he works at is a normal thing to say to an ex you havent spoken to in a long time. Like idk am i buggin? Because I feel I might be buggin. I couldn't sleep the rest of the night lol

I’m just going to jump straight in, all the usual stuff, this is a new profile, all names are fake etc, I just need a little advice or someone to pull me back off the metaphorical ledge -

I (f26), think my girlfriend ‘Eve’ (f25) is pregnant.

We are both female, I thought we were both lesbians, but I can’t shake the fact I think she is pregnant.

She has been bloated, she claimed she had food poisoning last week, but is still being sick sporadically. I joked that she might be pregnant, just being silly, and she literally acted like I had just asked her why she shot my dog. She asked why I was accusing her of cheating, got really huffy with me and then acted like nothing happened 20 mins later.

I didn’t accuse her of cheating, because I didn’t think she was cheating, nor did I actually think she was pregnant until she acted like that.

Now I don’t know what to think, apart from her being ill I haven’t noticed anything out of the ordinary. We are not precious about our technology, she can use my stuff, I can use hers and that doesn’t seem to have changed. So what the actual fuck is going on.

Is my supposedly ‘gold star’ lesbian girlfriend actually bisexual- which wouldn’t be an issue, but cheating on me would be a massive issue. We have talked about being exclusive, we live together - I’m spiralling and I don’t want to just jump to a wild conclusion but would I be overreacting if I ask my girlfriend to take a pregnancy test?

Edit - Easier to edit than to reply to everyone.

Thank you Reddit for doing what you do best and pulling me off the edge of stupidity.

To answer a few concerns and questions - the comment “gold star” lesbian comes from Eve herself, I only brought it up because she is the one who said it. She thinks it’s funny. She was born by a female doctor, her dads never been in her life so she was raised by her mum and aunties - she went to an all girls school, she’s had a very sapphic life really.

The original joke, was simply a joke. We were watching tv, she said she felt sick again, I said she really needed to go to the doctor (she isn’t a fan, there have been times she wouldn’t go unless me or her mum or friend were with her), she said no, I offered to go with her - she said no to that and I said (honestly it was innocent) ‘what if you’re pregnant!?’ - I said it in a jokey way, in the way I have said it before when I have been late on my period and I will gasp ‘what if I’m pregnant?’ Knowing there’s no chance. It was simply the fact she got so agitated by it that threw me off. I just started picking things apart in my head, and going into self destruction mode. I know the reality of it doesn’t make sense.

I am not biphobic, I love everyone. Not only do I not care what your sexual preference is, I’m not interested as long as it’s consensual and legal. All love is valid, and so are you.

We are not American, we are from the UK. (So sorry you have a stomach virus going on as well as everything else) Eve is ok, she swears it’s food poisoning, it’s possible, I have seen her eat sushi from a petrol station before so it’s probably very likely, but I am going to insist she goes to the gp tomorrow or I’m driving her to urgent care the next time she’s sick.

She’s currently in full starfish mode in bed fast asleep, so I think she’s fine, she doesn’t seem to have noticed I nearly rear ended our relationship- thankfully.

Fingers crossed I’m not posting any updates in 9 months time 😅

I wasn’t sure what to tag this, but basically I was eating at a restaurant with my grandpa and this random man walked up to our table and asked me if my car was the sports car outside. Thinking he may have hit my car or damaged it, I said yes. He proceeded to tell me he was wondering what kind of car it was because he wanted one like mine and that he took pictures of it. Firstly, I thought this was weird because it literally says what it is on the back of the car?? Second why are we taking pictures of strangers cars…? His questions made me think he was confirming that it was my car. Also he walked in alone but walked out with an elderly woman and they were acting “frisky” I would call it. He looked like Johnny Depp with hippie glasses and a golf cap which, again, weirded me out. He also kept telling me how nice of a car it was (it’s really not anything special). So idk maybe I’m just overthinking it and he really did just wanna know what it was despite the make and model being on the back of it. Btw I’m a short young female so that’s another reason why I’m very suspicious and sort of scared now.

We have been dating since May 2026, but we’ve been friends since May 2023.

Unfortunately, a day before my birthday his mother suffered a horrible injury. He texted me on tuesday saying she had been hospitalised, he’d been at the hospital all day, and that he hasn’t been able to use his phone or answer texts. She had fallen from a significant height, had facial and internal injuries, and even had a seizure in the hospital. So it was REALLY serious.

He told me he’d talk when he had time. I said I love him and I understand but to not worry about me and focus on making sure she’s okay. He’s so sweet that despite him going through so much, he wished me at midnight on Wednesday on my birthday.

After that, he disappeared and of course I understood. I was worrying the whole time so I texted him that I love him and I hope his mom is okay. He loves her a LOT, like a lot. He’s very very close to her.

At one point in our relationship, he said something that I found hurtful. He said “I love you a lot but I will always choose my mother over you”. This was bad because I never asked him to choose between us. He said it only to showcase how much he loves her. I have a terrible relationship with my mother so I struggle with understanding familial relationships as easily and I also have BPD and it’s very very painful for me to hear something like that.

Anyway, after wishing me on my birthday, he stopped responding. I checked in to see how his mom was and how he is, but he hasn’t responded. Yesterday, I was so anxious and I was afraid that something truly horrible happened and she isn’t here anymore, and he’s grieving her and that’s why he’s so withdrawn.

I was anxious enough to text his best friend to get some information on my bf. He said that my bf is okay, his mom is stable now and she’ll be okay in a few weeks. He said that my bf isn’t doing mentally okay and he’s busy at the hospital.

I said that it’s great that she’s doing well and that he’s okay too, but can he (the friend) please tell him (my bf) that I miss him and I wish he’d text me once reassuring me that he will reply as soon as he can because it’s been quite a while and I’m really worried. I hate uncertainty, but I feel horrible because this situation is out of his control and maybe he needs to be away from me to deal with it. But I don’t know for how long because he won’t speak to me.

It’s been three days!! Is it unreasonable to expect a text like “I’m okay. I’m still at the hospital. My mom is alright. I’ll text when I can, I love you”. It would take less than a minute. Especially because he’s in contact with his friend and not me. But I feel guilty for thinking all this and expecting him to act a certain way and reassure me. I don’t want to make someone’s family troubles about my feelings. But like I said, I have BPD and he knows that. Silence is incredibly difficult for me. I’m trying very hard to seperate my fear of abandonment from what is actually reasonable to expect from a relationship.

If your partner disappeared for three days because of a family emergency like this, would you expect at least one short text, or would you consider complete silence understandable?

I need honest opinions because I do not trust my own judgement right now. I’ve never had this happen to me before (in a healthy relationship).

TLDR: My boyfriend’s mom is in the hospital after a serious accident. He wished me happy birthday and said he loved me, but then stopped replying. It’s been three days and I’m worried. I feel hurt that he hasn’t sent even one text, but I feel guilty for wanting him to. Is this an overreaction from my part?

ETA: (i commented this but also putting it here for context) he told me that he’d pick his mom over me in 2023. i should’ve clarified that our relationship had always had a romantic undertone. we would hook up but didn’t date until this year.

ETA 2: im going to stop responding now. i appreciate everybody for helping me understand this situation better by illustrating where i was in the wrong. i wish some people had been kinder, because i really am struggling and it hurts to read things that suggest that im too selfish, too needy or too much to be in relationships, or that i sound 15 lol. i can be immature but it still hurts to read that. i’m sorry for blowing up at people, i got reactive because i felt hunted. i know that sounds dramatic but it did seem like some people responded very aggressively, im too sensitive for it despite knowing better and i apologise

what happened to his mom was a horrible accident and it came out of nowhere and neither of us really knew how to deal with it. that’s why i came here for objectivity. thank you so much to everyone for different perspectives.

I work in a office with a very relaxed dress code. We can wear pretty much anything as long as it's work appropriate: closed-toe shoes, shorts no more than 4 inches above the knee, sleeveless tops with straps at least 3 inches wide, and no leggings unless your hips/butt are covered.

I'm pretty thrifty and have always had my own style being in an XL-1XL size 16/18. I wear oversized T-shirts with biker shorts, flowy skirts with graphic tees, and other outfits that all fit within the dress code. The facility also gives us company T-shirts and sweatshirts a few times a year and encourages us to wear them.

I never wear a tshirts exactly as they came as I personalize them to match my style. I always cut the neck of the shirt to have a modest "V" cut IYKYK and wore some oversized (I'll pick out a 3XL) and wear with biker shorts. I have cropped the sleeves on a work sweatshirt, reverse tie-dyed one with bleach, and tie-dyed another shirt because I didn't love the neon color. Recently, I cut a soft cotton sweatshirt into a cardigan so I cut it down the front middle because I ordered myself a 3XL. I was still wearing them in a work-appropriate way and never thought it would be an issue.

Eventually my supervisor told me I needed to stop "vandalizing" the company shirts. Fair enough. I immediately stopped wearing any altered company apparel and now just wear my own clothes that fully comply with the dress code.

The part that's bothering me is that the comments haven't stopped.

Now, when I clock in, multiple coworkers make comments about whatever I'm wearing. My appearance has somehow become a regular topic of conversation. My supervisor has also made sarcastic remarks to me, including saying, "Working here isn't a runway. It's a job."

The thing is, I'm not violating the dress code ?? never was?? and now I'm not wearing a company shirt at all, I still feel like I'm being singled out. It feels like people have gone from addressing a concern about altering company "attire" that is FREE and given to ME to criticizing my personal style in general??

For context, I cannot wear flashy accessories at work. We aren't allowed more than 2 rings, no bracelets, hats, long nails, nor dangling earrings. I wear short nails, usually nail stickers, a smartwatch, and we are allowed a single necklace. Compared to how I dress outside of work, I'm drastically toned down.

No dress code rules against hair dye (mine is natural and my supervisor's is forest green?? another has neon pink), tattoos allowed to be visible and no restrictions on facial piercings. I only have my ears pierced once. Some of these coworkers have 2-5 piercings in their nose. Some have nipples peirces and are noticeably braless, no issue.

At this point, it feels like people are waiting to comment on whatever I wear, even though I'm following the written dress code. I understand management asking me not to alter company shirts ...I guess... and I respected that immediately. What I don't understand is why my clothes continue to be a topic of discussion??

AIO for feeling like this has crossed the line from a dress code conversation into my coworkers and supervisor policing my individuality? When does this become a toxic work environment for HR to be involved? AIO?

P.S. I've thought about shifting to a self-made work uniform for myself to stop the comments of wearing black slacks, black shoes, and alternating some solid colored blouses with a few non-patterned cardigans.

My husband has a female workmate who has been getting into my nerves for almost a year now. And I see it as she’s not observing any boundaries. I am not sure if I’m just overreacting or I am just biased.

For context, they have been working together for more than 2 years now and were previously on the same post. But after some time, the workmate became a temporary OIC which is a level above my husband - making her his boss.

The first time I “met” her was when she butt in during one of me and my husband’s videocall - they were at their company’s yearend party. She basically saw my husband talking to me and just straight out butted in saying “Hi bestie!” just before my husband could step away from their table to have privacy. Which did not sit well with me because it was my first interaction with her and that’s how she “introduces” herself. I just let it pass. A few months passed, I noticed how she acts around my husband. Here are some that triggered me:

1. On one of trips she replied to my husband’s reposted story (my story) of the bed decor for our anniversary. She said “oohh, the crime scene 👀” I would have laughed it off it were one of our female close friends or guy friends, but her saying that? It made me ick
2. On another trip, she DM’ed (social media) my husband asking him to buy her something from our trip. I would’ve understood if she messaged in their work groupchat asking for treats for the whole team.
3. One time my husband was working from home and she called. At that time I was beside my husband and he was in loudspeaker. I thought it was about work, but she called just to ask if my husband will be reporting to the office the next day, to which my husband replied no and she said “awww, too bad! I won’t be able to bug you”. Like wtf?
4. There was a time she messaged my husband in social media asking about our trip. My husband responded a few days after (bcos he knows that she is already getting into my nerves). To which she replied “Hmp! Why did it took you so long to reply”. My husband just said he didn’t notice her message

These are just a few, but the most frequent thing she does is messaging him on social media. I understand that they’re friends, but I expect her to have boundaries especially she became his boss. I too am a leader and I very much respect my teammates especially during after working hours.

On to the “biased” part I was talking about. I’m not sure if I’m just biased or just giving malice on her behavior because my husband mentioned that her love story somehow gives off she “stole” another woman’s bf. Her soon-to-be husband had a gf when they were coworkers. And the guy broke up with her gf and wanted to pursue her immediately after breaking up, basically he fell for her because they were working closely together. In her defense she said no and said he would have to wait a few months before pursuing her. So I’m not sure if she behaved inappropriately for her now fiance to like her.

So, am I overreacting? Or is it just her personality? Just to clarify, she is the only one from their team who’s like this. And 90% of my husband’s team are women and I have no problems with them.

I (22F) am in a 1.5 year relationship with a (26M) and I went out to the bar with my best friends (22F, 24F and 23M) two of which are my bfs family. My partner stayed home. After a couple hours of being a the bar I noticed a guy staring at all of us. I had noticed this over time, but he was sitting by himself so I tried to just ignore him. After a while, he stood up and stood between my friend and I to talk to me. He kept asking oddly vague questions and saying I had a celebrity “lookalike” from some random show. I tried to be nice at first. I eventually became dismissive and more blunt trying to get him to leave me alone. After much too long (a minute or two but my anxiety made it feel longer) he left. Out loud to my friends because I was having anxiety and was awkward I said “ew what the fuck” as he was exiting the bar. Two of my friends said I was being too mean. But as a woman in a semi long term relationship Ivfelt like Inwasnt even being rude. I was just trying to get the guy away. Even if I was single I would have found it off putting and strange. My questions to everyone are. Am I overreacting? Should I tell my bf and how should I word it? Was it open to be dismissive with him? How should I word it to my partner. Sorry for the long rant/ ramble just the whole situation is giving me anxiety. My partner is very sweet and we have great communication I just don’t know if there’s a certain way I should word it since he wasn’t personally there. He is protective about this stuff but not aggressive if that makes sense. Okay thanks lol.

I have a big messy story here so let's do a quick backstory first. I have been diagnosed with ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) and OCD for the past year now and also have been living with my girlfriend of two years for three months.

We used to have dates in controlled environments, like Burger King or Taco Bell, so I was never aware of what food she usually ate. We have everything in common, the same hobbies, same values. So once we moved in together, nothing could've prepared me for my life to flip upside down. She's Lebanese. She eats a lot of food I have never been quite exposed to as a white person from the US. And since I work a full-time office job, and she works from home, she's usually the one buying the groceries and cooking for us.

It started nonchalant. She would cook with olive oil, which has a weird taste, to my usual safe foods. Some sweet dates and honey. It made me anxious at first, but I "got over" myself. For her. For us. Things, however, have escalated. I do not remember the last time I have eaten something I would consider a safe food at home, and I would always sneak out to eat. It started with her claiming to forget to buy my safe foods, like nuggets and mac n cheese.

Last month things have escalated, however. When I asked her about it for the umpteenth time, she got all ragey. She got very angry and said all the usual things we all have heard before. That I'm being childish and disrespectful. How she is hurt by my CHOICES not to eat her food, and how I need to get over it, otherwise she's moving out back to her parents' house. I calmly explained to her that she is exposing a very neurotypical bias onto me and disrespecting the sensitive state of my mental cohesion. She said I'm just being a "whiny F-slur" and that only a white person could have this "condition". In response, I have said some things I deeply regret. In return, she said she is leaving me for someone with "a testosterone count bigger than that of an ant. Dick too", calling the food I eat "an estrogenic dick shrinkinator". She has also commented on how ever since my diagnosis I have ruined my physical condition and this community has enabled it all.

I am so upset about this, and the fact that my manhood was questioned because of my condition. It makes me think, is this really the end? Am I not enough of a man for any other woman? I am currently typing this while in another room while she's working, eating chips. I'm dipping them in water so she can't hear me crunch which is unsafing my safe food entirely. Am I overreacting? Should I not have tried arguing with her?

My boyfriend (33M) has never been married, while I (38F) was married and with the same person for 19 years. We’ve been dating for about a year and a half. We’ve broken up three times and gotten back together, so yeah… it’s been complicated. I’ve been divorced for almost two years.
Long story short, I’m a teacher and a single mom of two kids under 6. It’s not easy, to say the least. Right now my kids are with their dad for part of the summer, so I’m on summer break.

Last night, after my boyfriend got home from work, I made him chicken-fried steak with homemade gravy, mashed potatoes, and green bean casserole from scratch.
I cook a lot, especially when my kids are home, and sometimes he’ll grill. Whether I cook or he cooks, I’m always the one cleaning up afterward. It’s my house, so I also end up doing most of the household chores. This week, while he was staying with me, I even did his laundry.
Tonight, I brought up something he’d said in the past about us “being a team.” I told him I didn’t feel like we were acting like a team anymore because he never helps clean up after dinner.

His response? “You didn’t do anything all day.”
That immediately triggered me.
Then he said, “Can I not just relax?” and asked what my problem was because I was “bickering” at him.

I’m sorry, but I came out of a marriage where I was taken for granted and did everything. I refuse to go back to that. I told him that if I didn’t tell him how I felt, I’d eventually resent him. He’s always preaching the importance of communication, so I thought that’s exactly what I was doing. I never raised my voice or attacked him—I simply told him how I felt.

Later, I asked if he’d go for a walk with me after dinner. By that point I’d already cleaned up the kitchen while he was lying on the couch with his eyes closed. He said he didn’t want to go, and I told him that was completely fine. Then he groaned and said, “Noooo, I’ll go.”

The thing is, I wasn’t trying to force him. Honestly, if you’re in a bad mood, I’d rather just go by myself. I was genuinely okay with that—not “fake okay.” He truly didn’t have to go.
He kept insisting that I was upset, and eventually I just gave up and went to take a bath.

When I came out, he was angry, saying I couldn’t let anything go. His apology felt half-hearted, and he said I just kept dragging things on. At that point, I did get mad because he raised his voice. I yelled, “Don’t worry, I’m over it all,” and walked out of the bedroom.
He went to sleep. I stayed on the couch reading my book before eventually going to bed myself.
The night before, he’d been upset with me because I stayed up late watching TV while he was sleeping. He was literally snoring, and I was watching with subtitles so I wouldn’t wake him. After that, I read my book for a while, and apparently he didn’t like that I was staying up late either.

What’s confusing is that not long ago, he made a comment about saying, “Let K do what he wants to do.” Okay… then why can’t I do what I want to do?
This morning, he left for work without saying a word—not even goodbye. Great. That’s always a wonderful way to start fixing things.

At this point, I know we’re clearly not ready to move in together, and honestly, I already knew that. I’m also nowhere near ready to get married again.

Am I expecting too much by wanting my partner to help clean up after dinner instead of assuming it’s my job every single night?

Edit: He does help me around the house with little things if I ask him, but it’s never a -you must do this. I even tell him if he’s tired it can wait.

i came across a video sharing that the wife was filing for divorce over the ysl situation- because the husband gave the gal basket to his female coworker, we all know the one.

i thought that that situation was crazy, so i showed it to my husband, and his response was “i don’t understand why it’s such a big deal.”

and i asked him if he won that basket would he give it to his female coworker? (he primarily works with men right now but we get the question.) he said ‘if she was really excited about it i don’t see why not, i don’t want it.’

and i was kinda hurt by that, so i clarified that he wouldn’t think to give it to me? and he shared that if someone got upset over something like that it would seem kind of selfish to him, like they were only interested in the monetary value of their relationship. and i tried to explain that it was more about the consideration of your wife, prioritizing your wife. and he said that , in a heightened situation with everyone looking at him and his autistic brain working in over drive he wouldn’t be able to process much less remember anyone outside of his current vicinity, so he’d probably hand it over to the next closest person who seemed excited about whatever it was he had.

so i tried to flip it, and said if i won a ps5 (he loves these) and i gave it to my male coworker, you wouldn’t be upset? and he said no, it’s mine to do with as i see fit.

it got a little heated and i felt so FRUSTRATED that he didn’t seem like he would consider me at all. he shared that maybe after he would feel bad once he realized, but ultimately him winning something, or me winning something, doesn’t really have anything to do with the other person.

and i strongly disagree. and i’m upset. am i overreacting???? maybe i’m not fully seeing it from his pov.

I (female) started crying today when my parents told me they went to my favorite restaurant without me. I am between the ages of 13-16 (not specific for privacy) and currently live at home with my mom, dad, and sister. My sister recently took a trip out of town leaving my mom, dad, and I at home. My parents immediately offered that we go out to eat that night. I suggested my favorite restaurant that I haven't been to in over a year since my sister doesn't like it much. My mom said no and told me it was too expensive. I understood and didn't push. My father then suggested a different restaurant and we went there. The thing is, I haven't gone in a year and I promise that every time we are deciding where to go out to eat, I will suggest my favorite restaurant. That means I've mentioned it maybe 40-50 times in the past year? I've now gotten pretty used to the rejection but I'm still hopeful every time. We normally don't go because of money or because my sister doesn't like it much. However, we'll go to another restaurant and spend the same amount or more (I may be young but I'm not dumb, I can see the prices). To add for context, yes my sister doesn't love their food but she still likes it and even is sometimes in the mood for it. We all branch out and try foods not everyone likes. My mom and dad also love the food there. Anyway, today I was sitting at home with my family and my sister said "well, guess where mom and dad got food when I was out of town and you were with your friend?" I looked at her confused before it clicked. I looked at my dad, feeling betrayed. My mom and him started laughing. I instantly started crying just a bit, repeating "are you serious? I've been asking for months!" They laughed and only said "well (my fav server) didn't serve us anyway." I said I didn't care and it genuenlly hurt me. They moved on and left me in the conversation. I was upset but naturally everything flowed. Later, I brought it up again and my dad made some stupid excuse and said "we'll all go soon." To which I left the room and went straight to mine. I'm not writing this in my bed, not going to see them until morning. I just know my mom suggested it and said "(op) is gonna be sooo mad" and then left the house with a smile on her face. She gets a kick out of stuff like that. Anyway, I feel crazy now so, am I overreacting?

I am turning 21 soon. My boyfriend (23) works seasonally and is working in another state. He is going to visit me for my birthday and he will be here in 16 days.

Some context that’s important to me: He’s taking time off to visit me. He visited me the last week of May, before his birthday (mid June) just to see each other. During this week he did not plan a single thing, no suggestions on things to do, I came up with ideas on the whim while he was here, I looked for and found the Airbnb. It bothered me that his contribution was lacking and I communicated this feeling to him.

Weeks ago, I told him to book an Airbnb. I reminded him that people reserve places and our options thin out. I also communicated that I would’ve liked it booked without the reminder, especially since it’s for my birthday.

Today, I asked him if he had it booked. He told me he hadn’t booked the Airbnb, but the flight yes. It really upset me because I had already told him weeks before to make sure it’s done. I started yelling a bit, over text, basically saying it makes no sense, you will be here in two weeks, it’s for my birthday, and still you couldn’t plan it. We texted for a little bit and his go-to response to me was “I have it handled”. He told me he doesn’t like how I make him feel like shit for it when he already told me he has it handled. “I am the one doing that shit so let me worry about it, I have it covered.”

This response hit me right in the chest, because what do you mean you have it handled? It doesn’t feel like it. I told him I was feeling sad, angry, and disappointed, and I needed some time alone for a bit. He said “Ok 15-30 min”. Well, I didn’t realize my boundaries had a timer. He waited 20 minutes then called me, I declined, and he asked if I didn’t want to talk. I told him not yet, that I’m still upset. He responded “I know you said you don’t but I need to talk to you.” Now I’m just frustrated, feeling like my boundaries don’t matter, my birthday doesn’t matter, I’m just disappointed. I wish it was more important to him.

Am I overreacting by not wanting to talk to him? For even being upset over this? I feel like a child not getting the birthday cake they wanted.

I have a space in a vintage/collectible shop and I offered a fine art print by Jean-Michel Basquiat called "Three Negro Athletes". (the original sold a year ago for $3 million) A customer (very young, white and most likely vegan) was upset and said we were all racist and if we did not take it down, she was going to leave us a negative Yelp and Google review. She said the word "Negro" was as bad as the original "N" word. When did this happen? Does the United Negro College Fund folks know this?? Plus we were exploiting Native American People by selling some Navajo silver/turquoise jewelry. (She did not seem to have an issue with the bronze Buddha or Chinese vases we have for sale). I was not there and the clerk that day groveled and took it down and put it and the jewelry in the back room. then called me. I was irritated. I was going to just put it back up but the other vendors were on her side and said we cannot afford negative reviews. I feel blackmailed. It is true, I am an older white gay man, but I feel I can offer work by a famous black artist. I think I know the difference between racist and racial. In my life I have worked for equal rights. I have taken care of friends with AIDS when no one else would, I have held friends hands while they died. I have worked for equal rights in marriage, marched for BLM, donated time as a CASA volunteer to advocate for children in foster care. I am not an angel, but I have spent my life working and donating for an equal and peaceful world. And I am really hurt someone would call me racist. In my mind I know this is an ignorant young kid, but in my heart I am hurt and angry at my co-vendors for not sticking up for me. I do not make that much there and think maybe I should just close it out and go do something more important. Am I over reacting?

I go to a hairdresser based in her home, because I live in a small town and she does an amazing job, she has a license posted on her wall and all other necessary permits, or whatever they need to operate. I’ve seen her every six weeks since January, as I bleach my hair. This time, as she’s assessing what she needs to touch up, she practically turns my ear inside out to look at a blackhead and said she was going to take it out. No questions asked. I was kind of taken aback and didn’t take her seriously because who just states that you’re gonna do that to someone? The reasoning was because “men won’t like that on a woman.” She’s 56 years old. Anyway, as I’m sat getting my hair rinsed, she pulls out the tools to extract this blackhead, without asking, and removes it, leaving a gaping hole in my ear without cleaning it at all. She didn’t sanitize the area before or after and she didn’t put any ointment on it. She just left a gaping hole in my ear without asking. I’m almost certain she charged an additional $20 for it too. I know I feel uncomfortable with the situation, and I asked my boyfriend for a second opinion, he said it was assault. Was it assault? Am I overreacting for feeling like it might’ve been assault as I didn’t consent to it being done?

Edit: I did forget to add that she didn’t even get the whole thing out, as it was small but had definitely been there for some time, and I ended up finishing it myself. A bleach and tone is typically $200 and she charged me $220 without giving me a rundown or letting me know that she raised her prices which is why I came to the conclusion that she must’ve charged for it. Whether it was assault or not isn’t going to change anything really, I just wanted opinions on whether being uncomfortable was justified or not. My issue is really how comfortable she felt taking it upon herself to do that without any formal or explicit consent.

Hello reddit, long time reader, first time poster here.

My (25F) partner (24F) and I had been together around one year in total with a breakup in the middle.

We reconnected in October and began up a romantic relationship again in December. At first it felt like things were moving in the right direction. We had some very productive conversations (all driven by and suggested by me) and it felt like we were able to work through some of the troubles from our first round of dating.

But with this episode of depression not only came a complete lack of motivation to do things for themselves but they also stopped giving anything in the relationship. They were never much of a planner but they stopped completely with planning any of our dates, hang outs etc. They also stopped looking for jobs and have been unemployed through our entire relationship

And then they went long distance for the summer and with that shift even the small amounts of emotional support I had been getting seemed to disappear. They spent all day texting and complaining about applying for jobs, having to do work around the house and feeling incredibly sad. All of this while choosing to never get out of the house and doom scroll all day.

I went to visit them and planned an entire weekend for us. Got a hotel, paid for museum tickets (I also paid for 95% of our dates through the relationship). They were emotionally disengaged and spent the entire trip negging me. Making fun of my outfits, making fun of how I talk or sleep.

Last minute while I was visiting they said their sister was making them go to one of her events. They said they would try to get out of it but just never brought it up again. So when they left for their sisters event (which they spent all day complaining that they had to go to) I also noticed they took all of their stuff with them. They were supposed to be spending the night with me at the hotel

My gut told me that was it, that I would not be seeing then that night as planned. Two hours later I get a call from them saying their mom doesn't want them going back out as it is too late and dangerous (it was 8pm). I asked them point blank if they were going to let their mother make that decision for them. They called back 20 minutes later saying their mom just felt it was too dangerous and they could not come.

That was pretty much it for me, months of no effort, no motivation and now this lack of agency (or lack of want for agency) was the last straw. I asked when they would be bringing back their hotel key as I was leaving in the morning. Their response? Asking me if I could drive to them 30 minutes away and just come pick it up. Don't worry they'd pay gas money. I said absolutely not that they were going to come back to the hotel in the morning and return my key. I told them we had to talk and the following morning I broke up with them.

Was breaking up with them too rash? Was it an overreaction for the situation? Or were things done? Help me out reddit

Okay so this person has always been more into me as a “friend” than I have been into them. I secretly think they have a crush on me. Anyway, they doesn’t get the memo when I don’t reply to them. They texted me today about a natural disaster that happened where they live which is no where near me, like thousands of miles away). It feels weird for them to use that as an excuse to text me to ask if I’ve been affected when I literally am not even close to the natural disaster. I think they just wanted an “in” to talk to me. This has happened well over 10 times that they find random ways to try to engage in conversation, usually not revenant or relating to me but they try to make it that way. AIO if I don’t reply? I’m just so baffled lol

Im 23F and ive been in relationships where my partner doesnt wanna make money and im doing all the money making. One of my last relationship i was with my ex (21F) for a long time and i was paying for everything, airbnbs, $3 snacks, dates, EVERYTHING. including im the main driver 90% of the time. My ex literally HATED making money and wanted to live off her rich daddy’s money. It got to a point where i begged her to get a job bro. And i literally broke up with her because it was such a turn off for me. But i got called “messed up” for leaving someone while they down. AIO or NOR?

I feel like im overreacting but i just want more input. My boyfriend has body dysmorphia and recently got a gym membership. I feel as if he doesn’t even need it, he’s about 5’9-5’10 and 200lbs, but most of it is already pure muscle due to the position he plays in sports. He used to weigh more back when we started dating, but has lost most of it due to playing many different sports and stuff. All he has is a little pudge on his stomach which I think is perfect, but he doesn’t and insists im lying. I digress though.

Every time I ask to hang out with him, he seems to never want to any more, unless he wants to do.. you know. I feel a little bit cast aside. I understand that he wants to use his membership and stuff, but we haven’t seen each other in a while. I just feel like im constantly getting blown off. AIO?

also sorry that the text on screen seems so childish and possibly confusing. I was cooking and im pretty sure he was driving. Thanks for your input in advance.

EDIT: thank you all for your input. I realized I left a lot of stuff out so I’ll put it all here.

He goes to the gym for 5 hours sometimes, and usually every day of the week. I don’t know how someone can entertain themselves for that long lol. I can’t go with him because I have a heart condition and am unable to lift weights. I have a membership that I got before he got his to do cardio with.

We are young, I’ll admit that and probably get clowned. We’ve been together for 2 years. Hes not a gym bro, he eats solely junk food when he’s with me unless i really push him to get something healthy, which he usually gets pissy at.

I am in no way unsupportive of him going. At all. That’s the least thing I want to give him. I am extremely happy that he has this and gets to be comfortable in his own skin. I’ll update more if I miss any more info.

(Don’t mind the phrasing and grammar I’ve never made a Reddit post before) I 20F and my boyfriend 25M have been talking for 7 months dating for 3 out of that 7, during this time I’ve noticed our relationship is no where near as nice as our friendship felt. Now I do understand it is still very early but I’ve also came to the realization that my boundaries were crossed the second we started hanging out, we weren’t supposed to start dating and we had both mentioned that we do not want to be in a relationship and we need to learn to heal by ourselves, but of course it happened anyways and now I feel almost guilty for noticing how uncomfortable and shut down I am.

I know this relationship doesnt feel how it’s supposed to, I should be happy and at peace and be able to do things for myself without feeling like I should’ve consulted with him. I’ve been emotionally unavailable these past few weeks because I feel like I am walking on eggshells, I’ve noticed I’ve dulled my personality because I feel like it’s too much for him, he’ll make fun of my voice, mock me, talk to me like a baby, push my physical boundaries to the point of me almost snapping and he’ll just shut down during conversations that need to be had as two adults in a relationship.

I decided I no longer wanted to put those feelings on to him and just end the relationship. I tried; “I tried” as in I broke down and quite honestly told him everything, I want to move out of this town, I hate how I feel about our relationship, I know our lives are going two different directions, I don’t want to I guess waste time on something that will come to an end eventually, and I have given up on my life to be there with and for him, this could have definitely been said in a way more constructive and communicated way which i acknowledge but I’ve never broken up with anybody in a healthy manner before so these feelings were all new to me. This was mainly said because I wanted him to understand my feelings and my mental situation as well as come to an agreement that this relationship was not working. This had turned into a talk where he had made me feel worse about trying to end it and had said a couple things that stuck with me, “yeah, you’re realizing how much you’re hurting me right now aren’t you?” And “you pushed this relationship onto me”.

In the beginning of this post I had mentioned my boundaries had been crossed on day one, when we started talking we had both agreed we didn’t want to be in a relationship, so I attempted to take the attachment away from him and treat him like a normal friend by going and hanging out with a different guy which made him upset and uncomfortable, I have now realized this is the red flag I’ve avoided, he knew I didn’t want to date him but took it upon himself to guilt trip me into staying with him the easiest way he could by simply telling me he didn’t like that I was planning to hangout with someone other than him. Now that we have had that conversation and he said that to me I’ve noticed I’ve stopped trying, I feel like I just came to a life ending revelation and I no longer feel like this was a mutual relationship. I’d like to approach the conversation again but with the intention to end it, unfortunately though now I feel like I’ve lost that trust in myself to know when it’s the right time or how to do it without it being “messy”.

This relationship started out unhealthy and now I’m worried there’s really no going back to normal, I can’t sit in this anxiety every day it’s seriously the worst thing I’ve ever experienced. So am I overreacting for wanting to breakup with my boyfriend of 7 months due to red flags being apparent?. Also any advice on how to approach this conversation will be looked at very closely, I’d like this to be as easy as it can be.

Edited with paragraphs so I’m not melting your guys’s brains, hope this is better lol.

Am I overreacting? My partner shared nudes with a current friend in the past

My partner has a friend with whom they shared nudes with before getting into a relationship with me.

I only found out about this because one day I caved and looked through their messages because I felt awful. I know you're not supposed to do that and I did feel like shit afterwards. But my partner never told me about this and I was shocked and felt sick.

They're still friends now and I'm supposed to be doing fun, friendly activities this weekend in a friend group where this particular friend is involved.

It makes me uncomfortable to know that they have shared and flirted for months like this and are now still hanging out. I talked to my partner about it and they said that it wasn't anything serious, so it's not an issue that they're still friends, because they were also friends for a long time before the flirting started.

They also said it only lasted for 1-2 weeks, which was a lie, it was about 5 months or longer and only ended about a month before meeting me. They did also say that they didn't plan anything further than the online flirting, but I saw them chat about saving up money for a plane ticket to see each other.

I just genuinely feel sick and am still uncomfortable knowing about this. I just really don't know if I'm in the wrong because my partner makes it seem like it's fine, so I'm thinking I'm just sensitive.

My girlfriends friends are very fake flirty with each other and we been together for a couple months (like 6) now. the first months it didn't entirely bother me as much but the longer we been together it just starts to bother me. 1. no im not scared that she would cheat on me 2. I have nothing against her friend 3. I have not told her or her friends that she can’t fake flirt with each other, some other things id like to mention is that my girlfriend is pansexual, I am a male and her friends are women, she does respect me and doesn’t fake flirt with other men but her friends do tend to make sexual jokes a lot and it makes me really uncomfortable and I will admit I am a jealous person but it does make me like certain friends more than others that fake flirt and she does fake flirt back, I would like to ask her if she could stop with the fake flirting with them or at least minimize it but I don’t know if i'm overreacting about this or if y'all could help me go about this another way.

My girlfriend has an obsession with eating wild berries (nothing poisonous, she knows what berries to eat and not eat), and tries to force me to eat them.

Just today, she finally made me eat one, she gave me no alternative and would not stop demanding I eat them until I gave in and had one.

She did wash them and it was good, but I think it's an absolutely disgusting thing to do since animals piss and shit on those berries.

Am I overreacting, is this a normal thing for people to just eat wild berries?