r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES • 10h ago
Sad Girl Dinner ⛈️ I’m dramatic bc I couldn’t breathe?
I walked outside to put water out for the birds since the next two days, I know I wouldn’t be able to go outside (air quality from wildfires- I’m in the middle of Ohio) When i walked back in, I couldn’t breathe very well. I was wheezing, breathing swallow, and ended up needing my inhaler 2x.
My husband just continued to play his video game despite me passing him and walking into the bathroom (which is right next to where he was).
After a couple of minutes he’s yelling from the couch “what’s going on/what’s wrong?”, and I couldn’t respond. After I started breathing well again, I went back to the living room and told him I couldn’t breathe. He then told me that “I shouldn’t have gone outside”, that I was “being dramatic” and that ‘I wasn’t dying’.
Bagel with cinnamon honey butter
Update: No, I don’t have a diagnosed lung disease. Just asthma. I rarely use my inhaler. I went out to the store 3 hours earlier to grab milk, etc before the worst of it hits us tomorrow and Saturday. The air wasn’t great but it wasn’t like how it is now.
Update #2: I had no idea asthma was considered a lung disease! Well ya learn something new everyday! 😂
Update #3: again, I RARELY use my inhaler, maybe once a year…I’ve just educated myself on asthma as so many people asked how I didn’t know it was a lung disease. I have never had breathing tests done (spirometry). I had some wheezing a couple of years ago after having pneumonia, doctor said an inhaler should help, and that she thinks I might have allergy induced asthma. Never have had any allergy tests. I do really appreciate the more empathic comments informing me about asthma 💕
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u/eventideyes 🤍🧡Sapphic Snack🧡🤍 10h ago
why would you be dramatic if you clearly have asthma and need an inhaler? he was just mad he had to stop the game to check on you
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u/GirlL1997 Cleavage Crumb Collector 10h ago
He yelled from the couch, he didn’t stop the game.
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u/kushielsdisciple afk 🖥️ snacking 1h ago
Right, he yelled, didn’t get a response, and still didn’t go check on her. She’d be blue if she had actually needed him by the time he checked on her.
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u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 10h ago
Right?!!!
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u/green_chapstick 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 10h ago
Hes mad he had to seem concerned. I say that because if he actually was he would have gotten off his ass as soon as he knew something was wrong. He also would have been actually concerned by not making her feel stupid for going out side or for "being dramatic". No true concern at all.
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u/Megzasaurusrex nom-nom-nombinary 10h ago
Yeah that is so fucking wild. My sister has asthma and the moment she has an attack I'm flying over to make sure she is okay. Because if that inhaler doesn't cut it, I need to be ready to call 911. You never know what could happen. Like what if she didn't realize it was empty, what if she couldn't get to it fast enough? Like I just don't get how people risk it when they have someone they love that has any illness/medical condition. like the moment i hear a cat squeal, they may be fighting or it might be serious, I drop what I'm doing and run to my cat. Because I love her. And if she is hurt, I want to fix it. And that's a cat. When people can't do that for other humans, that scares me.
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u/JadedChampionship991 Well-Read & Well-Fed 10h ago
One of my mom’s closest friends lost her 20 year old son to an asthma attack. He used his inhaler but it didn’t help. By the time paramedics arrived and got a pulse back, he was already brain dead from going so long without oxygen. Asthma is never something to brush off and you absolutely are not being dramatic. Sorry he was an ass
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u/p0llyp0cketpussy eat hot chip✔️ be bisexual✔️ 1h ago
My heart transplant came from a person who had bad asthma, same scenario, his inhaler wasn't working on that particular asthma attack and by the time help arrived it was too late. OP's husband fucking sucks.
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u/Waffling_Waffle Body By Cheese 🧀 10h ago
Definitely not being dramatic, but I wanted to say you're awesome for making sure your community birds are hydrated during this awful heatwave.
Always love to see a fellow bird lover ❤️
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u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 10h ago
🩷 I appreciate you acknowledging this!!! Thank you fellow bird lover!
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u/makestuff24-7 🧂Salty By Nature 10h ago
Does he usually like you even a little, or was today just a normal one?
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u/crashingmycar in my [rotisserie] bag 10h ago
do you want to tell us more? is this a regular thing? if so, would you be interested in leaving? i personally need a lil more info
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u/tacokahlessi chismosa, metiche, en bata 10h ago
Your husband is an ass… but as an RT, girl you know better. You’ve been prescribed an inhaler so I’m assuming you have a diagnosed lung disease. Take care of yourself and make his ass get up and do the outdoor chores.
I highly recommended gettin at home nebulizer. Insurance should cover it but they are relatively affordable online. Your meds are cheaper and more widely available than inhalers. Not to mention better med deposition. Save those expensive inhalers for when you are away from home! (Sorry I know meds are $$$)
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u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 10h ago
Nope, I don’t have a diagnosed lung disease. Just asthma. I rarely use my inhaler. I went out to the store 3 hours earlier to grab milk, etc before the worst of it hits us tomorrow and Saturday. The air wasn’t great but it wasn’t like how it is now.
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u/heathfreshlasaga APPROVED✨ 10h ago
I'm sorry to say that asthma is indeed considered a chronic lung disease. I'm not here to should on you, though, who else was gonna do the chore?
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u/RuleofAcquisition190 ⚐ Marked Safe From My Almondmom 10h ago
Babes, asthma is considered to be a chronic lung disease. Sincerely, an asthmatic.
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u/basicrerun ⚐ Marked Safe From My Almondmom 10h ago
Asthma is a diagnosed respiratory/lung disease
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u/Truly_135 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
I’m concerned that you don’t think asthma is lung disease. Please see your doctor and get more information. Wearing an n95 mask in cases like this smoke will help, as will air purifiers in your home. Please take care of yourself, asthma is serious even if sporadic.
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u/shlynshady Certified Snacker 10h ago
I'm sorry, but what did you think asthma was if not a lung disease?
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u/tacokahlessi chismosa, metiche, en bata 7h ago
Hey sorry just came back to Reddit, as you know asthma is in fact an obstructive lung disease. Be careful with the fires. Being in control of it now, doesn’t mean you always will be and now would be peak time to aggravate your airways. I come from a family of asthmatics, it gets incredibly scary fast! When you get a chance, follow up with your PCP and see if you can get in with a pulmonologist.
All that said… your husband is still an ass for this.
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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 chismosa, metiche, en bata 10h ago
Bro exactly same shit happens to me. I got asthma and sometimes something randomly triggers it. I never really know. I never got the full testing. I got an attack just yesterday. I was like this is it.
I got better after a while, but boy does it suck
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u/diddilybop Feral Til Fed 10h ago
does he have a pattern of dismissing your feelings or not taking them seriously?
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u/Trinnka13 white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 10h ago
I'm sorry, you deserve better than that. I'm also in Ohio, it smells like burning insulation. I have a friend in Michigan who says it's snowing ash. You're not being dramatic, he's being disrespectful.
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u/Burnt_and_Blistered white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 10h ago
Asthma is a lung disease!
I’m in Chicago, and the air quality is horrendous. If you have any N95 masks left over from Covid, they do help.
Your husband is being an asshat
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u/Aggressive-Mood-50 Snack Goblin 10h ago
Why is he your husband again? I’ve screamed for my husband and EpiPen in full anaphylaxis and this man has held a wet towel to my neck while in naked puking shitting in and out of conciousness and hes on the phone with 911 (I get SUPER HOT and feel like I’m dying during anaphylaxis because well… I kind of am and a wet towel is the only thing that helps). You need a partner not a man to babysit.
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u/Dramatic-History-943 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
I love that your husband does this for you ❤️
I have syncopal episodes and I just have to give the “babe I need you NOW” and he will be in mid shower and come catch me as I fall or mid game in an Apex game and he will just leave. True men protect their women even if it’s from their own bodies.
I hope OP has a serious conversation with him about how unacceptable that behavior is. There are fine particles in the air that can definitely cause irritation. I triple check my husband has his inhaler when he goes out right now cause he has asthma.
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u/Aggressive-Mood-50 Snack Goblin 8h ago
Definitely this. My husband and I didn’t realize what it was at the time because it was my first anaphylaxis that was severe enough for 911 but now all I need to do is call him or text help and he will drop everything and come home (doesn’t hurt he works 5min away).
But like this man watched me puke my guts out and then got me pants to put on before the paramedics got there because he wanted me comfortable and I was in no state to care for myself. I can’t understand men who don’t recognize severe situations and help and I would hesitate to procreate with one who doesn’t take you seriously.
If I get dizzy or leaning on things or my husband gets the feeling I’m not feeling well (at this point he can read my body language like a book) he is on high alert.
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u/Thin-Ferret-5862 FREE MOM HUGS 10h ago
As an asthmatic from birth, I’m mad too. Lucky bitches with functioning lungs. SMH. /s
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u/NorthBook1383 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
Asthma and breathing issues are nothing to fuck around with! First off, put his ass in time out cause he’s wrong af!
My lungs and cough was bothering me all day and I was indoors.
Stay safe and inside until it gets better, if you don’t have a proper mask. You are very seen!!!!
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u/Ok_Initiative3685 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
I hate being this grim but a dear friend of mine passed from an asthma attack and not being able to reach her emergency inhaler, absolutely devastating day. Asthma can be a very serious illness. I hope you're okay and when your husband isn't distracted by video games, I hope you're able to discuss it effectively!
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u/Sensitive-Pie9357 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
Asthma is a diagnosed lung disease sweetheart, and a potentially fatal one at that
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u/saltpancake 🧂Salty By Nature 9h ago
“I don’t have a diagnosed lung disease except the incredibly serious lung disease that I know I have.”
Look I empathize with you, society treats this disability as if it’s simply being left-handed — it’s not. I don’t have asthma but my spouse does and I am so concerned all the time for his well-being. Your partner sucks.
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u/Tiny-Shovel-48 Lover of Soups 7h ago
Okay I don’t know who else needs to hear this in the comments besides OP- the situation happening with the wildfires is BAD.
So bad that the air quality of Ohio is three times as worse as it normally is on a normal day.
No you are not being dramatic. If you have the slightest bit of allergies, any sort of asthma, or if you don’t- all that shit on the air just got turned up to LOUD.
Please wear a mask when you go outside.
This is a DIRE situation. So much so, there is a US government website to let you know, THE AIR OUTSIDE IS DANGEROUS
PSA
IF YOU’RE IN THE RED- THAT’S BAD REGARDLESS IF YOU ANY HEALTH ISSUES.
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u/panicnarwhal Kid Crumbs Connoisseur 6h ago
damn i just checked where i am, it’s 453 (maroon color dot) - guess that explains why the air is like soup and i have a headache. i knew it was bad, but not that bad
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u/Lukewarm-Apathy-6969 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
Dump him
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u/No-Vermicelli-2832 puff puff pass the snacks 10h ago
This pisses me off as someone who has asthma- severe asthma, at that
I would not have the patience to stay with this piece of shit if it had been me. Asthma is fucking scary and not a joke.
Sorry you've had to put yourself at risk to do errands and that it hit you hard when you wanted to do what you can for our outside friends who will also struggle /:
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u/Dubious_Ibis 🪄 Sauceress ✨ 10h ago
Don’t you have a daily preventer, as well as a reliever? I do. Day and night, and if I’m sick additional puffs. If the air quality or it’s high pollen time, or any of the other atmospheric factors are bad, yeah. And I take my reliever out with me everywhere due to not being able to predict the odd fire, or other irritants.
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u/purebitterness white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 10h ago
Uh yeah before inhalers people just died from asthma (and still do). You are not being dramatic.
- purebitterness, MD
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u/IcyCantaloupe7004 white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 9h ago
May a love like this never find me.
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u/BarbitsSecret APPROVED✨ 9h ago
I'm in Illinois and I have borderline asthma- as in some doctors have said I have it, some say I don't, current diagnosis is that it's exercise-induced only- and I had to use my inhaler today for the first time in years, even without going outside, because I was out of breath from FOLDING LAUNDRY. It was that bad today.
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u/FrigyaCrowMother white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 2h ago
I’ve felt like crud all week because of this. And people do not understand. Full stop. I called in day before yesterday. I had yesterday off but I have to go in today. I have asthma on top of everything else I got. You have got to talk to your husband op this is dangerous you could have died! I’m serious!
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u/Nickey_Pacific Chocoholic 9h ago
I'm in SE Michigan and if you're going to get what we had all day today, I'm telling you now, do NOT go outside. It was really bad, low visibility, smelled like burning trash, yellow looking everywhere.
All that just to say that you were not overreacting and your husband is a dickhead.
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u/Mother_of_Kiddens 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 9h ago
Asthmatic here. First, please please please don’t go outside in the smoke without a mask. N95 if you have one. Smoke can trigger really bad attacks (which I assume you now know) in people whose asthma is otherwise well controlled. Do you have an air purifier? Indoor air can get shockingly bad when the air is filled with smoke. I really want to emphasize that you need to take better care of your lungs. Asthma can worsen and take a long time to recover from if you trigger a runaway inflammation response. I’ve had it happen and it took years to get back to my previous baseline, although I now have multiple nebulizers with a stockpile of medications for them so I can get on top of any triggers and not repeat that again. I truly am begging you to be very careful with your lungs. You have a lung disease and need to understand that you simply can’t go out and breathe this smoky air. It’s bad for anyone but your lungs are less able to handle it than most.
Now onto the husband… his response was shitty. Well, his lack of response. If I’m having trouble my husband will run and get my purse with my inhaler and aerochamber for me without me asking him to. He’ll make sure I get set up with a nebulizer and that he’s watching the kids so I can focus on calming down my lungs. He’ll ask what I need. If I’d gone out into smoke he’d be upset at me but would first make sure I’m breathing properly before discussing with me why I was doing something so dangerous to my body. But not until he knew I was okay after my medicines took full effect.
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u/Turbulent-Maybe-1040 APPROVED✨ 8h ago
Hey your doctor should absolutely do a spirometry on you
Even if your inhaler helps and you use it once a year it's an important test that should be done once a year to monitor the issue if nothing else
- signed a fellow asthmatic
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u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 8h ago
I’m going in for a physical soon, I will ask about it.
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u/Turbulent-Maybe-1040 APPROVED✨ 8h ago
And if your doctor dismisses you see about another doctor. I have also been able to see an asthma specialist without a referral (not a pulmonologist but like just below that)
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u/GreenDirt2 Live, Laugh, Lactaid 🍦💕 10h ago
Asthma is a lung disease. Sit him down and explain what he is suposed to do if you can't find your inhaler or it doesn't work. Your husband is AFRAID of the idea of you needing help. That's what immature people do, they lash out in anger when they face a scarey situation. They lack the confidence to jump in and help.
What happens if your kid has an accident or a high fever? This is a very bad temperment to coparent with. I would think twice before having kid's with this childish man. You will be handling all the hard stuff on your own and he'll be criticizing in the background and getting in the way.
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u/Typical_boxfan we listen and we only judge a little 9h ago
You’re definitely not being dramatic in the slightest. I don’t even have asthma and yet my chest hurts and my throat feels like it’s closing up because of this smoke.
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u/GuerrillaPrincess Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ 10h ago
Another day, another woman with a husband that doesn't deserve her. What else does he call you dramatic about?
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u/imetamouse Blood Type: Gravy 10h ago
Ew. No sir. No thank you. You clearly have a medical condition and you can hear wheezing. I’m sorry he prioritized video games over your wellbeing, OP. What an ass.
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u/Useful-Primary1167 Certified Snacker 10h ago
not being dramatic. if he actually fucking cared, he'd stop the dumb game to actually check on you and make sure you're okay. fake ass concern on his part
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u/Nonyabeesners Snack Goblin 10h ago
I think you need to sit your husband down and in a very non-accusatory way tell him that you were actually really scared and wanted him at the time because it makes you feel safe. Emphasis on the "he makes you feel safe" part. Men intepret that as a compliment, so he is less likely to get defensive.
If this is out of character for him, I suspect he just can't relate enough and needs to be walked through it. Asthma can be blown off by a lot of people without the disease since it's relatively common. That doesn't make it less dangerous.
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u/Important_Account487 Overthinker 💭 10h ago
When I have a coughing fit and can’t breathe my husband runs around the house looking for my inhaler which is always in the same couple places.. he tries at least.
Your husband doesn’t seem to have any empathy, sympathy or care for your health. I agree with the pillow comment above, show him what a privilege breathing is.
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u/NoExplanation7106 For the Girls 👅 10h ago
omg i was coughing like crazy today too!! (Midwest, asthmatic as well!) and puking up phlem/mucus in my throat, even though I was drinking tons of water,, ugh.. I hope this passes too!
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u/Consistent-Menu-6629 Body By Cheese 🧀 10h ago
Nah not dramatic at all, the air should be breathable without hurting you like that!
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u/Leading-Astronomer23 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
I’m sorry but why were YOU, someone with ASTHMA, the one to go water the birds? If he’s able bodied and can breathe fine, he should have gone.
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u/Beginning-Damage-555 Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 9h ago
As a person with severe asthma this reaction is so common. Sorry. Wildfire season sucks. 💜 from CA
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u/Successful_Moment_91 APPROVED✨ 9h ago
Try to keep your inhaler on you or very close by. I’d be dead if I had to go more than 2 feet to get mine. I woke up with an asthma attack and only had enough energy to grab it from my nightstand
I too rarely have issues unless I have a bad cold, virus or allergies
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u/asapmort 🧂Salty By Nature 9h ago
It's pretty bad in Ohio today. People in my office were coughing today in Cleveland. Definitely not dramatic, had he not been outside all day??
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u/Visual_Doughnut_2422 Shart Coochie Board Architect 9h ago
Why was he just sitting there like a lump? He should have been the one going outside in that time go shopping, etc! The air quality is dangerous for asthmatics! People die from asthma attacks - does he not know this???
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u/Putrid_Dream9755 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ 9h ago
ISTG men only marry so they can have a maid and someone to have sex with. They genuinely hate women.
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u/capricoria PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 9h ago
in illinois and my partner has asthma. i will not let them go out in this right now.
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u/-opossummypossum- 🧂Salty By Nature 9h ago
Hey so you're husband is wrong, inability to breathe causes death! You're not overreacting, your husband is a douche canoe and you should wear an N95 outside till the smoke and smog clears. As an EMT, I genuinely hate your husband for you. If your inhaler is ever not relieving your inability to breathe, call 911 immediately.
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u/ImpossiblePlan65 APPROVED✨ 8h ago
Sis, he's an ass. My boyfriend gets concerned if I have a mild asthma cough.
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u/Tipsy_Gamer I ❤️ Other People's Business 8h ago
I rushed off to the bathroom suddenly once (nothing serious just needed to throw up lol) and didnt hear my fiancé asking if I was okay from the living room. Less than a minute later he was at the bathroom door, concerned. He had to pause his videogame to do that.
Like this is normal behavior and what your husband did was grossssss.
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u/GalacticBreath 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 8h ago
I just had an asthma flare up visiting family and had to cut my trip short. I went to urgent care and they hooked it up with steroids and a nebulizer, fortunately. Haven't had a bad flare up in years but my hubs has given me arm rubs every night since being back because it does feel like I'm dying when I can't breath and he knows massages help my anxious ass relax. Shame on your hubs.
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u/CharacterSea8078 LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 8h ago
I'd be willing to wager that you're experiencing more frequent symptoms of your asthma than you realize, and that you'd be pleasantly surprised by how much better your everyday breathing could be with treatment. I say this as a lifelong asthmatic who believed for far too many years that it only counts when you're having a full-blown attack.
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u/bellegroves Kitchen Witch 8h ago
Use an n95 mask if you have to go back out in the smoke, and make sure it's on nice and snug. Stop up the windows and doors with towels if it starts getting bad inside.
Solidarity. Asthma and allergies and wildfires all suck a lot.
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u/Jetmutant APPROVED✨ 8h ago
Give that manchild a smakitywhack .. he knows of your condition and can't be assed to help when you are in trouble? Serious child like behavior!
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u/floofbirb_15 ⚐ Marked Safe From 90s Diet Culture 8h ago
Yeah, no. That’s so callous of your husband. I have panic attacks where I just FEEL like I can’t breathe, and my partner would never tell me I was being dramatic. Maybe he would take a few minutes to notice if my suffering was quiet and he was playing a video game 😅 but once he notices he locks in to support me.
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u/browncow1525 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 6h ago
Please be careful. If you’re allergic to what is burning it can get really bad. I’m not allergic to trees but a lot of other things that burn in the fires. Keep your inhaler with you. Wheezing sucks and is scary. I rarely have to worry about using my inhaler but it can be so bad out of no where.
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u/Quiet_surprise79 🦇 Fruit Bat Baddie 🍊 2h ago
Hey so different situation but I had a friend call 111 (UK non-emergency medical assistance but more serious/out of hours than GP) not long ago because she couldn't breathe. It ended up being a panic attack, but she'd never had one before and all she knew is that she couldn't breathe.
I'm super familiar with panic attacks (yay me) so I'd never take the same action because I know they're temporary and I'll be able to breathe again properly soon and blablabla. So my friend told me what happened and I told her she was being dramatic and should have just breathed through it.
JOKING!!! But that is how your husband sounds. I told her she did the right thing because she couldn't breathe and I was glad she was safe now. Breathing is pretty important.
I don't like your husband but I'm glad you're okay now. I hope you stay safe!
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u/FryOneFatManic Overthinker 💭 2h ago
Asthma can kill and does regularly.
BF needs to pull his head from his backside and grow up.
OP. Seriously, you need to take a hard look at this relationship.
He's dismissive of your asthma. If you have an episode serious enough to need medical attention, then you can't rely on him to step up.
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u/1ReluctantRedditor mouth full, gesturing wildly 10h ago
Oh, it looks like I accidentally got mail for him. Can you pass it along?
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u/LeopardusWiedii PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 10h ago
I sent it along. His exact words back were “That’s great I’m glad you have a community to validate your feelings”
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u/OldMaidLibrarian Assigned Hungry At Birth 7h ago
And he's good for exactly WHAT? What an asshole, passive-aggressive attitude!
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u/dumplinglifesaver Urban Hunter Gatherer 10h ago
I would love to know how he thinks you were being dramatic. Heaven forbid you need oxygen to survive.
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u/Megzasaurusrex nom-nom-nombinary 10h ago
If I was your husband, I would have one dropped my video game if I thought something was wrong. And two I would have said "are you okay? do you need me to get you anything? next time please ask me if you need anything outside. It isn't worth the risk of an asthma attack in this smoke. I don't want to have to take my honey bunches of oats to the ER." Then I would give you a big fat forehead kiss.
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u/that_angry_goose Snack Goblin 10h ago
That was a very inconsiderate reaction on your husband’s part, especially because your body had a very strong involuntary reaction to irritation. Is this something that happens a lot?
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u/Street_Sun4003 Certified Snacker 10h ago
To be fair when you’re locked in to a game you don’t notice anything around you but he should’ve cared for you after you explained
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u/persephone7821 APPROVED✨ 10h ago
No.
I’m a gamer myself. I’m aware of my surroundings and care about those around me. Even when I’m dealing with lickers while lusting over daddy Leon. Yes I wear headphones, I play competitive PvP and engage in vc. Still know what’s going on around me.
Furthermore he DID notice, if he didn’t he wouldn’t have called out “what’s going on”.
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u/Street_Sun4003 Certified Snacker 9h ago
Then leave ? Like ..
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u/persephone7821 APPROVED✨ 9h ago
Who should I leave? Or are you implying I should leave the sub because I said you can game and not be a dismissive butt. You’re weird af.
I’m simply contradicting what you said. Gaming is not an excuse to be dismissive of your partners wellbeing. You can still game and be aware of what’s going on around you, that is if you’re not a raging butthole. Some people put themselves above others always and use anything as an excuse though, that’s nothing to do with gaming it’s a personality flaw.
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u/Street_Sun4003 Certified Snacker 9h ago
No I’m saying leave the man he didn’t give AF that you were feeling bad 😬
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u/persephone7821 APPROVED✨ 9h ago
I’m not OP.
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u/Street_Sun4003 Certified Snacker 9h ago
Oh girl what the hell 😂 I’m sorry . Respectfully im not here for you. ♥️
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u/genuine_conafide APPROVED✨ 10h ago
Is there a pillow nearby you can use to give him a demonstration on how scary it is to not be able to breathe? 😇