My sweet boyfriend made some tie dye ravioli with brie/ricotta and apple, and focaccia last night.
Iāll be turning myself in at 4:30 to begin my ten day sentence..
Update for those asking: It was as bad/worse than I thought it would be lol.. Locked down 21-31 hours a day in our cells, 2-3 hours out, and that was really really hard.. obviously the food was terrible, couldnāt eat much besides carrots for lunch, and pieces of cake and milks Iād trade my breakfast trays for. Made some friends. Started my period and only got two pairs of underwear. They did give me my meds after day 3, so that was good enough. Read five four hundred page novels. I feel bad for a lot of the younger girls in there. I felt really weird yesterday, but I ate a friggin huge breakfast so that was nice. Fucking terrible dude, I definitely never want to go back šš»
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My mom was an RN that left rehab/long term care facilities after not being able to 'rebound' from a favorite client passing. She thought it would be easier working in a prison setting because she wouldn't feel pity for the population, but she was wrong. She would come home and cry about things she saw in the infirmary.
ETA: She was a nurse at a maximum security prison with a working electric chair & death row inmates.
Damn, that had to be a daily mental roller coaster. Do you think you'd were treated differently at all? Like, did inmates ask you medical questions if they couldn't see staff?
Mom thought 'Marty the murderer' dying on her would be less heartbreaking than 'Gertrude the granny'. She ended up seeing a lot of young guys doing max time for drug related charges tho. I became a social worker because of her experience there.
I don't think so, there were actually 2 other nurses in the block, one of which told me she'd kill me if I took her toilet paper (I had plenty of rolls stashed, not sure why that was such a thing)
Having done the same itās not super depressing (yeah, there are depressing cases, like any of healthcare), but itās an interesting place thatās high pace and low resource with a lot of ER overlap. You get a lot of the same patients the ER sees.
Honestly, there are some more funny and fun stories aside from sad ones that I didnāt expect.
It was interesting, to say the least! I particularly enjoyed my D rosters, which would be inmates with a (or multiple) psychiatric diagnosis. But like I said above, OP isnāt going to a state facility for 10 days (at least not in my state, that would be pretty unusual) and while itās not going to be the best experience of her life, itās not going to be nearly as bad as a longer stay or a stay in a prison environment as it relates to a county setting.
A friend of mine did a couple of weeks so I sent her some books (it was allowed as long as they shipped directly from the retailer to the jail) and one of them was a fancy book with astrological charts based on your specific birthday (not my interest but sheās into it). She said it made her super popular because everyone wanted her to look their birthday up for them. Itās my favorite tip for anyone going to a womenās jail.
When I went to jail a girl got a pack of Tarot cards sent to her.
She was super popular after that. Everyone wanted a reading, didn't matter if you were into that sort of thing or not, it was something fun to pass the time.
No experience with jail time (no shade) but I read books about graphology - itās about interpreting handwriting. Itās fascinating what you can see.
Whenever I mentioned this, I was beleaguered into doing everyoneās. Seriously. Thatās why Iām not talking about it anymore. I spent hours at dinner parties looking at three sentences and a signature each. Part of the popularity is that itās rare.
Maybe give it a try?
My bestie's BF had to go to county jail for some weekends due to being super stupid.
He said the worst part is the boredom. The jail library was 99% bibles and 1% Stephen King. The guy who controlled the deck of cards was top dog and everyone wanted to play a hand. It's the only thing available to make the time go by and be bearable.
The food he said was utterly disgusting, like rotten baloney sandwiches. You could opt for the vegetarian diet which was peanut butter sandwiches. He said the side benefit to the PB sandwich was the constipation because...I'm sure we can all figure that out.
Omg that is an amazingly thoughtful gift. I am seriously impressed and I will save this tip. You're going to be just fine girl, keep your chin up, shoulders back, and your eyes forward. Ten days will be over in a flash. Women tend to look out for each other in jail and you'll be okay š
In county for ten days girl, I wouldnāt make this your main concern. I still wouldnāt loan anything out, but county is NOT, I repeat NOT, the state pen. Youāre going to be fine! Like the other people have said, just mind your business and stay out of drama situations. Itās ok to be friendly! The people in there are people too, youāre not walking in to a facility full of people that want to hurt you, remember that! Those ladies just want to do their time and go home, just like you.
I spent almost 48 hours in county in my very early 20's and the girlies and I all ended up friends very quickly lol. We were hooting and cheering as each girl got called up for release. "Cellmate" and I ended up having a convoluted joke about how we were only in there because we opened an old time capsule and found a 24 pack of Zima.
Years later I went in for a blood test ordered by my doc for some medical concerns and when the phlebotomist turned around it was her and we both screamed "ZIMA!!!!" at the same time. 10 days sucks but ultimately OP will be just fine.
Iām really torn about this because it does depend a lot on the specific county.
Generally, county isnāt too bad and youāll likely be fine OP, but some counties jail is actually way worse than prison. Not local holding jails, but actual county jail for longer non-prison sentences can be much much worse than federal prisons due to a number of factors like lower budgets, overpopulation, etc. Fed prisons are actually usually pretty decent, state prisons are typically rougher.
OP keep your wits about you, donāt share anything, be polite but donāt be overly nice or people pleasing. Set your jaw and have some sharp edges until you know what kind of crowd youāre in. 10 days is very short and Iām sure youāll be just fine, just keep your head on a swivel and assume everyone wants something from you.
Source: been to both city holding jails & county myself, and have unfortunately had a lot of loved ones serve longer county sentences and federal prison sentences.
She knows how long she's in for and has a boyfriend who made her a going away meal; she'll be fine.
I was in County for 3 months and most of the stress was not knowing when the heck I was gonna be let out and having no one to call outside.
One of the other ladies had a pen pal from the guys side of jail who made a joke about female jail being just a bunch of girls braiding each others hair and he was surprisingly accurate.
I hear you, and I hope thatās OPās experience. But respectfully, it really depends on the county & even just the current inmates. Iām not trying to scare OP, just want her to keep her wits about her and not go in with a false sense of security. It should be obvious pretty quickly what the general vibe is.
you can do 10 days in county no problem - promise! iāve been in county jail a few times, and your biggest problem is usually gonna be the boredom and the drama (because of the boredom lol) with a 10 day sentence
also, with a sentence that short, commissary might be an issue. thereās a chance you wonāt get it until right before youāre released, which sucks
take advantage of tablets and video calls - theyāre expensive after awhile, but worth it. 3 years ago my husband was in county for a month (yes i know, weāre ridiculous lol) and i scheduled video visits for us twice a day. he said it kept him sane and gave him something to look forward to. so take advantage of that!
read books, watch crappy tv, and find a nice girl or 2 to bullshit with. youāll do great š
One of my old friends had to do the same sentence, so that was helpful for some insight. I also have an ex that spent several months in jail as well(yes, I have always been an idiot š), so Iāve been on the other side. My main concern was being able to have my antidepressants/anti anxiety meds (non narcotic), but it seems like that wonāt be an issue. Thank you for the kind words and insight, Iāve honestly been so anxious all day and canāt even eat which is super frustrating. I probably wonāt respond to any more comments because itās a little overwhelming. I didnāt expect so many responses at all, but I sure do appreciate the kindness. š
just think of it as an experience - like a shitty vacation lol. iāll be thinking about you this week! if you think of it, pop back in or dm me when you get out and let me know how you did. i bet youāll do great, youāll make at least a friend or 2, and youāll come out with some interesting stories š
Maaaaybe, but jail is different than prison. Lots of people trying to just do their short time and move on ASAP. Majority will be for stuff like DUI or child support payments, not hard crimes. Probably some people will even be on work release and only sleeping there during the week. Not saying it's smart to loan things out if you ever want to see them again, but it probably won't be as rough as all that.
I had to go back and reread because I thought she said 10 days in like a county jail not 10 years in a state prison š my husband did a little 6 months once MANY MANY MANY YEARS AGO because he saw a guy assaulted a girl and he didn't like that and reacted without thinking. He said there was a couple weirdos in there but it was overall no big deal. I have only stayed the night a couple times for unpaid fines when I was much younger š and it's nothing like going to a prison. I grew up around addicts that definitely would have giggled at doing a couple weeks in county. I mean, yeah I would rather be at home in my own bed minding my own business and eating whatever I want but I'm sure op will be safe
Yes. Ime 95% of the ladies in there are chill, regular people just down on their luck like OP. At worst OP is going to make a little friend to talk to everyday but thatās about it.
But yea for the most part OP does not have to worry about seasoned criminals messing with her 24/7 š¤£š¤£š¤£
90% of these comments are posted by people who havenāt ever been to jail lol. Most Americans use the terms ājailā and āprisonā interchangeably.
Iāve never been to jail/prison/detention centers etc. and I donāt know anyone who has either. The thought of 10 days in any of those places terrifies me.
You'll be okay. There will be hard moments. But you can do 10 days. It's not going to become your lifestyle. Don't let anyone take you out of your element or put you in a position to get in any trouble. You'll be just fine.
I'm not being funny when I say phones are snuck in regularly into jails/prisons. There's whole subreddits of people posting from inside. On the struggle food sub, there's a dude who posts his plate literally every day lol
Iām curious to know how it compares to the public school cafeteria food in my state. Both designed to feed a huge amount of people every day on a budget of $3 and a prayer, Iāve heard people compare the quality but I wonder how true that actually is.
I went to a psych ward that had bizarrely fantastic food, I ate so much while I was there. There was only one meal out of the 7 days I was there that wasn't just weirdly delicious.
Same! I was actually kinda jealous my first stint because the folks there for restrictive eating disorders got *reeeealllyyyy* good food like Salmon and roasted broccoli.
I mean, im old so i havent been in public school since the 90s, but county jail food wasnt even close to what we would get in the cafeteria in school. It was gross. We had something we would call schmeat, like a patty of "something" meat-like but just tasted... off. Maybe it was mixed with soy or something? I dont know for sure. I can say it was way worse than school food, at least in my area.
It is 100x worse than school cafeteria meals. It was like eating over cooked sludge with spongey meat and a dry piece of corn bread. I was lucky a girl gave me a packet of mayo to put on my cold 1/4in thick piece of bologna because it covered the taste enough to swallow it lol
Edit: I also did a 10 day jail sentence for 2 DUIs like OP. I wouldāve died for a school cafeteria meal while in there. Most people live off commissary Doritos, funions, and ramen.
I was in jail a few months ago for a few days. I didnāt eat until I went home, wasnāt even hungry. Between the stress and how genuinely disgusting the food wasā¦ no appetite at all. I probably wouldāve caved around day 5, but I was holding strong when I got popped out. I just drank milk boxes.
Like, one day was hot dogs. Mine were literally grey.
My mom went to a federal prison (min security) and we were putting money on her books and this heifer was sitting around crocheting hats and eating name brand ice cream š¤£ I can't even afford name brand out here in the wild š she said it was like sleep away camp but she was ready to come home from vacation and act right š¤ and so far she pretty much has acted right. She went for a year and been out for 5 she said if you walk in and act like you got a little bit of walking around sense then you are usually fine
As someone who did over a year in Maricopa county, AZ, both under Arpaio and Lamb, it sucks lol
I saw a woman dive over a bunk bed to fight a woman for a cupcake.
Our whole pod got maced when 2 women were fighting and it started to involve a DO. They maced the 2 women to get them to stop fighting and it spread of course in the tightly contained area.
I got some beautiful forearm tattoos for essentially $8
Second dui, so honestly I deserve it. I have been through treatment, two months of php and iop(intensive therapy programs), and work really hard every day to maintain my sobriety.
ETA for the record I wasnāt drunk, nor was I driving at the time (doesnāt matter), I was high passed out in my car.
My dad got attested in Nebraska. What about yours? š My younger sister had to post bail š
Eta: wait. I think you guys misunderstood š I'm saying it's weird that this person dad and my dad both were arrested on Thanksgiving š I'm sorry I don't mean it's weird to share this hahaha forgive me
Im so so sorry, I thank god all the time I didnāt hurt anyone. I it very seriously. My mother actually died in a single car drunk driving accident š Iāve had terrible trouble with addiction honestly, but like I said in another comment, I do a lot of things to maintain my sobriety. Thatās all I can do..
If you have a family history of addiction, it's possible there is a genetic predisposition involved in your struggle. You might need help from a physician who treats addiction rather than therapy alone. Some people need pharmaceutical help to stay clean.
Use every tool at your disposal to beat this, because you deserve a better life and the risk of harming others when you lose control is not worth the temporary numbing of your pain. Talk to doctors, social workers, addiction specialists, therapists, whoever you need to talk to in order to figure this out. It is pretty much impossible to beat it on your own, so you have to find the help that works best for you as an individual.
My brother also died from alcoholism 4 years ago too.. in the past year Iāve done 3 months of intensive therapy programs including 30 days in patient. Relapsed. Moved into a sober living house with some awesome women for several months.. I maintain personal therapy weekly, and still go to meetings once in a while. Iām really trying man. It sucks having to be someone that has to work so hard for it. Took a long time to admit Iāll have to do this forever, but thatās just the way it is I reckon. Thank you though for the advice regardless.
Yes! Naltrexone and Wellbutrin are shown to be helpful pharmaceutical therapy for sobriety when used in conjunction with other therapies (like talk therapy).
You got this one day at a time OP š«¶
ETA: the person below reminded me that GLP-1s are being talked about/researched/used off label for addiction too. We have much better pharmaceutical options now, and ones that donāt replace addiction with a less harmful addiction. Worth exploring for anyone in recovery - they might not be appropriate, but worth having a conversation with a healthcare provider (assuming one has access to healthcare).
Im proud of you, you are taking your meds, you've been in treatment in multiple ways, you did sober living. From someone with 23 years - I'm proud of you big big. These steps all matter. There is no magic bullet but you and your hard work.
I second the Wellbutrin. Never felt as good in life, never was more happy than when I was taking it. I also have adhd and bipolar disorder, so caveat there, but it def worked for me.
As someone whoās been clean almost 5 years now, I promise it does get easier as time goes on. It becomes the norm the way using was the norm before after some years. I wish you the best of luck in your sobriety š«¶š»š
Hey, I am proud of you for all of your effort and persistence. Truly. ā¤ļø
I fight with a different addiction and have predisposition from addition and depression in family. Itās a day to day choice and it can be hard some days but itās worth it to do the best we can.
Wishing you the best on your 10 days! I lost my best friend to alcoholism 4 months ago. Her mom had passed away 3 years prior and she really struggled those few years. By the time she was admitting it, it was too late. She was in the ICU and then left and checked into rehab, we were all so fucking proud, and then she caught an infection and couldnāt overcome the damage that was already done to her little body.
I miss her every single day. We spoke on the phone literally daily. Iāve felt so lost without her. I was closer to her than my sister or my family tbh.
I know Iām just a stranger but if you canāt do it for yourself (which sounds like youāre really trying), do it for your brother and all your loved ones. We are all just getting by without her.
Be strong!!!!!!! And good luck! We are all rooting for you āØāØāØ
Hey fellow hazy grazer š Iāve got a different disorder that I know requires working at āstaying healthyā for the rest of my life, and I gotta say that I admire your attitude.
It is hard, and it does suck REALLY bad. And at the same time, itās worthwhile and you are REALLY capable. Iām cheering for you from the west coast, and I canāt wait for you to check in with us in a week and a half.
Take it one day at a time and use all the tools at your disposal! And if worse comes to worst and you slip up,, stay out of them cars unless you're a passenger of course
Iām sorry for your loss, and wish you the best with maintaining your sobriety. I litigate drunk driving cases and itās always horrifying to me how quickly the choice to drive drunk can ruin someoneās life, whether thatās the driverās or innocent folks on the road with them (or often both). For what itās worth, this internet stranger is really proud of you for taking the necessary steps to keep yourself and others safe.
Iām a child of alcoholics and I struggle too. One thing Iāve learned is if I say ok to one I cannot drive home. Because for me, itās never just one drink
Iām so sorry for your loss. Itās scary on the roads especially when other people are intentionally putting OTHER peopleās lives at risk. It is never worth it to drive under the influence, ever!Ā
My great grandfather was killed by a drunk driver when he was 95. I was just a newborn so I don't remember him, but I always thought that was tragic. He lived so long and someone else's bad, selfish decision ended his life.
I havenāt heard of SMART recovery before, but wow, I really appreciate that theyāre an option! Like you said, many people are not fans of AA for a variety of reasons. So this is a great option to know!
I will not lie, I agree with you that you deserve jail time. I also have a ton of respect for you because youāre not making excuses and youāre facing the consequences like a grown woman. You seem to be in a good place and I wish you lots of success going forward.
Keep on it. A young woman in my hometown died when she was hit by a drunk driver while waiting to turn into her driveway. Her family heard the accident from inside the house and ran outside to see their daughter burning to death inside her car. They screamed in the street how much they loved her as her body disappeared from view when the inferno got bigger.
Youāve probably heard a million of these stories, and I imagine you donāt want it to be yours. Maybe more importantly, you donāt want it to be someone elseās story because of you. Keep fighting the good fight, this is so much bigger than you.
Hey OP -- I am 10 years in recovery. If you need to talk when you get out, please message me. I am always here for those of us who have to fight the bottle. It's not easy.
I remember what it was like trying to quit drinking, and I am here to support you if needed! Therapy is amazing, and it will do so so so so so so much for you because you're doing the work!!! I remember my IOP classes, and they saved my fucking life.
Every second is a victory. Every minute is an achievement. Every hour is a gain. Every day is a triumph.
I am so proud of you. Good job taking accountability! This is absolutely a major step. ā¤ļø ā¤ļø ā¤ļø
Iāve never gotten a DUI, but I understand the addiction to alcohol very, very well. Itās a struggle that is very hard to come out of, but it can be done.
Pay your dues, and I genuinely wish you the best of luck both during your sentence and journey to sobriety after.
10 days will fly by. The important thing is no one was hurt while you were drinking and there is still time rebuild yourself stronger than before. You got this
I respect your admission and I empathize with your struggle to maintain sobriety.
Many years ago, my sister and brother decided to go on a drunk driving joy ride. He didnāt survive and she was left to face vehicular manslaughter charges afterwards. She was never able to get sober and we no longer have a relationship. It feels like they both died that day. I hope your story is different.
I hope you use those 10 days to think about the kind of life you want for yourself and the relationships you want to have with other people and yourself. Of course you could hurt a stranger, but you might also hurt someone you love or yourself. Donāt count yourself out, either. Your loss would hurt everyone who loves you for the rest of their lives.
I got a second DUI and went to jail for 10 days too. My last meal before going in was Penne Alfredo with zucchini and tomatoes. If you need advice or a shoulder to lean on, my DMs are open :)
You can do it!! Sobriety is something to be proud of!!! Iām a bartender and I love to support people who request non alcoholic drinks, cuz our culture is way too obsessed with alcohol. Weāre rooting for you!!
Keep working hard. I've been clean for ~7 years and spent more than my fair share of time in jail. I work in mental health and addiction treatment these days. You can fucking do it. Be safe, keep your head down, and come out of this with fire in your heart. Well all be rooting for you.
Keep up the good work! Go to meetings while you are in, it will help pass the time & keep you positive.
Then in a few years you can go back as a speaker to tell your story (thatās what I did). Rooting for you big time ā„ļø
The r/sparklingwater sub has a lot of folks who are working on sobriety and use sparkling water as part of that path. It's not exclusively a space with sober folks, but it's been a pretty safe place for those folks who are.
Thatās how my dad kicked his 20+ year alcoholism in my teens! Iām glad people still use sparkling water for sobriety. Itās a great tool and something your body needs, itās like double the self love.
Sorry guys! I think he used beet root and squid ink, and probably something else, honestly unsure. So mixing them together you get the different colors throughout. Heās a chef so he made it in a an actual kitchen.
Who knows, maybe it will be exactly what you need to help keep you sober. I was an alcoholic (coming up on 5 years sober) and getting my first&only DUI was the wakeup call I needed. The three days in the DIP was the first time I went longer than a day without drinking and being forced to be sober for that time was exactly what I needed to start weaning myself off and officially quit for good a year later.
Just keep to yourself. I did 10 days once. It suuuucked, but I lucked out with the sweetest old lady cellmate and it went faster than I thought it would. Steer clear of the girls that think it's a high school and get cliquey with each other. Popular mean girls are all over jails.
EDIT: I forgot to say, go to all the meetings for anything. It helps pass the time.
Also no underwire, you can still keep the bra sometimes but they rip the underwire out. You can also bring cash to deposit in your commissary account. Youāll need it for snacks, decent soap and shampoo and phone access, unless you plan to call collect.
I spent a month in jail while pregnant with my first kid. Heads up, the easiest thing to do is get a book asap to read and keep to yourself. No one in there actually wants to be friends and theyāre all snakey. Good luck queen!!
The book 'A Gathering of Shadows" was my companion. It was handed to me my 2nd day when was begging for a book and I read that sucker about 4 times. One of the first things I did upon release was check out the 1st and 3rd books in the trilogy.
So frustrating, but weirdly hilarious, that the best book in the library was the 2nd book of a trilogy that ended on a freaking cliffhanger!!
Op if you see this, which you may not with so many comments, I have some real advice for a short jail stay. Wear a white non underwire sports bra, white basic panties and white socks. White t shirt if you have one. Some jails will let you keep all that if itās within regulation.
You probably wonāt even be in long enough for commissary to be a thing you have to worry about but bring some cash on your person just in case.
Seconding ābring cash.ā In my jurisdiction, the jail will release you at any time of the day or night and for a single woman that can be rough. If your phone dies and they donāt let you charge it youāll want money for a taxi or something!
I still have the jail release card they give you with all the money you went in with loaded onto it. It was like 64 cents.
Yeah; I walked for a good while after release. I stopped at a library and used FB messenger to tell my bestie I was out. Then I hoofed it to a restaurant I used to work at because I knew they'd let me charge my phone and bum a cigarette while I found a ride.
Been there. I got out the same day due to overcrowding. Make sure to memorize someoneās number in case they lose your phone and itās 3 am. Side note. I got home to my bf with our friend. So it was a GREAT day.
They lost the phone numbers I wrote down and my best friend ended up finding me through a missing person's report about a month in. My name was called for visitation and I couldn't believe it cause I didn't think anyone knew where the heck I was.
Seconding the advice to memorize someone's phone number.
After another stint in rehab where I was left with no contact information I wanna get phone numbers tattooed on my arm.
You know what, I can truly respect someone who acknowledges that they have a problem. Best of luck with everything, OP. Iām hoping that your journey to sobriety is an easy battle after this.
Yeah and in my opinion 10 days for a DUI isnāt enough. I wouldnāt be surprised if OP lives in Wisconsin as the state has a huge alcohol and DUI problem but doesnāt seem to care much about punishing people for it.Ā
However, congrats OP on your incredibly great steps towards recovery and admitting your faults.Ā
Source: lives in Wisconsin and cmon, weāve all seen the map of drunkest counties in America.
Edit: I didnāt know the details of OPās case and I probably shouldnāt have made assumptions. Both then and now I stand by being proud of OP and their work towards recovery and I think thatās much more effective than ridiculously long punishment.Ā
If you don't mind me asking, what do you think is the appropriate time and what do you think they'll learn in that time?
I support reforming the prison system, destroying for profit prison system and heavily champion restorative justice. In this case, since she was passed out in her car, I'd double up on treatment. Punishing addicts very rarely works. Might feel good for the billionaires owning the work camp prisons, but doesn't do much for addiction.Ā
My mom is a raging alcoholic. Has been for my entire life. Sheās 70 years old and got her first DUI last year. Her sentence was 1 night in jail and an interlock device in her car for 6 months. She learned absolutely nothing. IMO she should have spent a year in county. Dry her ass out. She put multiple peopleās lives (including mine as a child) in danger. Driving under the influence should be considered a violent crime. While I agree that shaming people for addiction doesnāt really work, having them experience actual consequences and not just one night in jail might help with accountability. Iām so over the dancing around addictās feelings. At some point it is a choice and choices have consequences.
Dont make after friends. Like, be friends while you are there, but dont take numbers and be like "let's keep in touch!" . (Or take numbers with the intent of throwing them out) . I say this bc 10 days is not long enough to know someone, and you dont really want to befriend career criminals. I stayed in for a month. At the beginning I thought I might have a few outside friends afterwards . By the end i decided I dont want to keep any of them in my life. It was a good call- I seen the same people nodding out in the streets and causing chaos , and that part of my life is done and gone.
It's really important information imo. It takes it from a "you are a wildly selfish wreckless person and you deserved worse" to a "oh yeah, I can see how that happened, that fkn sucks."
Hey girl! Just wanted to say youāre not alone in struggling with drinking. It took me 5 years to finally quit. Hardest thing Iāve ever done. You seem like youāre self aware and willing to grow and learn, which is the best thing you can do right now. You got this. Youāre not alone in having been through the struggle.Ā
Donāt forget- youāre a visitor to some of the people that live there. Donāt complain or brag about what youāll do once youāre out. Stay quiet- the house mouse (the one who gathers intel will help you right away). Donāt talk about money on your books or the fact that you can call. Some women donāt have it that way and the bragging will get you in spots you donāt want to be in. Grab a book immediately if you can! Donāt judge the food- graciously take it, if you donāt want it, offer it to the house mouse. Your sidecar (the one next to you will hopefully keep you sane). Keep cool. Donāt shower when you want- watch the flow and get in when itās not a popular time- you donāt want to take a time that belongs to someone living there. Wipe the food tables down/ if they see you being helpful w that/ you wonāt be voluntold to do toilets.
Proud of you for working to maintain your sobriety and accepting your punishment for your unfortunate choice.
When I was in college I spent 3 days in jail. The ladies with me were honestly pretty nice but one of them snuck in drugs which resulted in our whole area being strip searched. We didnāt have enough beds so every night someone took the floor on this weird plastic cot thing.
Otherwise, food is gross, and itās hard to stay clean. Overall would never go back but you will survive and hopefully continue on your path towards bettering your physical and mental health.
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