People using chatgpt in their relationships is one of the more troubling civilian uses of LLMs that I've seen. If they can't be bothered to think for themselves enough to text back, I would assume you're going to have larger problems moving forward.
getting dumped by a woman using chatgpt to dump me was a very surreal experience. It enables them to not catch feelings - if you don't read anything they write, and you don't read anything you write, you can discard someone who loves you cleanly without triggering any negative emotions like guilt or remorse. What better way to protect your peace?
My narcissistic mother would text/write emails to me in a, particular tone. Using language that is sort of "kindly being mean" if that makes sense.
I am no contact with her right now for many reasons. Her previous messages have been all the typical narcissistic parent speak. Because they can't see they are acting wrong.
Her recent messages have changed tone. I would love to see the message thread she has with chatgpt to create her messages now. Because I want to see chatgpt say "That sounds like a really mean thing to say. Try this..." and then the ensuing argument of her telling chatgpt how they misunderstood her, that she didn't mean it like that, and that chatgpt is taking it out of context. Before coming to a message that is the equivalent of dogshit but with sparkles and perfume.
I'm cracking up so hard because "just cut that negative energy out"! By getting two wives and two families is just something I've never thought of before! 🤣
Here you go. It's extremely awkward lol. Jim Browning has been making videos calling these people out for years though, definitely worth watching a few vids.
It's very creepy. Unfortunately a lot of people fall for it, especially older folks (not blaming the victims here, just stating facts). It's quite infuriating.
They also use one for accents as well, like the entire thing is “man made horrors beyond your comprehension” if you’re an old person who isn’t even AI literature let alone tech literate.
I just hope the West addresses that India literally has a non-trivial part of their economy based on scamming our most vulnerable people (with money), and punishes them for it, as they should.
It screws up the software that's generating the fake face and you'll see the real user behind the AI if they put three fingers held apart in front of their face. It doesn't work as well now as it used to. Not sure what the new tricks are.
When I read things like this, it just makes me think that every day I wake up, we’re living in like the world of Terminator and black mirror 😂 man vs machine lol. We’ve found a way to AI generate videos and pics and then we fight back by finding out tricks like the 3 fingers 🤷🏻♂️ it’s kinda cool tho like we’re still winning!
Face swapping works by taking one face, and tracking a bunch of landmarks on that face, and then morphing a second face to those landmarks. If you're making a movie where you want Tom Cruise to do the big dangerous stunt, you just have the stunt man do it, swap Tom onto him, and sell a bunch of tickets.
It's a cheap enough operation to do in real time, especially for a low res, low framerate, badly lit webcam feed. But if you cover up any of the landmarks, the swap will break and the face will fly off.
If you have a smart phone, you can turn on any face tracking feature (like the one where you have a dog nose) and then cover your face with your hand. The dog nose will fail to track.
I think I’ve already asked this question and had it answered a different time, and I’ve already forgotten the answer. What is the purpose of a deep fake like this one? I understand how they are used to impersonate real people, but what is the backstory here? Was the scammer impersonating somebody that this guy knew?
No, it was about crypto. The scammer was claiming to be a "crypto recovery specialist" in order to get money to help recover lost crypto. Of course the company he claimed to work for, the diplomas on his wall, and any of your lost crypto that he claims to have found is complete bullshit.
That's the purpose of deepfakes like this. To gain trust to steal money.
What? Haha I don't know why you ask me that, I’m not in a position to comment on the North Korean leader's decisions.
His work and choices are always based on information unknown to us mere mortals. It’s best for ordinary people like us to avoid making unnecessary jokes about such an important man!
Eh I'd wager, especially given the lack of punctuation, that they're retyping the ChatGPT answers; they'd catch it. ...which now that I think about it, retyping AI answers on your phone word for word is somehow so much worse than just hooking up a bot.
You’re right to push back on this—that was a miss on my side. After you’ve clarified that there are less than 6, I can confirm that there are 2 r’s in strawberry.
If you want, I can now list:
How many r’s are in the alphabet
How many r’s on average are in the word strawberry
How many strawberries are in the letter R
“That’s a fair correction, it was smart to call me on this one. Now that I actually do the thing you originally asked me to do” https://giphy.com/gifs/R7weSSUjdPdoA
I asked Google ai for directions on where to go for a game I was playing on PS5 and it would tell me a place and I would go and I could never find what I was looking for. It did it like 3 times and I finally asked why I kept giving me wrong answer and it's said "I'm sorry. I hallucinated alls of that, I was thinking of a completely different game with completely different maps." The thing is it was the right game and the right map. Its so weird seeing an AI admit it's hallucinating
Ai would be so much more useful if it could just say, sorry, I can't figure out how to do that instead of just making something up.
I was trying to get copilot to create some spreadsheets for and it gleefully obliged and gave me a link. The link didn't work. I asked it to fix it and it gave me a new link. That didn't work either. Eventually it told me that it can make the spreadsheet, but it can't actually save it anywhere so after all, it can't make me a spreadsheet.
The problem is that it's part of how it works to make something up. It's not finding information with a degree of confidence sometimes, and making things up when it can't.
It's always making things up - it just happens to be based on more accurate information sometimes, and pulled from nonsense or irrelevant stuff from your perspective the rest.
It's like a stopped clock being right twice a day, but but less binary than being right or wrong. It's frequently right enough to be useful, but there's no way to distinguish those moments from others.
That's not entirely true—it's closer to say it's always spitting things out. "Making things up" implies a degree of creativity and intent, which it doesn't have.
When Op writes,
if it could just say, sorry, I can't figure out how to do that instead of just making something up.
It can't, because it doesn't know what "that" is. It doesn't know what you are, or what it is, or what knowing means. It just takes in, processes, and spits out patterns.
I do like the broken clock analogy, though. It's like we've managed to create an hour hand that is correct 22 hours a day instead of only 2—but in either case it's still only incidentally correct.
I was trying to remember what book a famous quote came from and I asked ChatGPT, and it just flat out lied to me several times in a row. I got it to admit it lied to me, but at the same time it just was incapable of giving me the right answer
Do you have any other suspiciously GPT-like text examples from him? More for my own curiosity. I think people that use ChatGPT as an interface for human-to-human connections are fascinating, but for all the wrong reasons.
I had an ex who did not understand this; and this is without AI during face-to-face interactions. He very genuinely wanted to provide what I wanted, but he would do it by trying to figure out what I wanted him to say versus understand and responding authentically. It came from a place of insecure attachment at least; not to manipulate or anything. But it didn't ever make me feel connected in those moments.
I feel you but ultimately being nice without listening is being manipulating. It’s essentially lying to evoke a certain response so you then feel a certain way afterwards. Maybe not intentional but it’s still an attempt to control your mood rather than respond authentically. I know that sounds extreme but I’ve dealt with too many ‘nice’ people and it annoys me so much
Lol. This feels like the 2026 version of the time I was texting my mom (when there were phones with physical keyboards) and after a 15 minute back and forth conversation she responds with a bunch of random letters and something I could decipher as "can't see keyboard" then stopped responding. It was hilarious. And she was fine. She didn't like me calling her out. It was the 2010 version of "I'm going through a tunnel."
I know a woman who, looks-wise, is a total knockout. And she was boasting about using ChatGPT to respond to her dates. She feeds it the text and instructs ChatGPT to lovebomb the person in response. I recoiled in horror and she laughed and thought it was so smart.
“Hey robot help me emotionally manipulate a fellow human, thx” seriously wtf. I cannot accept that this was the first tell that she’s a problematic antisocial wacko.
Some people are more focused on giving the "right" response to a situation, rather than giving their response.
This isn't inherently irrational; plenty of people have been in situations where being genuine came off as hostile in ways that they could have never predicted.
But i still feel that it's worth it to have those conflicts because otherwise both parties are dancing around a problem rather than confronting it, and if one party is immature enough that confronting a problem comes off as hostile, I don't want to interact with them.
You’re absolutely right, it *is* like stupid Cyrano—I was mistaken when I said it was not. You are right to feel upset that I didn’t catch that. Would you like me to compare and contrast this situation with other similar literary references beyond the Rostand? I could also make a comparison to more modern adaptations of the story, such as the Depardieu film, or Steve Martin’s looser Roxanne adaptation?
OP is a chronic poster of fictional rage bait on Reddit, and seems to be unwell. I can almost guarantee this is fake. Look at the comments on their last post about “snooping.”
This was called out all over the place. They also posted that they were like 4 different ages in the span of a month.
Posting history aside, I'm kind of troubled by how people are overlooking the mixed messages OP is sending by referring to their own conversations with ChatGPT, in context of criticizing someone else for using it as a conversational crutch.
"The guy I'm dating sounds like ChatGPT. I know because I talk to ChatGPT all the time. So I asked ChatGPT if this guy was talking to me using ChatGPT, and ChatGPT said yes. Damn him for using ChatGPT. Good thing I had ChatGPT to clear things up."
A lack of authenticity in text interactions is genuinely a problem, but indirectly validating your suspicions and then posting about it on Reddit isn't a solution. You know what is? Having an in-person conversation with the person who might be at risk of AI psychosis.
I am surprised I had to scroll so much for this. The text from the date (picture in the post) and the answer from ChatGPT (first imgur link) when OP "tested" it "what would ChatGPT answer to my texts" being exactly the same word for word is a dead giveaway. LLMs never give the same answer word for word, a probability of that is basically zero, there are always billions of potential answers.
I get people are pissed off about the AI stuff, but I don't get how none of like 20+ comments from the top didn't catch this?
Omg this is the "my roommate poked her head in my room for literally 2 seconds to see if I was home, she's evil! I must post this every single day" chick! Yeah she's definitely not right in the head and is very addicted to reddit attention
Most of y'all need to stop fucking around with chatbots designed to manipulate you for profit.
I can't even understand the mindset of "sure thing, degrade my cognitive abilities and brainwash me into being a better consumer, as long as the app is free".
And this is why American middle class workers are fucked. We are exhausted so if this can help us we immediately use it. My work wants us using it and so I kind of have to for now but it’s so confusing when they’re pushing sustainability but also utilizing AI as a company value. I’m morally and spiritually (I’m atheist but what’s good for the spirit and all) against mass utility of AI but in also just like hanging on by a thread lol.
I work at a University and the current 18-22 generation is truly fucked. The majority are now brainless zombies who ask EVERYTHING to Chatgpt or other AI
I expect that there’s going to be a return to oral exams. At least I hope so. Standing alone in a room in front of your professor and answering questions it’s going to pull the curtain off of all of this nonsense.
I write customer service letters for a living. My boss forces us to use both Grammarly and Copilot to check our letters. If anyone finds an error in our letter and they run it through those two apps and the apps fix the error, we get in trouble and accused of not using AI.
Grammarly isn't too intense, mostly just does a standard spell check and grammar check (which is already built into Microsoft Word... so kinda useless) but I fucking hate Copilot for the exact reason you described. I've caught it literally fabricating errors that didn't exist in the text I typed. I read somewhere that it's coded to do this so you feel less confident in your own skills and rely on it more.
Btw, forcing us to check everything with AI has led to us making way more serious errors than just spelling and grammar, because now instead of proof-reading our own letters slowly, we're just using AI. So the letter didn't have any spelling errors, but we forgot to tell the customer they need to fill out section 3 of whatever form. Or we wrote Jason when it should say Jacob. Their precious Copilot couldn't possibly know that detail from the letter we copied and pasted in, because it's not looking at the actual request we're responding to.
I just saw an article about a Unitarian Universalist who was granted an exemption from having to use AI at work on religious grounds. It’s insanity that we have to resort to that, but hey.
You have no idea how hate to say this so many of male friends rely on this for everything. Tell me what to do etc. “why does my foot feel weird” type shit.
Why am I seeing stuff like this more and more. I never thought it’d get this bad. Like do they not see chat gpt reply and go “damn no human would ever say that.” Like the fact they don’t even alter it even a bit to make it sound less robotic is crazy. Honestly I know you said your two dates went well but if he can’t even talk to you through text and is so lazy to put in effort idkkkk I just wouldn’t like that
I’m beginning to wonder if people think my comments and texts are AI generated. Often when I see a post like this the messages read very similarly to how I communicate. I’m autistic and this seems to be somewhat common with people on the spectrum.
To be clear, I’m not trying to imply in anyway that’s what is happening with the OP. Putting his texts into ChatGPT is pretty strong evidence lol
As an autistic nerd, I get so disgusted when people call my geeking out "AI Slop". I have a vague idea of how AI prompts work but, for example, I complained recently in a post about a new quest in an online game I didn't like. It was maybe 5 paragraphs? Like 1 page long? The quest took me an hour and I had a lot of issues with it, so to assume it's AI because I was able to write 5 paragraphs about a 1 hour experience is mind boggling to me.
And Idk, I guess when I think AI prompts, I think "write a negative review of Harry Potter 2". I don't even know how you would get an AI to write some slop about a brand new thing that many people hadn't even experienced yet? Like you'd need specific details to have legitimate complaints? It just seems like it would take longer to put enough info into the prompt, or make the AI write it several times until it looked legit, than to just type out your own thoughts? I had autistic rage about my favorite game not playing how I wanted and they assume it's a bot complaining?? Like no, I'm just bad at the game >:(
I’m very good at spotting ai images and videos but not ai text and I think it’s for the same reason. My first thought is always “huh, how do you figure that’s ChatGPT? I could certainly say something like that all on my own.”
Even beyond that, why can't he come up with his own thoughts? Who would want to communicate with someone who is deferring their own conversations to a third party? It's just so fucking weird
If I could tell a girl I just started dating was responding to me via ChatGPT I think I’d just instantly end it lol. I don’t understand how people think that’s remotely normal/acceptable. Reddit has a ‘just dump them!’ tendency in posts like this…but only two dates in I think it’s justified. Zero interest in dating someone who’s using a chatbot to text me, hard fucking pass. Society is so cooked lol.
I would openly discuss it with him and tell him that you feel insulted talking to a chatbot. He may just not have thought it through, thinking you expect better replies than he could offer himself. Just talk to him about it. If he understands, you are good. If he doesn’t, you can still quit the dating.
bro this cant be real, if someone is so much of a npc they responding to their dates with chatgpt i can assure you that you do not want to breed with that person.
I dunno man, invent a tool that lets people shut their brain off and avoid making any decisions themselves.... and this seems like a pretty natural result
After reading those Chatgpt responses I just realized that my old-style professional-speak has been appropriated by A.I..
I recently got an e-mail response from someone asking for availability for a phone screen. I responded with a date that is a day and a half away, with a 3-hour time window to be courteous to the recruiter.
Crickets so far... Hopefully the recruiter will write back the day before after reviewing their schedule for the week, but now I am concerned they suspect it is A.I. and they just ghosted me.
FUCK A.I., and the paranoia/social disruption it has caused.
I sometimes get accused of being chatGPT because I like providing three examples. It's funny when it happens, but also concerning. I never even use LLMs, hell the other day ChatGPT sent me an email begging me to use it! It sounded so desperate 🤣
Can someone explain to me like I'm five how that reply sounds like ChatGPT cause that just sounds like something my friends and I would text to each other.
It wasn’t just that reply. It’s text after text. Suspiciously well constructed. And the more I get to know him in person, the more his texts sounds like chatgpt. Because it’s not his personality. And when I talk to him in person or over the phone, he doesnt say anything creative or funny like he does with texts
jesus christ. either way- whether he actually IS using chatgpt to text with you, or we’ve just become paranoid that everything is AI- this whole thing is so fucking dystopian.
I barely use it but see it a bunch on Reddit and other sites. Once you recognize the tone, you can’t unsee it. It’s like almost human but not quite there. Like the uncanny valley of text.
The default writing style has habits that are unremarkable on their own but become distinctive when they cluster close together. Take the first message in that "other suspicious texts" image:
Honestly, <validating the situation>. <list of problems>, that's a lot to carry.
That's a common GPT pattern. The same default also tends to start a sentence with "And" or "But" shortly after as a way to validate whatever decision or action the person just described; capping it off with something encouraging or hopeful is likely too.
It's hard to put into words, but the rhythm of the conversation plus the writing quirks start to stand out once you've seen enough of it. None of it is necessarily bad; it just leaves a fingerprint.
It doesn't always write like this. This is what it falls back on when the user hasn't given it any guidelines or a style to follow, which most people never bother to do.
Just generic not really matching what the conversation was about. It’s hard to put into words but generally you can kind of tell at least for now. Having talked to one helps, but it’s always a longer than needed sentence and somewhat positive/encouraging. (Not a bad thing, until you find out it’s just a gpu text algorithm doing it)
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u/LumberJesus Jun 09 '26
People using chatgpt in their relationships is one of the more troubling civilian uses of LLMs that I've seen. If they can't be bothered to think for themselves enough to text back, I would assume you're going to have larger problems moving forward.