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u/LeahFosters 7h ago
The kitchen has a one-person capacity when i'm cooking 😂
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u/AlexKingComedy 7h ago
I had a lot of fun experimenting in the kitchen with my SO. No food was ultimately produced, but it was a good time.
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u/Appropriate_Ad8734 7h ago
but a kid was produced
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u/KGB_cutony 6h ago
I should be the only living thing in the kitchen.
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u/Crossovertriplet 26m ago
What about yeast
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u/fallenKlNG 7h ago
I love my wife, but she micromanages and criticizes every little thing I do when I'm cooking, all without really contributing. We have an understanding when I politely ask her to leave me to it
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u/Blackfrost_7 4h ago
My Partner likes baking together with me, I find it somewhat stressfull because I have to do everything exactly the way she wants it even without explicitly saying it.
I mean I learned most things over time but sometimes there happens something that did not come up before or I occasionaly forget a detail and that annoys my Partner.
I only enjoy it when everything goes well otherwise it is just stressfull. Its somewhat stressfull anyways but there is a downwards trend when things dont go as planned.
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u/Single_Cobbler6362 7h ago
Same....I only let my daughter help and even that still bothers me a little, untill she gets tired then I tell her she can relax I got the rest 😂
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u/LilNekoChicano 6h ago
Same here.. I tell my kids get your drinks or whatever before I get started.. Lol!
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u/Small_Abies_3539 𝙑𝙄𝙋 7h ago
I used to help my mom cook for the family, she appreciated it always thanked me after.
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u/thepacificosean 7h ago
Did you prep and/or clean dishes for your mom? Cause that is always greatly appreciated when cooking. Tasks that aren’t in the way of cooking process.
Doubt anyone cooking/baking wants someone over their shoulder while they kneed dough.
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u/dirtyasseating 7h ago
Step-mom?
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u/Large-Hamster-199 7h ago
I think the Internet may have touched you in a bad place so many times that it has ruined you
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u/bwoah07_gp2 7h ago
Two people can be in the kitchen, 100%
One cooks and the other cleans. Or, both cook and give one person the easiest, minute tasks lol
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u/becauseiloveyou 1h ago
I always valued relationships where my partner wanted to be around me in the kitchen. It’s almost like everyone has diff’ preferences and no one person should speak on behalf of everyone else.
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u/T-Roll- 7h ago
Cooking is very stimulating as there’s hazards everywhere, hot food, sharp knives, and you need space to work, keep organised. Someone coming in to rummage around in cupboards or tidy up, or also prepare food is a big NO from me. GET OUT THE WAY!!!
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u/FeralPsychonaut 7h ago
I just said something similar in a comment above you. There's a reason in bars / restaurants we yell sharp and hot when moving through that space, we are doing something. We want to ensure safety for everyone else, and also not have them fuck around with our process on the dish lol.
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u/joyofsovietcooking 51m ago
I know you know this: We also say "behind you" in the kitchen when we walk behind someone. Prevents unexpected collisions. 35 years later and that's still the rule in my home kitchen.
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u/FeralPsychonaut 27m ago
Exactly, I worked in a nightclub once that had only 4 people on staff and, you can't hear shit anyone said... after a month we all were moving around each other and just instinctively knew where each other was lol
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u/T-Roll- 7h ago
Exactly, no matter how many times i tell my partner this it never registers. I’m frying something on the pan and she comes in with our toddler. Toddler then pulls up a stool and is trying to climb out the window, or is playing with something they shouldn’t be.
People of the world. If your partner asks you to move out the kitchen when they are cookin, just DO AS THEY SAY.
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u/FeralPsychonaut 6h ago edited 6h ago
I've gotten yelled at, and written up after, for yelling drink runners because I ran out of space at the service well while weeded as fuck like 14 tickets deep. (This happened twice at different places)
Some people will never get it
ETA,
First spot had 550 max seating capacity, second was 240ish
Normally I'd just run them myself but when you're 14 tickets deep and the guest sees the bartender making your drinks move from their spot, they ask questions and then the servers have to field those.
If the table was less than 12' away I'd just do it myself and make uo some nonsense excuses..
One of these spots had two floors, and I cant be asked to leave my post with 14 tickets carrying two extra dirty Martinis with a full bar rail of 16 people...
You're only able to get so much done as a chef, server or bartender without pissing off a guest.
(Second place, we were one of the only places open on Mondays and my other bartender partner HATED service well ), so in a city of 50k I regularly got fucked. I remember that first week I was there we made half a grand (each) off tips + tipout and wages. I was like, okay, the day sucked but it was worth it.
I take the I make drinks seriously, and I can't stand to watch a perfect stirred martini get warm, or ice melting to the point I can see condensation on the Collins glass in front of me.
It's just so ingrained in my brain at this point, I worked at one of the best cocktail bars in the city for a while pre Pandemic
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u/ObviouslyRealPerson 7h ago
If someone wants to help me in the kitchen, I just tell them to pick their station. But the top one is already taken
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u/a_x_shually 7h ago
goddamn right. If I want help I'll ask for it, otherwise, be elsewhere :)
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u/dirtyasseating 7h ago edited 7h ago
But not far away...
I don't want to have to track you down all over the frigging house when you disappear, knowing damn well I just poured the water glasses and am about to put the food out.
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u/a_x_shually 7h ago
exactly!
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u/FeralPsychonaut 7h ago edited 7h ago
Cooking is a science, and plating things is an art.
If I'm preparing dinner, I straight don't want or need help, this is coming from a bartender of 16 years. If i need or want help I'll ask for it.
Let the person cooking do the task they said they'd do and go relax until they say Dinner is Ready.
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u/ElectricSnowBunny 7h ago
Hey man to be fair I don't really want to cut up all the fucking vegetables, people have uses
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u/theBIGFrench15 7h ago
If it's someone who can cook at your skill level, and works well with you, hell yeah. If not, gtfo.
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u/Flintydeadeye 7h ago
Depends on how many chefs there are in the kitchen. My family is fucking horrible at it. Restaurant family growing up so everyone can cook and everyone has an opinion. Nobody can cook anything the way they planned without someone making a helpful suggestion or addition to the recipe.
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u/Upbeat-Evidence-2874 7h ago
Most of the times I get yelled at by my wife for being in the way and I get told to do the dishes instead. Which I am fine with.
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u/One_Afternoon5897 7h ago
This was my favorite thing to do with friends and my ex. I honestly can’t cook and I get drunk when I do bc it’s fun and I listen to music. The outcome of the dish is usually hit or miss as I don’t follow instructions. I pull up a yt video look at the finished product and go “seems easy enough”. I was the drink guy at all our get togethers lol.
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u/SignoreBanana 7h ago
Fr. I'm the cook in the house and I have to turn off my cook brain to be a good dad and let my daughters help me.
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u/Fit-Rhubarb-7820 7h ago
Nah, me and my ex Lilly would literally think of something to make, make it within an hour, somehow wash the dishes before serving up, serve up, eat, watch TV, fuck, nap and we made that work like clockwork :D
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u/Iyorek9000 7h ago
If you have goal, someone helping prep is fine... otherwise too many fucking fingers in the pie, meatloaf, Andalusian empanadas, carnitas, hortopitas, fish tacos, chinese.. what have you
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u/Nerus46 7h ago
Yeah, no, people who say this only cooked one-two meals at the time for 1-2 persons.
When it is bigger, unless you want to spend your entire weekend by the stove, you NEED help, even as basic as mixing pie basis or cutting cheese. My mother always is asking either me or dad to help with the kitchen and we actually do a plenty of job
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u/KneeGearlol 7h ago
I often help my mom in the kitchen, does she secretly hates it?
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u/Revolutionary-Wash88 7h ago
No this post is dumb, I've cooked with a lot of different people. Obviously it's better when they are bringing skills, and everyone knows their role, but its ridiculous to say that no one enjoys it
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u/ZealousidealHome7854 7h ago
Ehhhh, kinda. I will have someone just standing around or anyone who asks to help chop, clean or otherwise prepare vegetables or open cans or whatever.
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u/Dizzy_School8107 7h ago
Actually I can cook, I love to cook romantically with a woman in the kitchen. Know what’s even sexier her doing the dishes with me and being extremely sexual and flirtatious with it as well.
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u/AntSUnrise 7h ago
Depends on prepping. That’s fine. But once the cooking starts. Someone has to bounce away.
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u/BeebsMuhQueen 7h ago
I can only cook with certain people that understand my “behind you” and step back personal space that’s needed in the kitchen. My husband hurts me stepping on my toes, coming up behind me causing me to burn myself or have a cardiac… I associate him and kitchen with getting hurt and it raises cortisol… not endorphins. I have to just do it alone or have him take it out when I’m not in there lol
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u/--InZane-- 7h ago
While i prefer cooking on my own I dont mind if my wife is there with me as long as we dont stand in each other's way that is.
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u/crazyfatskier2 7h ago
Tbf I dated someone once in which we had great kitchen chemistry. Simply we defined rolls. Chef, Sou chef, prep cook. This helped us not get in the way of each other but work like a two person restaurant. We also were both on the mentality of “clean as you go.”
Which really if you think about it is the only logical way to spend time waiting for a dinner of four to cook and not be consumed by a pile of dishes at the end, but that’s neither here nor there.
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u/Fuzzy_Adagio_6450 7h ago
What pisses me off is how if you so much as pass through the kitchen while someone else is doing something (microwaving something to eat, making a coffee, rinsing a spoon...) they act all indignant and pissy, but when you're out there preparing a meal for the whole family its time for all those assholes to just fucking come do calisthenics or start watching The Lord of the Rings (extended edition) and lounge about.
For some reason those dickheads never seem to realize when THEY'RE doing it!
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u/ooaegisoo 7h ago
Nah, cooking with someone if you can clearly assigns tasks is great. I do it with my wife often. The rule is that the one who lead for a particular meal decide and tell the other what he needs to do. Sometimes me, sometimes her. You can combine your strenghts that way.
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u/Individual-Ad-7567 7h ago
I have been cooking with my wife for the last 35 years. Sometimes she leads and sometimes I do. We always eat good!
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u/TrueProtection 7h ago
Aka, whoever doesn't cook should do the clean up and maybe help prep or shop. Then, hey, wouldn't ya know it! It makes each other feel appreciated! Waaow!
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u/fdwyersd 7h ago
my step dad is a former french bistro cook/chef from a bazillion years ago and knows how to stay out of the way... I can ask him to chop veg or prep things :)
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u/Neither_Meaning_8354 6h ago
The reason Why this kitchen Trend is a joke. I want to have my Peace when I'm in the Kitchen
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u/archtopfanatic123 6h ago
Yeah tell that to my mom and stepdad who both are insanely good chefs. They go like clockwork in a kitchen xD
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u/Seighart_Mercury 6h ago
The difference here is whether it's about "the journey" or "the destination".
If it's about the destination, unless you're experienced in prepping ingredients in the right timing, get out of the kitchen.
If it's about the journey, then come here and we can mess around. The food may or may not end up good, but we'll have some food either way. (possibly with questionable edibility lol)
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u/Broad_Phrase_6905 6h ago
"Intimacy" is code for you standing directly behind me reaching around for the salt while I'm trying to not burn the garlic, get out of my kitchen and go set the table.
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u/AutonomousOrganism 5h ago
As long as the roles a clearly assigned, cook and assistant. It's perfectly fine.
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u/StillSimple6 5h ago
We seem to be the odd couple here as we love to cook together. We have a big kitchen with central island so we have a side each.
It's our weekend ritual to cook dinner, have drinks, listen to music etc.
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u/Slazagna 5h ago
Whwn my partner and I cook together we designate a head chef and an assistant. The head chef tells the other person what to do and the assistant stays the fuck out of the way. Works well most of the time.
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u/Hell_Maybe 5h ago
Dude even when I am explicitly preparing food for other people and someone kindly asks if I need help with anything I still tell them to fuck off because my brain physically cannot handle the pressure of trying to sear meat while also worrying about if another person is dicing the onions at the appropriate size.
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u/Either-Banana-7323 5h ago
I'm a chef and honestly I love cooking with my wife. We have a good time with it.
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u/KingGallardo 5h ago
I cook with my son whenever we meet and it is always pleasant. We divide workload and nobody steps on other's toes.
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u/MoonShine-1976 5h ago
I love to cook with my husband. I do the prep work and lay it out in order of operation. Then I read the directions to him and he and I pretend he is a food wizard. He serves the food and I clean up.
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u/ChefArtorias 5h ago
A talented cook can delegate to a helper, but it's not a cooperative experience.
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u/BigSquiby 5h ago
i have people that can help me in the kitchen, my wife isn't one of them, neither is her mom.
Ill take my own mothers help in the kitchen and a couple of my guy friends. Their wives can't help either.
to be fair, all the guys i am friends with cook, none of their wives do.
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u/Gangleri_Graybeard 4h ago
I recently had a date and he wanted to bake a cake with me. It's a huge hobby for him and it was our fifth date. I raised an eyebrow after he criticized me a couple times for some really unimportant stuff. Like the oven was already turned off but the switch for the temperature was not turned to 0°C. Two different dials, that's how this thing works. I didn't want to explain it to him, so we had dinner and then he was like "So you want to give me a room tour before I go? Like the bedroom?" and I just said "Not really, no." Too bad, he was exactly my type but hey, personality matters. I brought him to the door and he never texted me again.
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u/ShawnnSmuts90 4h ago
Right?? If I’m cooking, stay out of the kitchen unless I specifically ask for help
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u/dring157 4h ago
If you can’t make use of a helper in the kitchen you are either terrible at giving instructions, an idiot, or a terrible cook.
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u/KofFinland 4h ago
There is always work for the helper. Peeling things. Chopping things. Washing dishes.
One person makes the food. The other person is the helper. Works wonders.
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u/WritesCrapForStrap 4h ago
Why? One person peeling and chopping, the other cooking and stirring. Have a chat while you're doing it.
Unless you're super serious about doing a bit of dinner.
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u/Dismal-Twist-8273 4h ago
Yes. I cook. She eats it. It’s a simple concept. I ideally want nobody else in my kitchen, but I tolerate my kids there because I want to teach them how to cook.
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u/Every-Candidate-6158 4h ago
Fuck that! Please help me dice and start cooking the onions, while I prepare the rest.
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u/Feldan_Ospreigh 3h ago
Even if they are the love of my life....I dont need help cooking. It would actually annoy me. I want them to sit in the living room and watch TV or read a book while I cook.
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u/Medium-Stranger-9883 3h ago
speak for yourself, i'd love to cook with someone and learn with and off eachother.
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u/LazarusOwenhart 3h ago
Not a chance I'd cook with my wife. She's good at a lot of things but her chaos demon ADHD arse has to stay on the far side of the breakfast bar when I'm cooking.
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u/Physical-Compote4594 2h ago
When people ask me if they can help in the kitchen, I point them to the sink and say they can clean that stuff up. Or, I tell them, they can pour themselves a glass of wine and chat with me.
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u/Th0rny9r1ck 2h ago
I hear that. My wife throws me out every time offer to help her. She tells me “ The best help would be for you to get out of the kitchen and let me cook”.
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u/AlterWanabee 2h ago
This is only true if one person actually cooks, and the other prepares the ingredients. Having 2 people actually share the cooking station is hard.
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u/Small_Ad1890 1h ago
Agreed. The only person I tolerate in there with me is my kid when I’m teaching them how to cook.
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u/Zythen1975Z 1h ago
We have it pretty simple my S/O cooks and I get anything she needs for the meal ahead of time and clean up the dishes after dinner.
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u/_PetalHoney 1h ago
The title of te Reddit post hits the nail on the head. Get out of my workspace. Unless your designated role in this kitchen is strictly standing at the sink washing dishes or quietly pouring me a fresh glass of wine, your presence is legally classified as an active safety hazard.
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u/DebstarAU 1h ago
Too many cooks spoil the broth! Literally…💁♀️
[ it is annoying having other people around when you are cooking!…and cleaning]
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u/GreasedUPDoggo 1h ago
More of a younger Western view. It's very common for groups of family members to cook in many cultures.
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u/wolofoloto 58m ago
If my wifes cooking, i stay out of her way unless she specifically asks me to be her sous chef/lil helper. Of course i have clean up afterwards...but i prefer to clean the kitchen by myself anyways.
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u/Sparda204920 46m ago
My wife and I used to have a plan. I would cut all the veggies and meat then clean up the counter. She would then cook the food. It was a good balance for us.
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u/_PastelCharm 24m ago
"Cooking together" only functions smoothly if one individual is the undisputed, tyrannical head chef and the other person is a completely silent, deeply submissive sub-chef whose entire purpose is fetching ingredients on command.
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u/WankelsRevenge 21m ago
I love when my girl helps out in the kitchen. Sometimes she'll help with prep while I'm tending things on the stove
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u/Stampy77 14m ago
I remember cooking a massive roast for my girlfriend's family. Multiple dishes on the go at once, the kind of meal where you are constantly going back and forth around the kitchen watching multiple things at once. Already stressful.
My girlfriend brought in my 4 year old niece, said she wants to help, then just left her with me. It was awful. It was sweet she wanted to help but she was 4 and couldn't really do anything. So now I was trying to cook this meal for 9 people while watching a 4 year old around knifes and boiling pots. Made a stressful meal into an impossible one.
Felt like such a dick when I had to go and get someone to babysit her while I cooked, and then the kitchen was even more crowded. Please don't do this when someone is cooking unless they say you can before hand.
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u/hyliantelligent 8m ago
My wife and I cook together nearly every night. No one lords over the kitchen. We divide the duties and dinner is done in half the time.
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u/VomitShitSmoothie 7m ago
Nah, there is just one clearly assigned chef. It’s not so much a cooking together thing and more of a ‘I need you to chop this’ thing.
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u/Remarkable-Bowl-3821 5m ago
Yep. Maybe person two can stand in a nook or the next room chopping or grating but no one that close in the kitchen
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u/HilariousMax 2m ago
The entire idea behind running a kitchen is asking for things you need and they appear. No questions, no idiot bumping into you, no nothing other than plating and yelling service. You are an island and you have everything you need and you ask for it and its there.
Ideally you don't notice the other people.
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u/Bootmacher 7h ago
It's not intimate at all, unless you count how it turns my wife on when I do it.
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