r/French • u/MiloGoesToTheFatFarm • 16h ago
Visiting France and it’s a wake up call.
This trip has been a little bittersweet. I’m enjoying France; it’s beautiful, and the people are very kind so far.
I’ve been practicing my French for 4+ years, but not seriously. It comes in waves, where my comprehension is OK, but between my general anxiety about speaking and my gaps in knowledge, it’s real work to express myself and get my point across naturally. I can do it, but it’s work, so clearly I’m far from fluent.
My goal was really just to be able to use my French in small cases as needed, more as a sign of respect that, “Hey, I’m a visitor, and I’m in your home. I’m trying.”
I try not to personalize the instances where the conversation kicks out to English, but it really makes me second-guess myself. I reflect on it, and I’m like, “These people aren’t your French tutors; they’re just trying to work.” I’m not trying to pretend I’m French, and I’m not trying to say I think your English is worse than my French, I was just raised that Americans have gained a reputation for asking the world to bend to them and, whenever I travel I’m trying to show that I recognize I’m in your home.
All in all it’s been a good trip and I’ll keep working on my French though it’s just kind of like at this point I’m just doing it for my own edification.