Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective on a frustrating situation at my job.
For context, Iâm I've been working since I was 19.
I'm in some corporate company in Yangon, working in S&M field.
I just try to take my job seriously, stay professional, and focus on hitting my targets every month.
Recently, one of the managers, who is also a woman, pulled me aside and gave me some feedback that honestly shocked me.
She told me Iâm not being "flexible" enough because I don't personally mingle, joke around, or be informal with the guys on the team. Basically, sheâs pressuring me to cross my own boundaries just to "fit in" and make things run smoothly.
To make it worse, thereâs another woman in my same team who joined the company at around the same time I did.
Everyone treats her like she's untouchable because she has more past experience and connections, and people see her as someone who knows how to navigate things.
But the reality is sheâs constantly being way too physical and informal with male coworkers, managers, and even the CEO. Because she has that "experienced" and "older" and "matured" background, upper management and HR completely coddle her and think this behavior is totally fine.
In my personal opinion I don't think the way she's behaving, talking and even working is "mature."
Meanwhile, because I choose to keep my work life professional, I get zero support from leadership despite doing my job well and hitting my targets.
Instead, theyâre using my professionalism against me, calling it a lack of flexibility just because I won't act like her.
This whole culture feels so toxic and I'm feeling really stuck. I want to know how I can firmly tell my manager to back off about my personal boundaries without hurting my position here.
I'm also wondering if anyone else has dealt with a place where crossing boundaries is rewarded as "good networking" while actual hard work gets ignored, and whether it's even worth fighting this or if I should just update my resume and look for a new job immediately.
Would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks.