r/cats • u/BlepMaster500 • Jun 07 '26
Advice The stray cat I've been feeding disappeared for 3 days and came back with this.
It's a small stitch on the side. I'm assuming she got spayed, but isn't that usually on the abdomen?
Additional info: she doesn't have any ear snips/punches. No tattoos. My town does like a free spaying and neutering for pet owners. I guess she wondered into one of those by accident and just got one done?
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u/liltinykitter Jun 07 '26
The stray I had spayed had to have a side spay because of milk. Maybe that’s why they did a flank spay on her?
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
OH MY GOD THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE! She's still breastfeeding her kitties, you can see em running in the background.
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
a total of two (2) siamese babies!
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u/dendrophilix Jun 08 '26
They’re very beautiful colourpoint domestic shorthairs, rather than Siamese. Absolutely gorgeous. They will darken as they get older, or more quickly if you’re living in a colder climate.
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 08 '26
Stop please! You're gonna make me adopt them all!
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u/Assi_McBoomBoom Jun 08 '26
Do it
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u/BeautifulBlueNight Jun 08 '26
Foster fail. It has a name. It's meant to happen.
My foster fail is sitting in front of me, watching me type this and saying 'don't call me that!'
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u/Traditional_Arm_3673 Jun 08 '26
I’m a foster failures…I have 8! We just have endless amounts of love to give back!
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u/HANKEN5TEIN Jun 08 '26
My wife is the sucker who brings them into the house, and I’m the sucker that won’t let them leave. We picked up our 5th a couple months ago. 3 are foster fails.
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u/Greedy_Bag_4548 Jun 08 '26
Mine was named Foster for 12 years bc I had to take him to the vet before they had names 🤦🏼♀️🥳
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u/peach_xanax Jun 08 '26
wow, those are some very toasty marshmallows! they're beautiful 😍
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u/Negative-Arm-2546 Jun 08 '26
Do it...it'll be the cat distribution at work properly.
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u/clearancepupper Jun 08 '26
The CDS is incredibly stealthy, efficient, and does not require a subscription.
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u/kioko110 Jun 08 '26
Do it! Cats only make life better! Bigger cuddle puddle, more cuddles!
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u/BigFlightlessBird02 Jun 08 '26
Do it!!! Theyre meant to be with you. She trusts you. Take them off the street and give them a good life.
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u/Thick_Worldliness622 Jun 08 '26
I want one of them!! My niece adopted one in Colorado last year and it’s been so cute watching some of his coloring darken!
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u/Mental_Visual_25 Jun 08 '26
At first I thought one of the kitties was beating up the other kittie up with a bread loaf or something
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u/TheRedlineAlchemist Jun 07 '26
Poor girl must've been so worried about them while she was gone.
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
I actually saw her walked through the front gate. Her kittens were hootin' and hollerin' like she just came back from the trenches of World War 2.
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u/tishawnaa0 Jun 08 '26
LMFAO do not make me laugh. Why did I completely imagine everything you said like I got the whole visual perspective you’re so funny.
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u/uxjulia Tuxedo Jun 08 '26
This makes me wonder how many kittens are found and people make their best effort to find the mom but she's actually away being spayed and then the mom comes back and her babies are gone D:
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u/Ovaltine1 Jun 08 '26
Yeah, seems like some signage or something should be in order. Or just take them with.
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u/Melhiora Jun 08 '26
I'm wondering how often a cat comes back after being spayed and the kittens are starved to death 😭
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u/BOBOnobobo Jun 08 '26
Look, if it helps:
- cats tend to take care of kittens together so maybe some of those kittens don't have that happen
- people tend to find kittens fairly fast, cats do reach out to humans to get help.
- the fewer stray cats there are the fewer this will happen and fewer stray cats will have to live in the wild which isn't that great for them
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u/iowan Jun 08 '26
I've done some TNR (trap, neuter, release) and if Mama cat is nursing, she doesn't stay overnight--she is released back to her kittens.
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u/CurrentHair6381 Jun 07 '26
Makes me wonder how many are feeding this cat lol
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u/ralphy1010 Jun 07 '26
At least 5 homes is the general rule of thumb
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u/IAmTheLizardQueen666 Jun 07 '26
Well, one of them thinks she’s theirs, because if she was TNRd, her ear would be clipped. I think.
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u/Party_Building1898 Jun 07 '26
Depends on the state
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u/ekobres Siberian Jun 08 '26
Not really. Only Utah, Colorado, and Rhode Island have any TNR statutes that mention how cats should be marked, and they all recommend tipping. It overwhelmingly depends on the organization or jurisdiction, and they overwhelmingly use tipping or tipping plus a tattoo because not tipping largely defeats the purpose of marking the cat at all since you would otherwise have to handle them - which usually isn’t a thing for community cats.
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u/Sweaty_Mushroom5830 Jun 08 '26
In New Jersey it's routine, because we are trying to get our feral cats down, so we do ear tip them, my sister has personally adopted six, I have two but that's my limit and they are all spayed and neutered and when we told them that they were not going to be back outside they didn't cut their ears
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u/Ovaltine1 Jun 08 '26
Indiana tips cats. I think SPCA and Humane Society’s TNR programs tip regardless of where they are.
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u/outragedtuxedo Jun 08 '26
im a vet, often we will flank spay because the incision is smaller and we can monitor healing from a distance in case of post op infections
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u/BlackbirdsTheName Jun 08 '26
This is the answer. Having to do this in a week. Mom will also be the first one in, and leaving as soon as the anesthesia wears off so she can get back to her babies.
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u/NeevBunny Jun 07 '26
Wait my cat had this when I adopted her, she had babies and I never got to see them!? 😭😭😭 No wonder she's so good with the foster kittens
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u/pipnina Jun 07 '26
I was thinking the same! I had a cat many years ago who was spayed and we got her with a big window of almost missing fur at 9mo old on her side. She might have had kittens already? :o
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u/babyformulaandham Jun 07 '26
Side spays are the norm in a lot of places
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u/hombrx Jun 08 '26
This!! In my country this is super normal so I thought it was the same everywhere lol
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u/loadnurmom Jun 08 '26
Yup, they can get pregnant as young as 6 months old, but anything under 1 year comes with increased risks.
Not that its safe for kitties older than 1, just that the risks are greater the younger they are
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u/Everlizk Jun 08 '26
Sometimes is just to make their movement more comfortable, they don't necessarily have babies.
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u/Old_Carrot_895 Jun 07 '26
My indoor only, never before having a litter, cat had the flank spay as well. It was the tiniest cut. My vet explained to me that they do this cause it is less invasive and heals faster since its so small. Would also make sense for strays that are released soon after
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u/Edgemoto Jun 08 '26
Where I live that's the norm, all my lady cats have had side spays and that definitely looks like one
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
Additional info: she doesn't have any ear snips/punches. No tattoos. My town does like a free spaying and neutering for pet owners. I guess she wondered into one of those by accident and just got one done?
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u/SnooRegrets4048 Jun 07 '26
“I’ll have one hysterectomy please.”
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u/UpsetStomachGalleria Jun 07 '26
I’ll take “Things Women in America Can Never Request” for 400, Alex
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u/LordsOfJoop Russian White Jun 07 '26
Have they considered being cats?
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u/ForestPhantom58000 Jun 07 '26
I have definitely considered this.
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u/SpeckledBird86 Jun 07 '26
Honestly if there was a low cost clinic I could go to and pay $70 to get a hysterectomy no questions asked I’d be there tomorrow.
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u/zombietobe Jun 08 '26
I got “spayed” and it cost me effectively nothing; a few office visit copays, in actual fact. (Bilateral salpingectomy, not hysterectomy; the former is the most current version of getting “tubes tied” - actually removed - and reduces cancer risks, whereas the latter fucks with hormones.)
Elective sterilization procedure, which falls under “birth control”, and was therefore 100% covered by insurance. In the US this coverage is (was?) a federal requirement, but I got surgery in 2022, so I’m not sure if the clusterfuck since then threw a wrench into it.
Btw… I am not a cat, and still kind of wish I was. For other reasons.
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u/b-witches Jun 08 '26
I had scheduled a tubal and then COVID happened. I switched jobs etc and went back to reschedule last year. 4500$ after insurance 😭
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u/zombietobe Jun 08 '26
I’m between insurance currently (lol, monthly prescriptions cost less with a GoodRX discount vs. my previous insurance, and I don’t pay a nonexistent firstborn child for the coverage, just have to avoid serious injury, I guess??)… so I already had reasons to be glad I did it when I did.
Damn, though. That’s fucked.
(Do we have a word stronger than “fucked”? It’s… that. Oof.)
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u/Mindshard Jun 08 '26
It cost me nothing to get snipped in Canada, not sure if it's free for women, though.
I had to pay when I got my cat, though.
Found that kind of funny.
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u/AltruisticCableCar Jun 07 '26
We have access to abortions here and I still consider being a cat on at least a weekly basis.
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u/Larnievc Jun 07 '26
If women haven’t chosen to be stray cats before they get pregnant it really is their own fault.
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u/Sleepysockpuppeteer Jun 07 '26
I mean really, these American women are bringing these problems on themselves, choosing not to be cats.
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u/UpsetStomachGalleria Jun 07 '26
Might as well since women don’t get treated like humans half the time 🫠 don’t know about anyone else but being reincarnated as a cat is def on my bucket list
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u/Xer-angst Jun 07 '26
Do we have to wait that long? Its 2026, I thought I could be a cat by now. At least when I was 6, thar was my future...
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u/Draconic-Guardian23 Jun 08 '26
You can request, you just have to get permission from your possible future husband that you haven't met yet cause he might want kids.
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u/jerzeett Jun 07 '26
people and non profits bring in strays to get spayed all the time. someone brought her there and back home. very common.
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u/deladude Jun 08 '26
This reminds me of my cat. We are a couple blocks from the cat rescue and they do trap-neuter-return all the time. They set out trays with food in cages, as you do. But all the neighborhood strays are wise to their tricks and steer clear… not my dumbass cat, who gets free flowing food and one daily treat on a literal silver platter. More than once my fiancé has had to convince a well-meaning volunteer that he has a home and is, in fact, neutered, he just likes free food and doesn’t think about consequences.
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u/urthvanes Jun 08 '26
Today you learned that you are not the only human feeding amd looking out for this stray cat.
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u/Strange-Damage901 Jun 08 '26
Some TNR don’t bother with the ear-tip. My neighbor worked in a vet’s office and they’d so a lot of people come in with rescued strays that were already spayed.
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u/beccal09233 Jun 08 '26
Where do you live where there is a free spay/neuter clinic?!? I run a community cat rescue and wow, this is the absolute dream.
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u/King_K_24 Jun 07 '26
Economy so bad that even cats are having their kidneys stolen now 😭
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u/Mysterious-Stick4738 Jun 07 '26
Cartels took her kidney 😔
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u/EddyFArt Jun 08 '26
Heartbreaking : single mother sold her kidney to afford kibbles 😭
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u/jessicalenore0 Jun 07 '26
Are you 100% positive she's a stray and not someone's cat that wanders?
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
Honestly no, but the first time she came in my house, she was absolute skin and bones and suffering from mange. I took it upon myself to fix that.
She's free to come and go, but I'm gonna make sure there's a full bowl waiting for her.
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u/my_reddit_account_90 Jun 08 '26
I would not be surprised if the cat has adopted multiple people and someone took it upon them selves to spay her. One of the cats we pseudo adopted (same come an go situation) decided to get real friendly with the neighbors after seeing how well it worked with us.
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u/jessicalenore0 Jun 08 '26
Maybe she was just taken in for the spay by another neighbor who wants to take care of her. If she does have an owner it doesn't sound like they're taking good care of her. You're a good human for stepping in <3
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u/jessicalenore0 Jun 08 '26
I've had a couple cats in my neighborhood that chose to be my friend (both literally were just waiting for me when I came home from work one night and instantly affectionate with me) and I had to play the guessing game of stray or wanderer.
I took one to the vet for a chip scan and they identified the owner, then /gave her my number/ and I got an angry call from her accusing me of stealing her cat. Cat kept sneaking out and coming to my door, but I wouldn't know until I saw my doorbell camera footage later with the cat slinking up onto my porch followed by owner's friends who were keeping the cats (other cat was not as skilled of an escaper) for her at the time and would pry her off my porch and carry her down the stairs telling her apologetically "she doesn't want you over here". Funnily enough those neighbors moved out, new neighbors are there, and THEIR cat started visiting me in the same way.
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u/Key-Ad9733 Jun 08 '26
Stories about kitties being little neighborhood snuggle hos make me smile.
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u/FoshizelMaNizel Jun 08 '26
Vet here - she has had a flank spey. These are a common surgical approach (as opposed to the abdominal approach) for TNR (Trap, Neuter, Release). It is much less likely to end up with infection or wound breakdown for cats that are outside all the time. The wound looks like it's healing really well!
Fun fact, the flank spey vs midline spey debate is largely geographical. In the US, Australia, and NZ most vets would perform a midline spey, whereas the UK and Europe most vets perform a flank spey.
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u/nehetzu954 Jun 08 '26
I can add that here in Chile the midline Spey is used too, I know due helping several relatives with their pets and taking them to different veterinarians each
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u/AnonymousOkapi Jun 08 '26
We're a bit of an outlier - standard approach is flank in the UK, midline pretty much everywhere else.
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u/Emilyd1994 Jun 07 '26
Desexing from the side so you dont cut through the muscle. My vet does it semi often. Has less risks (keyhole opperstion) and generally better long term outcomes. None of the cats he's desexed from the side have had that saggy belly. Because he never cut through the muscles in the belly. It does require a lot more skill as a vet. And more experience.
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u/BrowsingOnMaBreak Devon Rex Jun 07 '26
That’s interesting that it requires more skill, my vet said the flank is better for the cat as it’s less invasive/risky but that people opt for the belly because it preserves the coat (it can grow back funny apparently). Needless to say I opted for the flank for my girl.
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u/re_Claire Jun 08 '26
My female cats I've had here in the UK have always been spayed through their flank. I was unaware they did it through the belly elsewhere tbh.
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u/clearancepupper Jun 08 '26
Here I am, in the US, learning that there is such a thing as flank spaying. Have never heard of it before, now at “a few minutes ago old”.
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u/SuperKitties83 Jun 08 '26
flank is better for the cat as it’s less invasive/risky but that people opt for the belly because it preserves the coat (it can grow back funny apparently).
That's unfortunate, I would always choose a less-invasive, easier option for my baby than worrying about what their fur might look like!
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u/BrowsingOnMaBreak Devon Rex Jun 08 '26
Yeah they offered it to me in case I wanted to show her but I’d rather make life easier for her than keep her ‘pretty’
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u/TightPerformance6447 Jun 08 '26
In the UK pretty much all cat spays are flank spays.
Honestly so much quicker/easier in my opinion. One of my favourite ops.
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u/Holly_kat Jun 08 '26
I didn't even know that existed. It sounds so much better than the way through the belly, which is what they usually do in the US.
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u/MrPKitty Jun 07 '26
I've never seen one on the side. Is her ear snipped?
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u/qathran Jun 07 '26
It's called a "flank spay" and is becoming more common since it's easier on them than having the surgery through their abdomen.
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u/Thestolenone Oriental Shorthair Jun 07 '26
Its the norm in the UK and always has been, its so easy on the girls, often there isn't even any external stitches and they don't need cones or suits. The only time I've heard of belly spays is if the girl is a colourpoint breed and the owner wants to show her.
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u/HighRiseCat Jun 07 '26
I came here to say this - all our cats had the flank spay -even 40 years ago. (The one 40 years ago had external stiches though).
They've shaved an awful lot of fur though...
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u/MrPKitty Jun 07 '26
I'm 63 and this is the first time I've ever seen it. And I've lived in a few on both coasts and the midwest.
Why aren't we doing it this way here?!
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u/littlebirdgone Jun 07 '26
Since the cat is a stray, I wonder if they shave way extra to decrease the likelihood of fur getting stuck in it or bugs making a home around it while it heals.
Totally guessing, not a pro
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u/SpiderSixer Jun 07 '26
Reading this thread and thinking 'What? Why is everyone shocked at this?', not realising apparently other countries still do midline as the main method, haha
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u/kitty_cats6 Domestic Housecat Jun 07 '26
Is the ear notched too? Can you feel any type of microchip by the shoulder blades? Also if there might be any type of tattoo near the incision or any shaved areas.
These are all markers people use to identify a cat was spayed when they're TNR (not so much microchips but you never know). I'm used to seeing it on their stomach too 😟😟
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 07 '26
No notches, tattoos, or microchips. This is the whole reason I post this because I'm hella confused myself.
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u/almondface Jun 07 '26
Somone either picked her up for TNR or becuase she was having a medical issue. Most likely it was for TNR
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u/Acceptable-Entry-526 Jun 07 '26
Might not be a stray.. have you had her scanned for a chip? If you plan on keeping her: chip her please
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u/BlepMaster500 Jun 08 '26
I plan on finding people who would adopt her kitties, but as for her, she can stick around since she's already spayed. She's been here rent free for like 5 months now.
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u/rocketshipkiwi Jun 08 '26
She will have been chipped now so take her to the yet and tell them you are adopting her. If she had an existing chip with a traceable owner then she would have been retuned.
Awesome work taking her in and giving her a home.
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u/cudambercam13 Tuxedo Jun 07 '26
How do you know she's a stray?
I'm pretty sure this is just someone's cat taking advantage of you. 😅
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u/Alarming_Cantaloupe5 Jun 07 '26
Someone else has been feeding her as well and took her in for a spay. Flank spays avoid harming the mammaries. Looks like momma cat has some good people watching out for her! Surprised at no ear notch/tattoo. Not sure where you are but any community org doing these would definitely clip her.
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u/Specialist_Ferret150 Jun 08 '26
As a kidney donor i can confirm....i have no clue.
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u/NosAstraia Jun 08 '26
This is absolutely a side spay. It’s standard for cats in the uk, most vet’s here feel the healing process is better with a side spay, especially for smaller cats
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u/Momochichi Jun 08 '26
Side spays are the common style you see these days, at least where I’m from. The incision is much smaller and it heals so much faster. It it’s a stray they should have notched the ear though
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u/CompetitiveBox314 Jun 08 '26
Something similar happened to me, but I woke up in a bathtub filled with ice.
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u/kateazp Jun 08 '26
I was petting and feeding what I thought was a stray cat for months but then one day it came back with a side spay, I was horrified I had been feeding someone else’s cat! I fessed up on the local fb page and the lady was very nice about it, the reason she took her cat to the vet initially was because she wasn’t eating any of the food she gave her because ofc the cat was eating at mine!
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u/TripResponsibly1 Jun 07 '26
She got spayed, congrats to her! Some vets do a side/flank entry incision. The female kitten I adopted in New England last month had a side incision spay as well (along with a small abdominal incision).
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u/Nabrok_Necropants Jun 08 '26 edited Jun 08 '26
Ive read about this. Someone stole its kidney for sale on the black market. Probably woke up in a bathtub full of ice after being drugged at a bar.
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u/lovemycat02 Jun 09 '26
She’s been spayed. A flank spay is much better technique. We do them for all cats in the UK.
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u/FutureElleWoodz Jun 07 '26
When I got my 2 kittens spayed it was on the side like that. They didn’t need suits or cones and it healed super fast, I think that’s how it’s always done in the UK.
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u/GraeMatterz Jun 08 '26
The "stray cat" you've been feeding appears to have been taking advantage of your generosity while belonging to someone else who got her spayed.
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u/ekobres Siberian Jun 08 '26
If her ear isn’t tipped or notched, it was done by a private vet for a pet cat. That’s either someone’s cat, or someone took it to a vet, said it was their cat, and paid for it.
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u/Asleep_Director3216 Jun 08 '26
They do the side for strays most of the time. Less chance of the stiches pulling out or getting infected.
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u/Any-Difficulty-8694 Jun 08 '26
That is a lateral flank ovariohysterectomy my cat had the same one done
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u/sidhescreams Jun 08 '26
I was the other person in this situation once. This cat that visited visited and he was covered in punctures, so we caught him, took him to the vet and the vet shaved him everywhere he had wounds. We kept him in our bathroom a few days then let him out. Less than two weeks later he showed up without his balls, a tipped ear, and a collar with a phone number on it. We had thought he was a very friendly feral. We called the number and his name was Journey and THE OWNER ISN’T who neutered him. A third family caught or trapped him and got him the snip.
His owners thought kids playing a prank had shaved him (????)
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u/GilraedElensar British Shorthair Jun 07 '26
My girl got spayed from the side and it looked like that. Probably some charity got her spayed and released since you said she is a stray.
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u/Medical_Watch1569 Jun 08 '26
I so wish I had learned this technique in vet school! They only teach you the classic shelter medicine style abdominal spay. This looks really minimally invasive. Maybe I’ll watch some teaching videos demonstrating it if I can find any!
And yes she probably got trapped and put through a local TNR 😂
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u/DeliciousChange4730 Jun 09 '26
She was wounded and treated, and may not be a stray she could simply be an outdoor cat.
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u/mzinagro Jun 07 '26
This looks like a technique called a “flank spay” that is often used in feral/community cats. This is done particularly in nursing mothers to avoid an incision on the belly that could cause an issue with nursing kittens. It’s a bit odd that she wouldn’t also have a tipped ear though!














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