r/AmIOverreacting • u/Ok_Doctor_2512 • 11h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for finally blocking the guy I’ve been dating on and off for almost 3 years
I 26F have been on and off with this guy 28M for almost 3 years. I really do love him but he’s just awful to me… spent 5 days with me, went home and suddenly got a text that’s in the first screenshot. I had no idea how to respond to it because these things have happened so many times in those three years. He gets pissed for some reason, tries to provoke me and absolutely wears me down with his words. I love him but I’m just so tired of the verbal beat-downs.
So I guess, AIO by blocking him?
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u/kallehmina 10h ago
NOR, this guy hates you 🙃 block and move on before he wasted anymore of your time
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u/bbratzie 8h ago
NTA
I don’t think he hates her, he clearly hates himself notice how he started off with the whole “seeing you this weekend really made me realize how I need to get in shape.” That’s how he really felt but when he didn’t get the response that he hoped for now she’s the one that needs to get in shape now it’s about her. Classic reflection.
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u/nellycat32 7h ago
Oh I read that as the first get in shape comment was already negging. Like "I saw you and realized I need to get in shape". He wanted her to ask why and he would have said she put on weight and he doesn't want to. Just based on his general shittyness
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u/chocolatethunderXO 1h ago
Yeah, he first says "I don't think we can be together" and follows it with him realizing he's out of shape. That was clearly a dig at op.
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u/Fluffy_Dziner 8h ago
It’s not necessarily either/or - but what matters is that he clearly hates her.
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u/eloccinrantulacurcoz 5h ago
I don't think it's necessarily OP that he hates....I think he hates HIMSELF and is projecting. Either one, is a whole master class in immaturity, that nobody needs. OP would definitely be better off without him.
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u/odonata_rising 4h ago
there's fundamentally no difference when the result is the same. if your self hate causes you to harm me you might as well hate me too as far as im concerned. either way im out
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u/kallehmina 8h ago
Yeah I see your perspective, I just think regardless of where his self-loathing and lack of self esteem come from, whether it’s internalised hatred of himself being projected onto her or not - his messages indicate that he hates her. You really only tell someone you wished they would die and go to hell if you have some sort of hatred for them, this is not a person OP should keep associating with
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u/_intothev0id 7h ago
It’s deff both lol if you hate yourself you can’t really love anyone else and people like that need someone to break down and feed off of. Hope she leaves him blocked cause that’ll really drive him crazy 😂 leave him where he had her fucked up at. He can go find a new victim (not that I’m wishing that onto anyone) lol
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u/Nursey_Nursey_33 6h ago
Probably his mother, some do a number on their sons! I know, I’m married to a Jekyll and Hyde. Please block him and never look back. Love yourself enough to know you deserve more. God says to forgive them and move on (in other words). God bless you! I know how it feels and I don’t love myself enough to leave… yet. Working on it.
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u/Chaoss_Mama 7h ago
What matters the losses that continuous with behavior on and off again for several years she said that she’s not interested in that anymore. He becomes an asshole. I’ve had a similar situation with a guy that literally wanted a one night stand, and I said no because of how he didn’t even jump in the conversation and immediately called me names. Never ok
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u/Southern-Bar9 6h ago
honestly once you hit that point where you’re tired enough to block, it’s already been bad for way too long. on and off for 3 years is emotional whiplash. blocking is just self respect at this point, he can go be inconsistent with someone else
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u/letmehelp67 4h ago
three years of on and off is enough proof he’s not serious, blocking was overdue tbh
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u/Snoo_85901 8h ago
He don't hate her, he hates himself. As he should. Nobody deserves to be treated like that.
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u/crispyfalafels 9h ago
Could you help us understand what is there left to love about him when you're so clearly aware of his abuse towards you?
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u/Pristine_Outcome3535 8h ago
Anyone who uses "fat" as an insult in 2026 is bananas lol
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u/matte_personality 4h ago
I’m a bigger girl and the men who are into me simply have never told me to lose weight. One time my ex saw me after a few months and I had lost a lot of weight and he was heartbroken because “I liked you bigger.” 😭😭😭
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u/nerdycarguy18 9h ago
For real, if somebody looks at me sideways more than once with an apology we aren’t even friends anymore, let alone somebody I would spend my life with for any amount of time. I do not understand putting up with even an ounce of BS
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u/TreeFrogMomma 6h ago
Trauma bonding. My husband hasn't called me fat. But he's said some awful things to me. He's done some awful things. I'm exhausting myself every day focusing on that and making myself angry to keep myself from remembering the "good."
Because so many people say "ok, but at least he..." Or "oh, wow, he did this for you? Is he really bad, or are you ungrateful?"
Right now we're in a honeymoon phase. If I left right now he can argue "see! I did everything she asked! I changed for her and it wasn't enough!"
Packing your son's lunch isn't change. Me having to ask you to spend time with him isn't change. That's your responsibility to begin with.
Guys like him and her ex are really good at finding our vulnerabilities and playing off them. Go watch Lisa Sonni on YouTube. She does an amazing job explaining it. Or healing by the numbers.
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u/0j0sDePerroAzul 3h ago
There is a great YouTube channel about this. Healingbythenumbers. Please, explore and see if anything there resonates with you.
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u/thereforeratio 9h ago
You need to recognize you don’t love him, you just love. He is occupying the space of someone else that you could love who is actually worthy of it
You’re under-reacting, and what bothers me almost more than his abuse is that you are honoring this demon in such a way. Not because he isn’t the problem, but because until you stop repeating that, no one can help you
Time to wake up from the daze and take your life back
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u/Itsmepost 8h ago
Amen. I pray she reads both of our comments. She will conquer and overcome this. I have all the faith in her.
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u/PineconeMA_165 1h ago
I love this take! I was there, and now love someone who truly loves me back. It’s the best!
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u/Realistic-Cheek-8657 9h ago
You love him? 🥴 NOR btw but crazy that you felt the need to ask
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u/Funny_Cow6871 9h ago
He probably has manipulated her a bunch so she’s second guessing herself :/
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u/Momoomommy 8h ago
Or she's in love with the idea of what could be with him and isn't really seeing the reality of what's happening. She could be clinging to the idea that this can all be fixed.
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u/markersandtea 9h ago
super curious how you would use your cats against him?? lmao nor
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u/OliveFarming 9h ago
I am hoping she uses verbal commands to initiate a scratchy assault
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u/makestuff24-7 8h ago
I'm hoping she's been training them for three years to pee on his things and attack him while he sleeps. But he probably just means that they exist and she pays attention to them instead of him sometimes.
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u/AGirlNeverRemembered 31m ago
I now realize I haven't been using my cats to their full paw-tential, off to train!!
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 9h ago
I couldn't get past that, honestly. I was just thinking, "Uses her cats against him? That sounds fucking awesome." 😆
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u/SuperKitties83 8h ago
The idea that this worthless dude thinks he's more important than her cats...or any cats for that matter...is laughable. 😂
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u/markersandtea 8h ago
Right? I'll take the cats over this dude any day.
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u/Due-Sleep-5019 1h ago
I’d take mean cats that piss all over the floor over this guy. Cat piss is much more tolerable than him.
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u/OkJan613 5h ago
I had an ex like that. It wasn't a cat but other animals which I told him flat out when we started dating the animals came before him. Not too long before I ended things he said to me "you act like your animals mean more than I do" and I looked him dead in the eyes and said its because they do. For context, one of my animals was dying from cancer and he wanted me to come over just to watch him sleep or play games and then whine and bitch at me the whole time about something "I did" so why the hell would I sacrifice limited time for that 🤦
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u/MoonageDayscream 9h ago
I bet he wants her to go to his so she will clean it, but she says she needs to take care of her cats.
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u/Tavsiyedegildir 9h ago
"go take care your cats" is like his idea of an insult or something. Wait
"Y don't u jus go take care uv ur cats rn smh"
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u/DecadentLife 3h ago
Is that a thing, now? I haven’t dated in over 20 years, I’m out of the loop. Do men actually invite women over, in an attempt to get them to clean their apartment for them?
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u/Velvet-Challenge 3h ago
oh 100%. you come over and they do the whole “sorry it’s a bit of mess” when it’s an absolute wreck and you have to move things just to sit down which results in you cleaning it to feel semi comfortable.
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u/Velvet-Challenge 3h ago
also they might invite you for a specific thing, like “oh come over and we can cook dinner together” but every dish is dirty and piled up so you have to wash them before you cook.
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u/Ill-Wolf865 9h ago
NOR NOR NOR NOR. How can you love someone who talks to you like this???
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u/Inevitable-Jicama366 9h ago
The weight comment, then the pets , and becoming angry so fast . He’s gone .
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u/Tavsiyedegildir 9h ago
What kills me is he abbreviates right now to "rn" but then makes fun of your use of okie dokie.
That really got me.
For the record that guy is abusive, rude, and doesn't love you. He is lashing out at you for whatever reason, but that reason is not love.
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u/campermortey 9h ago
And lots of “u”. Pretty childish
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u/Tavsiyedegildir 9h ago
"Wot r u doin rn u r so immature bro" "Y did I even think you could b the 1 smh"
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u/Equivalent-Dance 9h ago
NOR. He intended his comment to insult you and expected you to get upset and say you would change yourself. When you reacted with no negative response and held him to the flames he showed who he really is. Take all those red flags and make yourself a dress for the next date you go on.
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u/Leading_Hand3055 9h ago
NOR. This reaction is long overdue. BTW, Equivalent-Dance, I love that part about the red flags and the dress! Iight have to borrow that someday! (I have 3 daughters, will probably have occasion to need it eventually.)
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u/outlaw0366 9h ago
As a guy myself I don’t know how you dealt with him for as long as you did but stay far away from him
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u/MovieTrawler 1h ago
As another guy, I want to punch him for OP. Who talks to anyone like this? Especially when it's your girlfriend and entirely unprovoked. He sounds like an unhinged toddler.
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u/retnicole 9h ago
...NOR.
I'm confused about why you're asking. On no planet would blocking him be considered overreacting. Based on his behavior toward you in this conversation, he's an absolute asshole.
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u/Alohafarms 9h ago
"I really do love him but he’s just awful to me"
It is a problem that you have to ask us if you made the right decision in breaking up with someone that treats you like this. He spoke to you so violently. It doesn't matter that you love him, he is horrible. This is codependence, not love. Do you know where 'verbal breakdowns" lead? To punches, to slaps, to isolation from your family.
Keep him blocked and keep of record of any contact from now on.
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u/hattyhat24 9h ago
How can you love someone that talks to you like that? He certainly doesn’t love you, because you’d never say the things he said to someone you cared about.
Says you use your cats against him!? This dude’s insecure about some damn cats? You need to never unblock this psycho. NOR
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u/Accurate_Ad385 9h ago
Ummm clearly NOR. Don’t ever talk to him again. This behavior leads to physical abuse
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u/Sorry_Variation_979 9h ago
NOR
‘I wish u’d die and go to hell’…’I really do love him’.
I’m so sorry that life has brought you to this point. I hope you can love yourself more in the future.
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u/brown_azn_kid 7h ago
Yea looking back that was wild. Like It’s not enough for her to die but he wants her to suffer afterwards too is too much. Wishing death in general isnt good but again, humans are emotional we gotta remember.
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u/youresuspect 9h ago
NOR and blocking is correct. Do NOT spend another minute on this abusive loser.
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u/Wonderful_Spinach598 9h ago
NOR I think you are under reacting personally. This man is verbally abusive and cruel and literally wished for your death. You can do much better and I hope you never engage with someone who speaks to you like this again.
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u/Girluna80 9h ago
Love yourself instead of him , because the way he is talking to you he doesn’t care about you. NOR but let this loser go .
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u/RobotDoodle 8h ago
GIRL. NOR. Keep him blocked and go to therapy because you need to have MUUCCHHH higher standards for yourself, love.
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u/Internet-Hot 9h ago
Yeah so after I dated a covert narcissist I realized those whole “I don’t think I could be with you” type comments/conversations were indeed narcissistic discards! It’s discarding behavior from a narcissist. He’d always make me feel bad for being “defensive” and going “mhm, you do that then”, but when I’d reply it back in my head I realized he’s the one that always started it. This guy is a narcissist: discarding, panicking and getting angry because you seem okay with the discard and that threatens his ego, lashing out and calling names, repeat. It’s a classic darvo move. Darvo=deny, accuse, reverse victim & offender.
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u/Staypuft39 9h ago
I dunno girl, I'd hang on to him. Charming, well-educated, respectful. Gonna be women all over him if you break up. Especially if he gets in shape.
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u/BatmanMatt 9h ago
OP just doesn’t get that this is how people who love each other talk each other! It’s normal to wish your partner.. dies… and goes to hell… Jesus Christ OP, go to therapy to unpack everything you know about love from the ground up
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u/Stoneybaby0727 9h ago
I just went through this 3 years of my life wasted so I could love someone that abuses in every single way. I wish you the best. I blocked mine but he keeps finding ways to abuse me. I’m tired.
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u/Inevitable-Jicama366 9h ago
I’m so sorry , I know your fatigue . I moved cities away , he still America but finally quit . I’m hoping there are some resources to help you ?
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u/Sure-Ring-3203 9h ago
“Use ur cats against me” is WILD🤣🤣🤣 I would be like yeah that’s it, my cats are conspiring against you and plotting your demise, you got me. 🤣 anyways NOR-that guys an ass, please don’t waste any more time here.
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u/bedheadblonde 9h ago
what exactly do you love about him?? this man is vile. Block him and never entertain him again.
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u/Illustrious-Ranger30 8h ago
Babe, I was stuck in the same exact bad cycle. I was stuck in a bad, one sided relationship for 10+ years after i was widowed. It's not going to get better. Why? Because they don't care about us or our feelings or they wouldn't act the way they do. I got tired of being broken hearted every few days so I ended up not letting the ex come back and scored a really good guy that I met at work. Ive been with this new guy for 6 months now and I couldn't be happier. My ex has repeatedly tried contacting because he's not used to this. To me being done. Good luck and best wishes
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u/No_Platypus4073 9h ago
Oh yeah girl you’re def overreacting to the man that said “u crazy fuckin bitch I wish u’d die and go to hell” after calling you fat, so fat it make him feel the need to get in shape. I’m sure he loves you.
Come tf on. NOR
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u/Tough_Air_1466 9h ago
NOR. Great decision. Well done. Truly. I bet you feel lighter and happier already. Take some time for you... friends.... have fun and enjoy yourself. And when you decide to get back into dating, if you do, you know what to def stay away from. Someone who believes in you and praises you and doesn't demean and speaks horribly to you.
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u/gambitgrl 9h ago
NOR. His wittle ego is bruised by your breezy okie doke agreement you two should stop seeing each other. He wanted you to beg, apologize, promise to change for him. Your show of indifference hit him in a tender spot, apparently.
Also, why on earth would you want to remain in any sort of contact with someone you curses at you and calls you names. I am 52 and never once in my very long dating life has a man ever cursed at me and called me fat or a bitch (even though i am fat).
What is there to love about a man who is so mean to you and dislikes you? Do you want to go through this for another 3 years, 30 years? Why, do you want to be unhappy? He's not happy, you're not happy, what is there to cling to? Girl, there are infinitely better men out there.
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u/sheepsclothingiswool 9h ago
Men who talk like him physically abuse women, be very careful. Don’t just block him, make sure you never see him again.
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u/Vivid_Literature3414 8h ago
He’s an abusive asshole NOR, as soon as you didn’t act how he wanted he lashed out abusively. Girl block that ass. He’s trash
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u/PresentFirm7937 8h ago
Can you tell us, and be specific here… WHAT exactly is it that makes you love this specimen?
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u/No-BSing-Here 7h ago
Wtf? You love him, but he treats you awful? To say those vile things to their gf is vile. Dump him and find someone who won't be treating you awfully. NOT
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u/Duck-sauce420 6h ago
Block him ASAP and if he bugs you again, get a restraining order lol he’s clearly not right in his mind lol 😆
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u/missybatch 6h ago
NOR P L E A S E leave him blocked. When your brain decides to remember the "good times" and you start asking yourself if you should unblock him or reach out, remember my comment answering that for you: absolutely never! If you do unblock him, and decide to take another round of disrespect, my advice The best response is no response. Blocking him will make him say terrible things because he's so used to being able to break you down with his words and he knows exactly which ones to say. My experience 😏 unbothered is the most effective response. 🙅🏻♀️ When he sends a wall of text, respond "I'm not reading any of that" and then literally don't acknowledge him at all. There's more .. you can send me a message if you want I just don't want you to end up with an essay of a comment. Put the ball back in your court. It clearly shows he doesn't affect you anymore. When he sends a wall of text, actually don't read them. He's going to reach a new low
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u/Probably_Unpopular_ 5h ago
With the way he speaks to you over text I'm shocked you didn't say he was physically abusive. He's DEFINITELY mentally and verbally abusive. What in the world was attractive at all about a person like this? You text okie dokie and he lost his shit RIGHT then.
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u/SirGavBelcher 5h ago
please develop self compassion. NOR. it always breaks my heart to see stuff like this or when boyfriends/partners are physically/mentally abusive and people are like "is it my fault?" no. please stop in any way thinking people talking to you in that way is normal and let's get used to expecting better for ourselves
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u/MrsJingles0729 8m ago
Get some help my friend. Something is wrong that you would allow yourself to be treated like this.
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u/THENOCAPGENIE 9h ago
Anyone who calls their chick fat deserves a block and never talk to them again that is cruel and rude block him he doesn’t give a fuck about you bro. YOR. Leave the guy who keeps treating you like shit and taking to you like a piece of trash.
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u/Rurikar1016 9h ago
Sweetie, he’s using you as a doormat. You’re there for him to use and abuse. He’s probably talking to other people, gets rejected, comes back to you to feel some type of control. Block and move on. You deserve better than him. He’ll try to come back once he realizes no one else will put up with him. Be strong.
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u/ShreddersWheat 9h ago
He’s using you for sex and company but he despises you for it, so he wants to make sure you know he can do better than you.
He’s an insecure loser. Get rid.
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u/actuallylucid 7h ago
Anybody who calls me a fat fucking bitch AND tells me they wish i would die and go to hell, is never gaining access to me again.
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u/Charming-Cockroach47 7h ago
If anything you're under reacting. I'd send those texts to his mom and blow up his spot with any women he was possibly interested in, like look at this a-hole.
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u/Ok-Tadpole-9859 7h ago
The verbal beat downs are to lower your self-esteem so much that you come back to him. It’s a common manipulation tactic used by insecure people. It’s abusive, so I’d say NOR and you’d be happier if you left him.
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u/Lucky-Corner1170 6h ago
He literally told you he wishes you'd die. Just based off that alone, there shouldn't even be a question.
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u/TinyToes420 5h ago
Umm... he literally wished you dead. He wants you to be dead. I don't understand why you're questioning blocking him. I don't understand why you love him. He absolutely hates you.
In fact, I'd be real careful and be ready to defend myself in case he decides to make his wish come true.
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u/NecessaryPut3949 5h ago
"I love him"
- looks inside
- death threats
"Am i overreacting?"
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u/Icy-Scholar-5193 5h ago
Im shocked you need to get on reddit to ask....its clear this man hates you bruh
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u/WasACookqua 5h ago
How did you use the cats against him? Have you trained them to be your minions of darkness?
He sounds exhausting.
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u/_llloser 1h ago
If you love someone that treats you that way.. I need you to learn to love yourself dude. You deserve to love yourself and there’s no time like the present. Never talk to them again or anyone who talks to you this way. Maybe take some time and be alone for awhile.
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u/muddymar 1h ago
That last text from him is the last text you should ever see from him. Find someone that values and respects you. He does not. It’s obvious from the okie dokie that you have seen this behavior many times in the past and aren’t playing anymore. He won’t change. Don’t waste anymore time with this guy.
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u/TropicalDragon78 1h ago
Anything good (which I doubt there's really much good about him) about this guy is offset by those vile comments he made about you. Good for you for blocking him. Never look back.
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u/Dizzy_Effect4944 1h ago
NEVER unblock again, HE is everything wrong with this world. Hope your cats beat his ass!
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u/Apprehensive_Suit773 1h ago
NOR. He goes back to you because you let him, and he treats you this way for almost 3 years because you let him. Blocking him was the only correct thing to do.
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u/Electrical_Ad_9778 10m ago
Goor ridence. Expect more rage baiting messages if you do not block him.
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u/Praire_Devil 10m ago
Girl, please tell me you’re only asking if you’re over reacting as a hypothetical question….please tell me you KNOW that you’re doing yourself the best favor ever by dropping 200lbs in an instant by blocking him everywhere
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u/deluluenfpgirl 10h ago
NOR.
This guy is the perfect example of how d**leads responds to rejection. When you stopped letting him get in to your nerves, the will start using Ad hominem against you. Which is unhinged
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u/meatwadpen 9h ago
Help, I can't figure out the censored word AITA
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u/Prestigious_Layer754 8h ago
I didn’t consider the L was a typo either lmao. I’ve been running through words in my head like “dicklead” “ducklead” “docklead”
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u/ZeusUpYourAss 9h ago
NOR. At all. You need to never let a man talk to you like this. Also, I'm curious about how you use your "fat and cat" against him lol 😭. I'm imagining using cats as guns
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u/SuperKitties83 7h ago
Obviously you're 100% right, but this gif is disturbing, poor cat.
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u/Pleasant-Ad4784 9h ago
C’mon…you know you aren’t overreacting by blocking him. This guy is a piece of shit and there is zero reason you should feel any love for him. He literally said he wishes you would die. Please, please move on from this abusive d*ckhead and do not look back.
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u/randomname12475 9h ago
Yeah no leave him or stop talking to him at all. He genuinely does not give a crap about you if thats how he responds. Hes just upset that your finally waking up and hes loosing you and your not dealing with his shit anymore
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u/queenafrodite 9h ago
Soooooo what do you love about a person that treats you like shit !!??!!! I’m curious. There’s nothing worth loving from a guy who talks to you like this.
Keep him blocked. NOR. And don’t ever again tolerate this shit.
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u/natkat01 9h ago
The real question here is “use your cats against me”. Like what lol. This dude sucks and doesn’t give a fuck about you. Please move on from this douche.
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u/onelove_ 9h ago
Girl we think you know the answer. Loving yourself means not tolerating this kind of abuse.
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u/SherrKhan32 9h ago
He's awful. Genuinely. Please don't ever take him back. And please be safe. He sounds a bit violent.
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u/Bro13847 9h ago
He seems toxic af. Good for you for cutting that cord. I would go ahead and burn the bridges too.
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u/Dreamsenshi 9h ago
NOR. On top of everything else, he brings the cats into it? =>_>=
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u/Crazy-Employer-8394 8h ago
The fact someone puts up with that even once is mind boggling, never mind 3 years
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u/Prior-Tip-9713 8h ago
What a treat he is! I hope you keep him blocked and away from you. You deserve so much better.
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u/Extension-Flight8040 8h ago
Get away ASAP from this asshole. He deserves to be blocked and exposed.
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u/yes-its-a-fking-scam 8h ago
NOR. Block him, inform your friends & family to avoid him, change your locks, don’t let your cats out. Looks to me he hates you and will probably try to hurt you now that you’re done with his shit.
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u/PartyTangerinelolz 8h ago
“Tries to provoke you” “wears you down with words” “verbal beat-downs” this is called abuse. NOR. You deserve better. Let this loser go.
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u/Bodod_Begag 8h ago
"I wish you'd die and go to hell"
Idk guys was blocking too much???
In all seriousness I know it's hard to see from the inside but to the rest of us you made the right choice. Hope it'll be clear as day to you soon too, you don't deserve to be spoken to like that.
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u/justfullysendit 8h ago
No. You’re not overreacting to block the guy that says he wishes you’d die.
If you were in a better headspace, he’d be an excellent candidate to ragebait. But you’d just end up back with him rather than using him for the simpleton entertainment that he is. Not a knock against you at all, just an acknowledgment that you’ve internalized how he’s spoken to you for the last three years to the point where you’re asking strangers if it would be an overreaction to cut off contact with someone who got so mad when you didn’t give him the upset reaction he wanted after telling you he thought you were too fat to date that he doubled down and wished death upon you.
He thought he was rejecting you and then felt rejected by you and lashed out. You did nothing wrong. You just exist.
He’s unhinged and disgusting. Quite literally the fat broken angry leftovers that no one wants and it eats him up. He’s so idiotic that he simultaneously tries to tear you down as nothing while also proclaiming you’re everything that’s wrong with the entire country! WOW. You must be busy.
He triggered himself. When you begin to flip the script and see how stupid they are, it becomes easier to walk away.
Why do you love someone that treats you so openly this way? There doesn’t seem to be anything redeemable about him and, according to him at least, your cats would seem inclined to agree - honestly the only metric I need, if my pet doesn’t like you you’re done dude.
So. Do you love him or do you just not love yourself?
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u/_antfarmer_ 8h ago
NOR! He is human garbage talking to you like that. You deserve better, so draw on your self respect and block him everywhere. This is abusive. If you don’t believe all of us who are telling you that you’re better off without him, please seek counseling and work on yourself.
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u/Cutty_Darke 8h ago
You're underreacting. A proportional reaction would be to set fire to everything he's ever given you or left at your place and then pay an Etsy witch to curse him.
If he tries to evade the block and get back in contact (particularly if he tries to play the "crazy bitch blocked me for no reason" card) then tell him that you were doing him a favour by removing yourself from his life, since he finds dealing with you such an unpleasant experience.
But just to be clear, he is 100% in the wrong. He's a coward who doesn't want to admit that you're out of his league. He's trying to destroy your self esteem so you'll let him access you and your body without making a commitment. You need to rebuild that self esteem, maybe get some therapy if you can afford it, and then find someone who's actually worthy of you.
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u/IttyBittyBigBoii 7h ago
... What part of you is confused about cutting this prick off?
NOR btw, ig.
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u/Chaoss_Mama 7h ago
Pro tip: If anyone ever tells you that they think you should die, leave. Cut contact. NOR
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u/Biggerandbetter10 7h ago edited 6h ago
NOR and idk how it isn’t clear. He’s a piece of shit loser who hates himself and takes it out on you. The murder suicide type of dude. For your own safety you should have blocked him and for you own mental well being how could you ever love someone like this?
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u/Beebeemp 7h ago
"On and off" tells me all I need to know. You're not wrong for deciding you're done.
Dude said he wished you would die.
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u/RecordingOk4947 7h ago
Please don’t ever, ever, ever talk to this man again. He is VILE and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER.
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u/oratoriosilver 7h ago
I mean this kindly, but I suggest that you have some therapy before any future relationships, and I’d also really encourage you to do some work for victims of domestic abuse, so that you can understand more about the reasons you feel love for someone as obviously appalling and abusive as this.
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u/Fair_Shelter_5763 10h ago
That dude is nuts